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RE: Your Core - 7/3/2005 8:07:17 AM

zaynab

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dechala,
you are right..... just got upset by the original post here is all.... my deepest apologies....
~ zaynab

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RE: Your Core - 7/3/2005 8:15:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: zaynab

dechala,
you are right..... just got upset by the original post here is all.... my deepest apologies....
~ zaynab

Oh no need to apologize dear-i just wanted to clarify myself

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RE: Your Core - 7/3/2005 8:37:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: fp2012
Serving, pleasing, seeing Him smile, everything.

A service dynamic - nice

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RE: Your Core - 7/3/2005 9:19:11 AM

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twist your words.
Peace and Love

I think that's the heart of the matter.

Not sure what you mean - care to ellabourate?

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RE: Your Core - 7/3/2005 9:22:42 AM

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Possession.

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RE: Your Core - 7/3/2005 10:04:47 AM

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ORIGINAL: Gemeni

Possession.

thank you for that answer!!!

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RE: Your Core - 7/3/2005 10:24:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: Gemeni

Possession.

Doh! Terry - what are you doing here?

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RE: Your Core - 7/4/2005 2:43:40 AM

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Where is your core in D/s and or SM?
EDIT: I should have said "What is your core or essential symbology/dynmaic within D/s or SM?

*licks My lips and purrs*

...waiting for one of those quiet peaceful moments when we are curled up on the sofa....running My hand slowly along his bare leg as we watch TV....the stroke drifting across his groin so rub his cock each time....being aware of his body becoming hard as it wakes...his cock growing harder with each stroke....concentrating just on that area as it presses up against his shorts....a hard bulge outlined under My hand....the sac sliding free and visible as he shifts...My eyes still glued to the TV show

...the commercial begins and My nails dig into the material so his cock can feel them...a quick glance revealing that his eyes are closed as he sinks deeper....resuming the soft touch when the show returns...only to drag My nails along his inner thighs during the next break....each commercial increasing the level of pain as the hours pass.....his body growing more responsive each time as it melts and quivers under My hands

....finally relenting and smacking his cock hard...his body jackknifing as he hardens more...knees pulled up tight and spread...hands hitting hard on his inner thighs....the blows to his cock making him whimper with the need to explode....his head rolling back and forth as his body arcs...hearing his cry of final release...the only sounds he can make now....watching his body sag as he cums under My touch...waiting for the look of adoration that will be there when he can finally open his eyes and focus once again

yes....that is the core of it all...the rest makes it work that this makes it sing

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RE: Your Core - 7/4/2005 2:59:05 AM

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My core is providing for Mistress' pleasure in whatever fashion She desires or requires at that particular moment. It can be as simple as an appropriate word or smile, an appropriate blush, moan or developing welt. If it pleases Her, then it touches my core.

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RE: Your Core - 7/5/2005 8:42:37 AM

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Another sadism response, and a service response.

The three general "core" answers seem to be "ownership," "service" and "sadism/masochism."

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RE: Your Core - 7/5/2005 8:50:08 AM

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Can I say- I really didn't understand the question at all. Can you rephrase?

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RE: Your Core - 7/5/2005 8:54:08 AM

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ownership," "service" and "sadism/masochism."

Not sure how you surmised that - I can see at least four -

Oh, and I guess you have refused to answer my question. Ah well - ya picks , ya choose.

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RE: Your Core - 7/5/2005 9:20:55 AM

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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

Can I say- I really didn't understand the question at all. Can you rephrase?

Weird - some people found the question very clear and others obscure - anyway:

I guess it wouold be like "Love Languages." Anyone might appreciate service, or a gift, or quality time together - but maybe Physical Touch is your love language, the heart of the matter for you.

In my little piece of fiction, the speaker has a full range of BDSM interests, but for he and his partner, a specific DM act is a core act fraught with symbology. That core act of SM sums up, articulates in a special way, the essence of the relationship.

Some people here have answered that providing service was essential for them - where the rubber met the road:

"My core is providing for Mistress' pleasure in whatever fashion She desires" and "Serving, pleasing, seeing Him smile, everything."

Others also keyed in on SM:

"i will endure any kind of pain,any kind of suffering,any kind of humilation, i will do all of this lovingly,anything to see that look of pleasure on his face," and

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"....finally relenting and smacking his cock hard...his body jackknifing as he hardens more...knees pulled up tight and spread...hands hitting hard on his inner thighs....the blows to his cock making him whimper with the need to explode....his head rolling back and forth as his body arcs...hearing his cry of final release...the only sounds he can make now....watching his body sag as he cums under My touch...waiting for the look of adoration that will be there when he can finally open his eyes and focus once again"

Several mentioned "ownership" as their functional core. Maybe a given person doesn't have one area that is particularly fraught with meaning for them - maybe they are spread equally over a lot of things (like being multi-lingual in love languages).

It's been interesting to hear the different responses. Real shift for me as a het male Dom to read GentleLady's response - a mirror of my speaker's words (who while not me, certainly borrows from me).

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RE: Your Core - 7/5/2005 9:33:47 AM

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for me the core isnt the abuse, the abuse is an afterthought. The core is looking into his eyes right before something is going to happen, or rather, his eyes burning into mine. I dont know if it is going to be the ritualistic paddle or something completely unexpected. My soul is exposed to him in that most vulnerable moment, and he sees it, and I trust in him that he knows what to do with it.

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RE: Your Core - 7/5/2005 10:55:20 AM

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quote:

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Doh! Terry - what are you doing here?

The same thing as you,making a pest of myself. And I have been here for quite a while.

Boo.

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RE: Your Core - 7/5/2005 11:46:23 AM

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Well for Me i would definately say it is both between my ears, an definately within my soul. To me D/s is about intimacy, d/s is like a raw nakedness of the heart, mind, body, an soul. It is why i could never share something that i would hold so dear (as the submissive i would take). To me i need the whole package for the trust, comunication, love, an passion, to develop, and also the wonderful Intimacy :). Anyway thats my 2 cents

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RE: Your Core - 7/5/2005 11:53:33 AM

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I still don't think I get it.

Would the question be- what is your core?

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RE: Your Core - 7/5/2005 7:55:55 PM

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I hate chiming in on this, but in pursuit of honest discussion, I will point out that YOUR generalization is as prone to exception as any other. I lived next door to a gal who would openly admit to doing whatever was needed to provoke a violent response from her husband. Was it domestic violence? Most assuredly it was. Was it abuse? If so, who was the perpetrator? The man who slapped the hell out of his wife or the woman who would intentionally seek to provoke the slap? I don't presume to judge either of them.
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RE: Your Core - 7/5/2005 8:18:24 PM

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For me the core is ownership and all it entails. I could write a great deal on the vibrant energy owning toy releases within me, but that's another topic. She says her core is simply service, whatever form it might take. We're well matched.
Timothy

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RE: Your Core - 7/5/2005 8:27:19 PM

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My core is that which makes me who I am. In this case, my thoughts, desires and the gifts I have to offer to others as related to BDSM.

What make my core resonate is finding one who is yang to my yin.

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