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Rockwell -> RE: does EVERYTHING have to be about hardcore sex? (8/15/2007 11:18:40 PM)
SexSExSExSEXSEXSEXSExSEXSEx and more sex if she lets me

theq -> RE: does EVERYTHING have to be about hardcore sex? (8/17/2007 3:18:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sweetNsmartBBW "but personally, i am looking to be intellectually, emotionally, & mentally dominated as well....not just sexually dominated. am i the only one??" No, you are not the only one. I feel the same way. Not a Dominant Male....but have run across many here like the one's You described. Very interested to see what sort of responses this gets. Ditto, the girl I am in the beginning phases of a relationship seeks more than just sexual Dominance. My goal is to Dominate a girl's body, mind, and heart. Each of these involve a deepening level of intimacy and trust...and often come at different times. Dominanting one's body is one thing...but Dominanting their mind and heart....is much different...I have found much deeper, much more intimate. Q

solia -> RE: does EVERYTHING have to be about hardcore sex? (8/17/2007 3:34:36 PM)
No, it doesn't have to be all about hardcore sex. Just like not every male or female submissive is bisexual no matter how much the 'mistress or master' may want him or her to be. Not all are into pee either just as not all are into the entire list of the vast and numerous activities in this field. Or, here's another way of saying it: not everyone has the exact same list of fetishes. Realize that there alot of wanks online just looking for a quickie and drop kick them into oblivion. There are also a lot of predators. Feel absolutely free in setting your limits and sticking to them. Being submissive does not mean that you have to be nice to idiots. Follow your instincts on line just as you would off line in relationships. You obviously are intelligent and a critical thinker ~ don't lose either of those valuable skills!

solia -> RE: does EVERYTHING have to be about hardcore sex? (8/17/2007 3:37:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: julietsierra And like one great inventor said (Henry Ford? Thomas Edison? I don't recall which), upon being asked if he got frustrated over the thousands of failures," I haven't failed thousands of times, I've found thousands of ways this won't work." (obviously paraphrased, but the intent is the same) juliet So funny! I just had this question on a test this week. It's Edison by the way.[image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m16.gif[/image]

defiantbadgirl -> RE: does EVERYTHING have to be about hardcore sex? (8/17/2007 4:39:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Faramir Men, in my experience, reach emotional intimacy through physical intimacy. Maybe in very rare cases. I've found that to most men, emotional intimacy is entirely separate from sexual intimacy. Women are far more likely to become emotionally attached from sex than men are. Also, for some sadists and doms, the physical activities that you are putting down as "just sexual" may in fact be symbolic of emotinal and intellectual intercourse. Only if those feelings existed beforehand. Otherwise, sex is no more than a physical act. Sex does not increase the feelings a man has for a woman. No doubt there are also plenty of men who are not looking for that sort of intimacy, and want the physical connection without the emotional connection, in a dehumanizing, using, Ech und Es way. Now this is more the norm. Perhaps the art is in distinguishing. I'm not saying every man is this way. Obviously there will always be those rare exceptions. But to say that men become emotionally involved through sex will set up alot of women to be used in a bad rather than a good way.

vantage38t -> RE: does EVERYTHING have to be about hardcore sex? (8/17/2007 4:48:56 PM)
[:D]ten hours of for play are much better than one hour of sex and a day with the antisipation of all that forplay ..............

WhipSwitch -> RE: does EVERYTHING have to be about hardcore sex? (8/17/2007 7:19:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: biracalsub4wmDom hello. i am curious about some of the dominants thoughts on this. does everything have to be about hardcore sex?? ok, i'm new. i've only been on CM for a few weeks now. but in that time i have chatted with several dominant men. and one thing that i am noticing is that EVERYTHING out of their mouths is about sadistic, hardcore sex. now, i realize that this is a BDSM website, and yes, that is considered a sex website. so many of you are probably sitting there thinking... "if this girl doesn't want to talk about sex, why the heck is she here?" i get that. lol. but i was under the impression that this whole lifestyle was about more than just weather or not your pu$$y is shaved; if it's ok for me to pee on you; or if you like to take it up the butt. am i wrong? now, i like sex JUST as much as the next person. but personally, i am looking to be intellectually, emotionally, & mentally dominated as well....not just sexually dominated. am i the only one?? are there any dominant men out there who are interested in more than just kinky sex talk & an easy fuck? or am i barking up the wrong tree. any advice for a newbie?? I've not read any replies to this yet, but I can tell you that this Dominant never leads off with such a vulgar approach. I know that I would not respond well to such talk from someone I don't know. I don't really know how prevalent this is for women, and as a man who is also rather new here I don't get much email. So far, none of my recent "scenes" involved sex. I've done my share of making my sub squirm with careful application of rope, but no sex. It's about the control and rope play for me. I also look for ways of getting my partner into subspace. Of course, my first email is very "mundane", and I don't usually get replies, so I do sometimes wonder if I should get more spicy on first contact. I just haven't figured out a way to do that without being presumptuous or downright scary.

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