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being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/9/2007 5:37:31 AM

biracalsub4wmDom

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hi. i have beein reading the threads, and i have been hearing mention of some Doms loaning out their sub/slaves to other Doms, or other men in general for their sexual pleasure. is this farely common? and do many of you have firsthand experience being "loaned out"? if so, how does it make you feel?
this is a subject that i have thought about a lot, and i fear that if i am ever asked or told to do this, that i am not going to want to submit to it. have any of you been asked or told to do this, and really did not want to, but did it anyway? how did you learn to get past the bad feelings about it?

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/9/2007 5:58:51 AM

sweetnurseBBW

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Some people really enjoy being loaned out. It isn't always to be sexual though. I have been loaned out to be a maid and things like that. I have also been loaned out for sexual service. I know my Master then and now wouldn't send me somewhere I wasn't safe. I have done it because I was told to so and enjoyed it and have also not enjoyed it and done it anyway. I did it because I was being obedient and thats the mindset I put myself in to just do it.

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/9/2007 6:00:04 AM

Littlepita

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Not going to happen to me because it's a hard limit. I strongly suggest that you figure out what it is you will and will not do before you give up your power to a dominant. This lifestyle isn't about you doing everything they want at the expense of your wants and needs. My Sir and I live by the motto, "If it ain't fun, don't do it."

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/9/2007 6:03:50 AM

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i was never monogamous. when i met Master i didnt want any other, to my suprise He likes to have others use me. He knows no other can satisfy me like He does, but is proud to own this slave and loves showing me off. I'm not allowed to be alone with others for He wants to assure my safety at all times. this weekend i will be entertainment for His son's 30th bday. dancing and prob sexual too. it pleases Him, its an order . and thats what my job is. to please Him. in the beggining of our relationship He told me i didnt have to like what He used me for , it would help but wasnt necessary.

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/9/2007 6:06:21 AM

arayofsunshine55

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It's all about compatibility. Only takes one for you. Not all doms are intrested in this. Be clear what is and is not OK with you. ANd find someone who cares.

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/9/2007 6:26:16 AM

earthycouple

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While I am not monogamous and I love my poly aspects, it will be a cold day in hell before I hand my slave over to another dominant for anything beyond a bottoming demo at a club where I reign supreme over the situation and know the dominant well enough that I'd be the bottom.

I'm picky like that. I don't break my toys and I don't trust others not to break em. I don't loan out stuff in my toybag either.

Too much of a control freak for that to happen in my world. I would feel very responsible if I handed him over, left and something went awry.

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/9/2007 7:50:15 AM

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http://www.collarchat.com/m_377083/mpage_3/key_loaned/tm.htm#378152
How many dominants share their subs?

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She needs to learn how to lick

Sometimes it worked out great, sometimes it was boring, sometimes it was excruciating.

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/9/2007 4:17:04 PM

littleone35

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My former Master loaned me out to one of his freiend i did not want to do it, i also did not want to disobey so i did. For me the bad feelings did not go away for a long time. The next time he told me to i could not do it i refused i got punished for disobeying but i just could not do it again.

I made it a hard limit from then on not to be shared. it worked out good because my wonderful Master does not want to share.

If it is something you really do not want to you shpuld talk to you Dom about it and tell him you feelings.

Matt's littleone

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/9/2007 4:34:31 PM

slavedoggieboy

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i am a male submissive to women. My first Mistress loaned me out to her Brother and also to her Brother-in-Law for sexual use, giving of blowjobs. The Brother was given me for his help around Mistress house, and was able to use me for blow jobs anytime he wished. Her Brother-in-Law was himself a slave to his wife and to other women, but was Dominant with other men. He also used me for blow jobs, but he was much rougher with me. He liked to force his penis into my mouth and down my throat, and would ram it in and out of my mouth and throat repeatedly till he came. After a session with him, my mouth and throat were sore for several days. Did i like it or hate it. I neither liked or hated it. I did not really want to do this, but my Mistress ordered it and i did it to please her. I learned early in our time together, that when she was displeased, it was very painful for me.

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/9/2007 6:21:09 PM

AquaticSub

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If you are sure that you could not submit to being loaned out sexually, wait for a dominant who has no desire to loan out his submissive and be sure that if his mind changes, he will not ask it of you. I highly doubt Valyraen will ever loan me out sexually, as he is quite possessive of me in that aspect. If he ever where to, he would only do it if it was something that I was also comfortable with.

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/9/2007 7:15:20 PM

OsideGirl

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I negotiated it as a hard limit, which lucky for me he doesn't share well with others. That said, I can play (no sex) with others under his supervision, if I desire.

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/9/2007 7:34:38 PM

classykindasassy

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I have not met very many that would loan out their most cherished property for others to use.

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/10/2007 1:31:05 AM

subboi3382

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my master loans me out a lot. i really like it, it makes u more sun and u get experiences you normally wouldn't

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/10/2007 4:14:19 AM

AquaticSub

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Did you mean "it makes you more sub" or "makes you sun"? Either way, it doesn't make a bit of sense to me - the only thing that could make you "more" sub is obeying and if your owner doesn't want to share you...

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/10/2007 5:04:50 AM

bandit25

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It's really up to you if you're loaned out or not. By that, I mean make it a hard limit and you won't be. If you secretly want to be, find a dominant man who likes to have his used by others...there's plenty of them around.

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/10/2007 5:40:43 AM

slavegirljoy

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i am a slave who is loaned out but, only to Dommes or to a Dom with a slave that is swapped to my Master, quid pro quo. i enjoy it. i have been involved in swinging for as long as i have been involved in BDSM, which is 30 years. my Master is very selective and He is also very protective of His property. He is always present when His slave is being used by another and He is often actively involved.

The things that i have been told (never asked) to do varies, depending on the Domme who is using me, but i always provide oral pleasure and, since all of the Dommes have been sadists, i am usually whipped by them. The only "bad" feelings that i ever had about swinging or being "loaned out" had to do with giving sexual pleasure to another woman. i "got over it" through conditioning.

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ORIGINAL: biracalsub4wmDom

hi. i have beein reading the threads, and i have been hearing mention of some Doms loaning out their sub/slaves to other Doms, or other men in general for their sexual pleasure. is this farely common? and do many of you have firsthand experience being "loaned out"? if so, how does it make you feel?
this is a subject that i have thought about a lot, and i fear that if i am ever asked or told to do this, that i am not going to want to submit to it. have any of you been asked or told to do this, and really did not want to, but did it anyway? how did you learn to get past the bad feelings about it?

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/10/2007 1:30:04 PM

SubJordanTyler

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I've been loaned out before, but the Mistress was always there to watch and be sure that I was used properly. It has been for sex many times and also just for play.........it was based on her mood at the moment on what she wanted, or would allow someone else to do to me.

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/11/2007 10:12:58 AM

rc4otkVA

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Some slaves find it to be a great show of dedication to their own Dom to submit willingly to another Master at their Dom's request/demand. I used to have a slave who liked to be paddled until he was willing to submit to anything to stop get a reprieve from the spanking. He also liked being made feel like a whore.
On one occassion I spanked him until he was crying, and begging to do anything to make me happy. I made a phone call, and spanked him for another five minutes, then there was a knock on the door. I had a friend of mine come over, and pay me to have sex with my slave. My slave was much more subdued after that. They both appreciated it.
On another occassion, I allowed a Dom friend to borrow him as a butler on his day off. My slave was very happy afterwards to be back in my service.

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/11/2007 10:16:20 AM

sexyred1

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I would not even consider it and would never be with someone interested in doing so.

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RE: being "loaned out" to other Doms? - 8/11/2007 10:45:44 AM

SirDominic

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This is one of those questions only you can answer. If this is something that would be hard for you, but you could do it without it being a negative experience, maybe. If you would do this only to obey, but would hate the experience, that is wrong. In the latter case, you should make it a hard limit and your Master should know this up front.

My slave and I were talking about this just last night. Being given to another is a hard limit for her. I have no interest in loaning her out, can't imagine I ever would, but assuming just for the discussion that I did want this, I still wouldn't ask it of her.

The reason is that I feel this puts her in a truly impossible situation. On the one hand she wants to oby me; obeying my commands is extremely important to her. On the other hand, she would feel degraded, humiliated, used to be given to someone else. This is a lose-lose situation for her. Her self-worth is too important to me. I want to help build her up, never tear her down.

For a completely different perspective, I have an acquaintance whose Master loans her out on a regular basis. She hates the idea of being loaned out, but once she is with another man, she gets incredibly turned on. Her Master knows her well enough to know the difference between what she says she wants and what she really wants.

So you do have to think this through for yourself. Is this something you really would be uncomfortable with? Or is the idea scary, but the reality intriguing? Only you can know.

Namaste, Sir Dominic

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