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ORIGINAL: Owner59

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ORIGINAL: instynctive

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ORIGINAL: windchymes
I got a letter (well, actually HE did, but he wasn't living there anymore, so I opened it,  lol)

Oooh... isn't that a felony (opening someone else's mail)? LOL

It`s not illegal to read a post card,or a print-out card.Those things don`t need opening.

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ORIGINAL: instynctive

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ORIGINAL: Owner59

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ORIGINAL: instynctive

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ORIGINAL: windchymes
I got a letter (well, actually HE did, but he wasn't living there anymore, so I opened it,  lol)

Oooh... isn't that a felony (opening someone else's mail)? LOL

It`s not illegal to read a post card,or a print-out card.Those things don`t need opening.

Emphasized for emphasis...

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ORIGINAL: Owner59

Personally,I know 30 or more guys who cheat,or have cheated.

I know only one married women who has had affairs.

Why is that?


Is it just me,or do married guys cheat more than females?

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ORIGINAL: instynctive

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ORIGINAL: windchymes

I got a letter (well, actually HE did, but he wasn't living there anymore, so I opened it,  lol)

Oooh... isn't that a felony (opening someone else's mail)? LOL

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ORIGINAL: ShyMistress


Ok...now unless My reading skills have seriously declined where does this article say he definitively had an affair? I didn't see anywhere where he admitted to having an affair with anyone. By the sounds of it she decided they were done, she was moved out, and had initiated divorce. So the guy is supposed to what?? sit around and boohoo about the wife that decided she was divorcing him?? What is so extraordinary about someone actually moving on? There are so many people out there that can't function without a mate that I am almost surprised when a long time married person stays single after a split, it seems so rare nowadays. I think some even term it "the rebound effect". As for the actual wording...LOL...I have seen so many people fall in "love" during this phase, it would not be an uncommon thing to write IMO. And you ask yourself what person after sharing years of love and harmony in a marriage would want to keep a "possible" new thing, if what they have always loved and held dear is running back saying "ok let's make it work now"? I am glad to see not everybody was on a slamfest without garnering solid facts and evidence.
 
The wife should not have freaked out and decided that he was having an affair. Maybe been suspicious, gotten some proof first...then freaked out. I see this as a usual attempt of a spouse trying to bleed the other one for all they can get out of them. Instead of deciding this guy is a piece of crap that needs to be taken for all he is worth why not ask yourselves how much of the worth did she even put there? What true rights does she have to use something from a "single" point in his life to leverage more funds out of him now? The figure amounts for this “injustice” is ridiculous really…and using it as a way to gain more money for child support? Nice to know kids are a now a money pit to draw upon. And what proof has she really that she didn't have any kind of relationship or fling when they were separated? How many women get away with that while the husband pines for them to return to the marriage? Point is…shouldn’t judge a book by its cover.
 
I don't go with the "well your just separated so you shouldn't in case it works out with the spouse"...not after being separated 9 yrs with no formal divorce. It wasn't necessary for Me and My ex-spouse as neither of us had plans to re-marry, yet we both moved on and it came to a point where it was and that was that.
 
As for the actual lawsuit regarding his claim of breach of confidentiality, though he does have some warrant to bitch about it he most likely will not get any kind of payout as the divorce was originally initiated before the incident…which points to the impossibility that they were the “reason for his divorce”
 
People make Me shake My head some days....
 
 

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Or, he'll still get a few thousand bucks just to shut him up.  Which is the reason a great many frivolous suits are filed to begin with.  They know it's frivolous, but it's cheaper for the company to just pony up a few bucks and settle it out of court than to fight it in court.

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Or, he'll still get a few thousand bucks just to shut him up.  Which is the reason a great many frivolous suits are filed to begin with.  They know it's frivolous, but it's cheaper for the company to just pony up a few bucks and settle it out of court than to fight it in court.

True.

FWIW,I don`t want my right to sue infringed upon,b/c other people abuse the system.

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I LOVE that song, lol!

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I LOVE that song, lol!

I don`t know...lol... it`s a little creepy to me.But I`m a guy....lol 

Owner 59
(who doesn`t cheat)

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ORIGINAL: winterlight

The man has no integrity or morals. He got caught and is mad he got caught. Btw were their kids involved?

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Granted, the man is an ass, but there is a legitimate issue with how readily 1-800 FLOWERS handed over the copy of the receipt. 

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ok, everyone is right.

I have forgetten what it was/is like to be with someone. Some days I am glad, this is one of them lol.

but,

if he gave a home address and get caught, well, duh.

if you open the mail that isn't yours, wrong you. tsk tsk.

dating while merely separated for a few days/weeks, dumb him.

the woman didn't work out, probably smarter her.

yes, ETR Canadian roadpasses, gulps. Ya know, my ex when getting his MBA was busy, busy, lived far from S business school yet came home every night (2+hrs) from all day and night classes.  There were times that I was a lil paranoid and actually checked mails, parking tickets, parking passes and dates/times on those driving route thangs. gulps.  Then he came home one day, I barely noticed he had graduated, it was like he held 5 million bucks in his hand and all I did was stare at his pocket wondering what paper I could ransack while he slept!!!! I held one such ticket in confusion (because once I am a spaz, I can't think, and ?:20 pm looks like &:14am lol) and I am all confused, can't eat, can't sleep.  He said.."we have obviously MORE problems than my ETR ticket" and he sat me down.  No, he wasn't cheating or otherwise, he really was working hard, plus he was teaching economics, had me, and a full time position at a police station doing 12 hr shifts 3 days/week.

He said 'why look at an ETR ticket???'??? I didn't know how to explain how insane I was.  I collapsed in shame.

I just know, I learned that something worth having is NOT something that needs checking on (in that capacity) and I promised myself to never do that again to ANYBODY. If you have to question, I think even if you don't find negative, you will SEE negative and try to make logic out of it. So, noooo more mail snooping, no more asking dumb questions. The only question I ask now is 'why can't I find another guy like that?"


<sings 'my baby takes the mornin' train, he works from 9 to 5 and then...." lol