Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

What happened?


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> What happened? Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
What happened? - 8/8/2007 5:45:29 PM   
goodgirl85


Posts: 221
Joined: 4/16/2007
Status: offline 		I started coming here more often then the other forums I have been on, because people seemed more open minded of different views and whatnot. It was like that for a little bit, and not only with my posts, but with others as well (and not just newbie posts) People seem to be becoming less tolerant and less openminded. I just laugh it off and go on to next post.

I find it ironic that in a lifestyle that is not fully accepted by society we would be more tolerant of everyone's view and way more openminded about trying new things and listening to peoples views that differ from ours.
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: What happened? - 8/8/2007 5:47:18 PM   
kyraofMists


Posts: 3292
Joined: 7/29/2005
Status: offline 		Nothing has happened and nothing has changed.  Most likely it is just your perception that has altered.

Expecting people here to be any different that the rest of society will set you up for disappointment.

Knight's Kyra

_____________________________

"Passion... it lies in all of us. Sleeping, waiting, and though unbidden, it will stir, open its jaws, and howl. It speaks to us, guides us... passion rules us all. And we obey..." ~Angelus

(in reply to goodgirl85)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: What happened? - 8/8/2007 5:49:13 PM   
windchymes


Posts: 9410
Joined: 4/18/2005
Status: offline 		We're in the summer doldrums, and we're hot, sticky and cranky. 

_____________________________

You know it's going to be a GOOD blow job when she puts a Breathe Right strip on first.

Pick-up artists and garbage men should trade names.

(in reply to kyraofMists)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: What happened? - 8/8/2007 5:50:18 PM   
goodgirl85


Posts: 221
Joined: 4/16/2007
Status: offline 		thats what I thought... lol...

(in reply to windchymes)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: What happened? - 8/8/2007 5:57:14 PM   
Phin


Posts: 1802
Joined: 2/26/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: goodgirl85

I find it ironic that in a lifestyle that is not fully accepted by society we would be more tolerant of everyone's view and way more openminded about trying new things and listening to peoples views that differ from ours.

I thought the same thing, I posted my thoughts on it in a thread on Ask a Switch, it rolled on for 3 pages, that is unless it gets Necroposted like forum folks love to do for some reason...

_____________________________

"Isn't wonderful when our bruises show what we hide in the back of our heads?"Fayetteville band, Nephilym

"He is my angel, my devil, my naughty boy, but above anything else my Master"My girl sin

(in reply to goodgirl85)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: What happened? - 8/8/2007 6:02:31 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


Posts: 19224
Joined: 10/25/2005
Status: offline 		It's very common- I had the wrong expectations as well.  But better you learn the reality early- hope for the best, expect the worst, be surprised when you get better.



_____________________________

Find stable partners, not a stable of partners.

"Sometimes my whore logic gets all fuzzy"- Californication

(in reply to Phin)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: What happened? - 8/8/2007 6:05:40 PM   
CreativeDominant


Posts: 11032
Joined: 3/11/2006
Status: offline 		I like windchyme's answer. 

Seriously though...people are different.  As kyra noted, the fact that we all on here share an interest in either D/s or BDSM or both...things not openly accepted by society...does not mean that within "our" group that we are all going to agree with things that are said. 

My definition of what submission is means something to me and may mean nothing to 95 out of 100 submissives or dominants reading it.  4 of the rest might think I am full of it...and 1 might agree.  The same with any other topic.  Which is why a lot of times you will see disclaimers...as noted in a special thread about disclaimers...proclaiming MOO, YMMV, or "refers to my situation and my thoughts only", etc..

And let's face it...the way that some posts or threads are stated, the poster is almost setting themselves up for a knock by being pretentious or attempting to flame certain folks/ideas right from the start.

(in reply to goodgirl85)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: What happened? - 8/8/2007 6:16:31 PM   
goodgirl85


Posts: 221
Joined: 4/16/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

I like windchyme's answer. 

Seriously though...people are different.  As kyra noted, the fact that we all on here share an interest in either D/s or BDSM or both...things not openly accepted by society...does not mean that within "our" group that we are all going to agree with things that are said. 

My definition of what submission is means something to me and may mean nothing to 95 out of 100 submissives or dominants reading it.  4 of the rest might think I am full of it...and 1 might agree.  The same with any other topic.  Which is why a lot of times you will see disclaimers...as noted in a special thread about disclaimers...proclaiming MOO, YMMV, or "refers to my situation and my thoughts only", etc..

And let's face it...the way that some posts or threads are stated, the poster is almost setting themselves up for a knock by being pretentious or attempting to flame certain folks/ideas right from the start.


I just figure people in the lifestyle (or any other alternative lifestyle not accepted by society) would be..... less likely to flame. That we (generalized term) would have a more "okay thats your kink- this is mine". Because we know what feels like for our ideas/ways of living/thoughts/etc to be looked upon as "beneath certain people".

How many of us have to hide our lifestyle choices from our close family/friends... I for one, will never come out (again) and tell a friend about my lifestyle choices unless I know they are ok with them, no matter how open minded they seem. I have a lost what I thought was a really good friend because I did that.

LA's right though, better I learned early rather than later.

(in reply to CreativeDominant)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: What happened? - 8/8/2007 6:43:03 PM   
dawntreader


Posts: 3045
Joined: 11/23/2006
Status: offline 		Just don't take anything too seriously here...

_____________________________

It is choice - not chance - that determines our destiny~
Jean Nidetch

There is a war going on for your mind...if you are thinking, you are winning~
Flobots

(in reply to goodgirl85)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: What happened? - 8/8/2007 8:26:48 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


Posts: 19224
Joined: 10/25/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: goodgirl85
How many of us have to hide our lifestyle choices from our close family/friends... I for one, will never come out (again) and tell a friend about my lifestyle choices unless I know they are ok with them, no matter how open minded they seem. I have a lost what I thought was a really good friend because I did that.

See I do it the other way round.  I don't make someone a close friend UNTIL I know they love cherish and care for ALL of me. 

_____________________________

Find stable partners, not a stable of partners.

"Sometimes my whore logic gets all fuzzy"- Californication

(in reply to goodgirl85)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: What happened? - 8/8/2007 9:51:16 PM   
leftofcenter


Posts: 31
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: kyraofMists


Expecting people here to be any different that the rest of society will set you up for disappointment.

Knight's Kyra


Amen sister...learned that one the hard way.......

(in reply to kyraofMists)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: What happened? - 8/8/2007 10:11:47 PM   
SimplyMichael


Posts: 7229
Joined: 1/7/2007
Status: offline 		If you want to put chocolate pudding in your diapers so your dom can rub his cock in them and make you lick it clean...we are fine with that.

You want to have 14 subs and you can keep them happy, we are fine with that

You want to do blood play and then use your partners blood for anal lube, cool.

You want to come in and act like an Uber-Dom we are going to call you on your bullshit
You want to come in here and play drama queen or whine "why do the last 50 doms do X to me" we aren't going to hold your hand and cry with you we are going to call you on your own issues.

We ARE accepting of the things we SHOULD accept and we are NOT accepting of things we feel we shouldn't.

The problem comes in when some newbie can't see the truth in what we are saying, can't understand why the dear little subbie shouldn't have her hand held when what we see is an immature woman who can't face her own issues, or a dominant who hasn't a real clue as to how to be a healthy dominant wondering why he can't punish his way to a happy healthy relationship.

(in reply to leftofcenter)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: What happened? - 8/8/2007 10:16:05 PM   
Stephann


Posts: 4214
Joined: 12/27/2006
From: Portland, OR
Status: offline 		I like to think I'm accepting of about 98% of the opinions and people here.  I don't feel a burning urge to agree, most of the time, but I do learn something about myself and others when I am forced to write my thoughts.

The 2% who I can't stand, it's usually because they engage in behavior that I consider predatorial or insincere.  It's an adult forum, and I don't feel any necessity to pull punches in that regard. 

Liberal use of that little red hand on people who you cannot stomach, may improve your experience though.

Regards,

Stephan


_____________________________

Nosce Te Ipsum

"The blade itself incites to violence" - Homer

Men: Find a Woman here

(in reply to SimplyMichael)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: What happened? - 8/9/2007 5:10:15 AM   
Rafters


Posts: 266
Joined: 3/9/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
You want to do blood play and then use your partners blood for anal lube, cool.


My blood is a really terrible lube.

(I've yet to try the tears of an emo)

Disclaimer: No orifices were injured in the making of this post.

(in reply to SimplyMichael)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: What happened? - 8/9/2007 5:38:42 AM   
kittinSol


Posts: 16926
Status: offline 		Fascism spreads like wildfire. The good thing is, eventually we will ALL agree like one big happy family .

_____________________________



(in reply to goodgirl85)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: What happened? - 8/9/2007 5:52:53 AM   
sweetnurseBBW


Posts: 2464
Joined: 1/26/2006
From: North Carolina
Status: offline 		Why would  people in the lifestyle be any different than anyone else? Everyone in and out of the lifestyle has preferences, opinions and biases. I haven't noticed anyone being any different here than they always have been.

_____________________________

Sir Pain's pain slut

(in reply to goodgirl85)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: What happened? - 8/9/2007 5:58:40 AM   
Cyntilating


Posts: 581
Joined: 6/19/2007
Status: offline 		[we aren't going to hold your hand and cry with you we are going to call you on your own issues. ]

yes....perfers to be "bitchslapped with a clue-by-four"
   ...very effective...      hand holding >
a true friend will tell you what you need to hear and not necessarily what you want to hear..

_____________________________

Cyndi

.."There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it. " Edith Wharton

(in reply to SimplyMichael)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: What happened? - 8/9/2007 6:00:59 AM   
arayofsunshine55


Posts: 545
Joined: 8/1/2004
From: San Francisco, CA
Status: offline 		Being a minority does not make people more open-minded.   

_____________________________

Sunshine

Is it not most transformative, most earthshaking, to pierce the veils of self-deception and illusion, and crack the eggshell of ignorance, to most intimately encounter oneself? Lama Surya Das

(in reply to goodgirl85)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: What happened? - 8/9/2007 6:34:44 AM   
ExSteelAgain


Posts: 1803
Joined: 7/2/2006
From: Georgia
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: goodgirl85

I started coming here more often then the other forums I have been on, because people seemed more open minded of different views and whatnot. It was like that for a little bit, and not only with my posts, but with others as well (and not just newbie posts) People seem to be becoming less tolerant and less openminded. I just laugh it off and go on to next post.

I find it ironic that in a lifestyle that is not fully accepted by society we would be more tolerant of everyone's view and way more openminded about trying new things and listening to peoples views that differ from ours.


How dare you say the people posting here are intolerant.  You started this thread with a question. What the fuck is wrong with you? Are you an idiot? What do you mean by saying that? You spelled two words wrong. You are a jerk who has no idea what D/s is all about. There are already many links to this subject. I am much smarter and better at D/s than you are. I can’t believe any Master would want a submissive who asks such questions.

_____________________________

You can paint a cinder block bright pastel pink, but it's still a cinder block. (By Me.)

(in reply to goodgirl85)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: What happened? - 8/9/2007 6:47:22 AM   
velvetears


Posts: 2933
Joined: 6/19/2006
Status: offline 		Being kinky doesn't mean your automatically openminded.  Openmindedness doesn't mean always agreeing with others either, which is what many people associate with being openminded.

_____________________________

Religion is for people who are scared of hell, Spirituality is for people who have been there

(in reply to goodgirl85)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> What happened? Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.109