ownedgirlie
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I'm confused too but will try to decipher: quote:
ORIGINAL: fungasm Greetings! Today's Challenge for my Toys was titled "Look Ma, No Hands" and it is working with my toys towards building an erotic response without touch. Your toys being the submissives? Erotic response being orgasm? quote:
But as I was typing it- I was really curious, and I have questions for Subs... Ok. Got that part :) quote:
* When you are in a scene and it's "no hands", does that mean you are not supposed to have an erotic response? If by "erotic response" you mean orgasm, it makes no difference whether I can touch myself or not. I'll have an orgasm when he tells me to have an orgasm. He's made that very clear, so there is no guessing. quote:
* Would the ability to have an orgasm while bound or the ability to bring yourself pleasure without touch violate in some way the basic elements of your d/s relationship? I don't know what you mean by violate. I would violate my commitment to obedience if I had an orgasm without him commanding me to, touching or not touching. My orgasms are for his pleasure, not mine, and he rather likes that he can cause me to have one without touching, so no, there is no violation by this ability. quote:
* If you are in a relationship with a Dom/me- do you feel like it's inappropriate to seek out someone else to teach you more? It depends what you mean by that. At first I was thinking "abso-freakin-lutely" but then I've had friends, both dominant and submissive, who have helped me learn about myself and my submission, through conversations we have had. But this was not a formal seeking out of another dominant for training or anything. That would never happen. He might instruct me to do that, but I would never do that on my own. If you mean teaching me sexually, no one touches me without his say-so, so absolutely not. quote:
On the one hand, I want to help explore pleasure... On the other hand, I don't want to take those who are truly submissive past their boundaries. I am unclear what you mean by this. When I met my Master I was at a certain level in what I could handle and what I could not. We can call them boundaries for the sake of conversation. Over time (I've belonged to him for 3 years), he has pushed those boundaries further and further outward, so I can handle more and more. Had he not done that, I would not have grown with him as I have. quote:
Your thoughts and opinions would be wonderful. Your post was a bit confusing, so hopefully I answered the questions you were asking. Alison ----------
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