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ORIGINAL: Padriag

I think physical appearance can be very important, especially for first impressions, as well as physical attraction.  So as a dominnt I make a point of being well groomed, dressing appropriately, and using both as a means of expressing my personality and style.  I keep healthy and fit as well.  Likewise I keep the appearance of my environment, whether it be a motel room, my home, etc. clean and neat as well.  While its true you can't please everyone, and my appearance might not appeal to every submissive, to those it does appeal to I want it to appeal as much as possible.

But then you weren't asking about the importance of the dominants physical appearance were you?  What you wanted to know was how do I, as a dominant, feel about the submissive's physical appearance.  That's easy, take all the things I expect of myself above, and apply them to the submissive.

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ORIGINAL: biracalsub4wmDom

hello.  yes, i have yet another question for all of the Wise Doms here.  :)

when seeking out a sub/slave, how important to you is physical apearence?  i consider myself a very attractive person.  but, admittingly, somewhat overweight.  but i am seeing that weight, race, whatever doesn't seem to matter as much in this lifestyle as it does in the vanilla world.  is this just my imagination? 
i am just curious as to how much physical apearence plays into your decision. 

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ORIGINAL: Cyntilating

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ORIGINAL: biracalsub4wmDom

hello.  yes, i have yet another question for all of the Wise Doms here.  :)

when seeking out a sub/slave, how important to you is physical apearence?  i consider myself a very attractive person.  but, admittingly, somewhat overweight.  but i am seeing that weight, race, whatever doesn't seem to matter as much in this lifestyle as it does in the vanilla world.  is this just my imagination? 
i am just curious as to how much physical apearence plays into your decision. 

Biracal
I am not a wise dom, but I certainly had one for 10 years.  If you ask him what was his initial attraction to me, he would tell you(because he has told me ) that it was 1st>the way I carried & expressed myself with confidence, 2nd that he could tell I worked from a place of strength and courage in my life not from weakness and whining about what wasn't right or was disparaging  and that my inner beauty made me glow on the outside when I walked into Barnes and Noble to meet him for the first time......well and then Im sure he would add something about "da boobage"...gigglin..
 
my point is, as was one you also made, we all have perferences and define " what attraction is and what is attractive to us" differently...
I think as individuals we attract the same energy we send out ...If I send out signals that I do not like myself, making apologies for the way I apprear to others, make more of an effort to highlight my weaknesses than I put forth in embracing what is great about me> than what choice would the other person have but to "see" those same thing about me?
 
I am not everyones cup of tea > and you seem to feel the same way about yourself..
but, isn't that ok?
I, personally, would rather they be upfront with me, so I can have an honest idea of "their" priorities ( because if you listen real careful to what a person says is important to them, you can really tell alot about that their general character and personality...IMO )  : )
 and that could also tell me whether THEY are going to be attractive to me in that way...
it is a 2 way street, afterall..
 
Some people look up into the sky to see if its sunny with clouds or without clouds..period.
Others look up and see the shape and depths of the clouds...can see little bunny shapes in them sometimes...appreciate an overcast day as well as the sunny ones for the possibilities both hold...and can  love a sunshower ! woohoo..love to walk in the rain..
 
I do not particularily find someone who is only superficial attractive ..and they probably wouldn't find me attractive. There will be those that focus on the fact that>> I am 49...I have things that sag that use to point..I use pillows for my knees when I kneel now....I not only have leftover babyweight I have grandbaby weight...kidding, but you get my point..
But there are also those, like my Master was, that see the bunny shapes and can embrace the sunshowers of life along with me...

I am what I am
you are who you are : )
and there is someone ( maybe even groups!) who will see your light : ) if you shine it for them ...
 
 

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ORIGINAL: loverly

lolol Grandbaby weight! thats it!! thanks cyndi! thts the cutest thing i have heard! can i use that please?? lol

of course you can !  ....

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ORIGINAL: Cyntilating

Padriag
what a wonderfully refreshing, and admirable, response to a question that replays over and over here and generally creates flames and insults..not to mention, misunderstandings.
 
You have your preference ( as we all do) but you are not requiring anything of someone else you are not willing to require of yourself....