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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/12/2007 9:32:23 PM   
slaverosebeauty


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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/12/2007 9:55:53 PM   
denika


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quote:

ORIGINAL: InnocentYoungSub
I'm too shy, really...it inhibits me with women in general, both in the kinky and vanilla sense...



Ironicly that makes sense, as outgoing as I seem I can be shy at times too. 

The Top I play with, I  had seen him play and was so fascinated  by it I approached him , well ,I started talking with alandra first and  went from there. But after words he chose to play with me.   A bit of symmetry. So far tho, the others that have been in my line of sight are more ones that have come asking me not the other way around, which is very flattering and empowering but sometimes a bit scary.

denika

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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/12/2007 10:19:49 PM   
Damocles809


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Status: offline 		I normally do the choosing nowadays. 

However, I did date a girl for three years in college who met me by calling me out of the blue, after going through the phone book looking for amusing names. 

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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/12/2007 10:44:24 PM   
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I have chosen some, others have chosen Me. This time we chose each other. This time it lasts.
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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/12/2007 11:09:24 PM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		I posted to an email group ... Master liked what I posted so replied privately ... We got talking as Dominant peers ... I admit at first I found some of the chats a bit tedious as He was bewailing about His sub at the time (who turned out to be a sub-when-convenient who broke His heart) ... then His slutty bottom side came out so He challenged Me to set it some tasks ... so I did ... then both of Us got half of Our hearts broken ... then His computer broke so We talked by phone ... then We met and I Dommed him ... somewhere in the next 6 weeks We switched ... then We met again and He Dommed me and by that time He was Master (and has thus stayed) ... hell, who picked who? I dunno! But the fates drew Us together and I am so glad!!

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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/12/2007 11:17:11 PM   
littlesarbonn


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Status: offline 		Well, considering the fact that my partner is my invisible, imaginary girlfriend, I'm not sure it means I picked her or she picked me. My stuffed frog says she and I picked each other, but my stuffed frog thinks he knows everything, as if being stuffed and being a frog make him all smart and everything. But he's usually right. He certainly warned me about that whole mortgage thing going bad, no matter how many times my stuffed penguin tried to tell me to go for it. Oh great. Now they're arguing again and my imaginary girlfriend has locked herself in the bathroom until they stop.

What was the question again?


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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/12/2007 11:21:34 PM   
Grlwithboy


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Status: offline 		My bull and I set traps for one another and got stuck in them ourselves. It was supposed to be a fling and it's flinging 8 years later.

I looked up and saw my husband smile at me at a munch and I decided immediately I was not leaving without this man's phone number. I'm a sucker for a pretty face, I guess.

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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/12/2007 11:23:55 PM   
earthycouple


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I can't even imagine not collectively choosing each other.

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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/12/2007 11:35:23 PM   
Satyr6406


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The way I understand/practice D/s relationships is that the submissive notices certain qualities in a dominant that they appreciate/admire. At some point, the submissive feels driven to serve that dominant in some way and offers their service to the dominant.
 
I believe this is the "standard" practice as it makes the most sense. I don't know many dominants that TAKE a submissive who's just walking down the street, minding their own business, bop them on the head and say: "You're going to serve me."
 
To be clear: There are certainly conversations that take place that let both parties feel secure enough so that they believe they won't be rejected (That's human nature) but, ultimately, I believe it's the submissive that chooses the dominant. That's the way it's always been for me.
 
 
 
 
 
Peace and comfort,
 
 
 
 
 
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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/12/2007 11:59:54 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		In each case, we picked each other. For it to be any other way is, well, rather silly in my opinion. I mean, do you have sex with a person just because THEY want to "do" you? I wouldn't...and neither would I be in a relationship with someone just because they happen to think I'm all that. I've got to have some attraction on my part, too. As for the flip side, I can't force anyone to be with me that doesn't really want to be with me. If I do, the charges can range from kidnapping to rape. That doesn't work in my world. People seem to forget that we are adults with equal value coming into relationships here. The only difference for us is that we often want a transfer of authority inside a defined structure. That doesn't mean that one person suddenly means less, humanitarily, that another.

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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/13/2007 12:14:16 AM   
becca333


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Status: offline 		I had an ad on a website (forget which), to which he replied.

Eliminated all the guys who sent pictures of body parts other than their face.

Eliminated all the  married ones, including the charmer who's married, has a girlfriend, and wanted me as his little bit extra.  (I am NOBODY's little bit extra.  I am the main course!)

Eliminated the ones who thought that my very mild description of my likes meant I wanted something deep in the fiercest BDSM possible.  (I'm a wimp.  Can't help it.)

Narrowed it down to a few really nice-sounding ones.  And there was some spark with him, I don't know what it was but somehow he was just the right one.  And we met, and three years later he's still exactly the right one.

So, I suppose we chose each other.  We just clicked.

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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/13/2007 12:25:14 AM   
becca333


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Status: offline 		This has nothing to do with this thread, but I just have to say - you are SO cute!  Makes me almost wish I was a Domme.  I'm sure you'll find someone soon, good luck with your search.

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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/13/2007 1:41:44 AM   
completenz


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Status: offline 		He chose to contact me when He saw my profile here. i chose to meet with Him and we have chosen to spend the rest of ours lives together.
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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/13/2007 2:06:24 AM   
girl4you2


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for me, it's pretty much been a mutually agreed on thing. we talked, met, and decided that we both rather liked each other and wanted to build on that. so like many others have said, it has been a both parties thing. nice when it just works.

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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/13/2007 2:06:30 AM   
InnocentYoungSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: becca333

This has nothing to do with this thread, but I just have to say - you are SO cute!  Makes me almost wish I was a Domme.  I'm sure you'll find someone soon, good luck with your search.


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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/13/2007 3:25:41 AM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie
I think we picked each other.  I felt his power right off the bat and was drawn to him, submitting to him from the start.  Because of the submission I displayed to him, he chose to keep me. 

Exactly what she said.  As usual............luci

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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/13/2007 6:14:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		We chose each other....

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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/13/2007 6:30:15 AM   
DesertRat


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Status: offline 		I'm not with anyone right now, but in the case of the best one I met here, we picked each other. She emailed me first and after several weeks of very long discussions, I found myself on a plane over the Atlantic. Later, it was she who asked for my collar but she knew there was no way in hell I'd have said 'no'.

In cases where a girl has decided I'm the 'one' and determinedly kept after me, things have always ended poorly. Ditto for the obverse. For me, the feelings need to be mutual. Also, information needs to flow in both directions with a minimum of bullshit.

Bob

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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/13/2007 6:52:12 AM   
BRNaughtyAngel


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Status: offline 		He took the first step and I happily followed.

He contacted me first, along with a hundred other guys.  Something made Him different, but don't ask me what.... just something. 

So yes, we chose each other, but if it weren't for Him....... well, I don't wanna think about that!

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RE: Chose or be Chosen - 8/13/2007 6:59:16 AM   
YourShyPet


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Status: offline 		We choose each other as friends first... shortly after he choose me as a sub... it took me years before I choose him as a Dom.

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