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akisha -> RE: Dissatisfaction with Master (8/28/2007 12:47:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shyinini quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists mmmmmmmmm seems what the problem is not a lack of Dominance.. it's a lack of submission. and respect. Your lack of respect is blantantly apparant. Totally agree. The comment of lack of intelligence made me seriously blink. If she thinks that little of her Dom then she should do him a favor and leave. I'd be ashamed and embarrassed to be that belittling about someone I supposedly care about. If that was how i truely felt I'd not be with them. To come onto a public board and trash your partner shows a severe lack of respect of any kind.

akisha -> RE: Dissatisfaction with Master (8/28/2007 12:52:52 PM)
Loved that idea...give Him 2 weeks, thought "ok i can do that"...then i read further...Discuss a BOOK with Him???? ROFLOL...the man doesn't read. I read. (oh yes, i DID capitalize that I) Share His interests? What interests? All he does is work at a minimum wage job all night, sleep all day, and look at TV until its time to go back in to work. He really HAS no life other than me, my interests, my house, my friends and our get-togethers, my professional income, my 401K to look forward to in the future...and i couldn't even make this up if i tried-He still lives with His parents! i get to see Him on weekends...you'd think it'd be easy to serve Him for 2 days of the week, but i guess i am too used to being in charge of my own life all week to do a good job. But remember, for Him, a good job is very minimal anyhow. You all think i have no respect? i don't, and i admit that. Except for the fact that He loves me so damn much i can literally see a purple aura around him when He looks at me, theres not a lot else there. i think if he could start feeling assertive, he can improve His outlook on life and motivation and stop letting people (including me) walk all over Him. But i know that nothing is gonna increase His IQ. Your'e all very very right when you say i am a bad bad bad slave. i guess i believe (and don't tell me a slave can't have her own beliefs and ideas- but thats a whole other thread) that the slave and the Master must meet each somewhere in the middle, like in any other relationship in the world. Especially a VOLUNTARY slave, and no one on this forum has yet stated they are anything less than happy volunteers to this lifestyle. Give me a Master worthy of my service, and i will serve well. Just talked myself into doing what i have to do...end this mis match now. [/quote] So basically you only want him around because he adores you and will do anything you want?? Can we say "Selfish to the core" Move on and let the man move on as well. You'll be doing him a favor!!!! I firmly believe you can NOT serve someone you hold no respect for. Seeing as you feel you are extremely superior, why not find a submissive or switch that will do exactly what you want when you want? Beat you, yell at you, etc etc etc. That way all your problems are solved. You can lay out a schedule for him as to when you are to be beat. What he is allowed to order for you. How long he is to tie you up and on which days. As well as lay out a detailed list as to what punishments you are to receive for each infraction you do.

Domwolf1 -> RE: Dissatisfaction with Master (8/30/2007 2:32:43 AM)
Just after a divorce, yes I do live with my parents for the time being. fsslave does serve me well, but I don't watch TV all that much anymore, only the shows we both have interest in. I also make a decent wage. Yes I do love my slave very much

Satyr6406 -> RE: Dissatisfaction with Master (8/30/2007 3:01:09 AM)
I know I'm going to get slammed here but, I'm no stranger to that. I didn't read through all of the posts but, I did read the OP and I have to "rant", a little ... This is something I stress to submissives ALL THE TIME!!! Why are you serving someone that you did not take the time to get to know? These are issues that would have been easily discovered had the two of you taken the time. Unless he saw you walking down the street, clubbed you over the head, and dragged you off to his dungeon, I assume that you made a decision to serve this dominant. Unfortunately, it sounds to me like he is not serving you, very well. How DARE he not serve your wants! Honestly, I also see an issue, here that goes to what I think is a fundemental of communication truths that exist between the genders. This is a generalization. I am NOT saying it is hard and firm but for the most part submissives (especially of the female type) tend to "hold back" when they speak to people; they leave something un-said and expect the other person to pick up on what it is. I don't think it's necessarily an issue of honesty. As a matter of fact, I think the motivation might be born from some desire to NOT "hurt" the other person. While I believe in the statement: "Honesty, without compassion, is brutality." (Damn! I wish I could remember who told me that!), it is not impossible to be truly honest and FORTHCOMING without being brutal. Try some of that. Ultimately, though, speaking as someone who LOVES the D/s aspects of this lifestyle but is not all that enamored of the BDSM play, I feel for your dominant. Here's a guy that meets what he thinks is a great lady and she shows him what he wants to see but, doesn't let him know that she desires more. He thinks the relationship is moving along, terrifically. He has no idea that he is about to get blind-sided by heartache that is equivilant to the size of an 80,000 lb. truck. Peace and comfort, Michael [Edited because I can only dominate those things which will submit to me and, obviously, my fingers are NOT submissive!]

mons -> RE: Dissatisfaction with Master (8/30/2007 3:18:08 AM)
greeting to all i understand that what this woman is saying is show very little respect for her master. she should walk away, but what if she came not just walk out. abuse is everywhere then there is the issue of she may not be able to speak her mind and this is the only place she can say what she need to say, she maybe so angry at him or even fear just saying what she needs. i say this because as a teen i was beaten and i never told anyone he was a beast and a nightmare i came to ca to run from him and stay away from him. a woman maybe a slave or whatever we do not really know why she has written about him so badly , i do not judge or i will be judge we may never know why she is being this way . it is something to think about i am not saying she is right but just thinking of why? mons

akisha -> RE: Dissatisfaction with Master (8/30/2007 11:15:40 AM)
So was I the only one that got a very long, babbling e-mail on the other side regarding this thread?? fsslave: just to let you know.. I didn't read past the first couple sentences. As far as I'm concerned you did show a massive lack or respect for someone you are supposed to honour if you choose to serve them. I'm not the only one that noticed it. Domwolf1: good for you that you love her. But if anyone publically berated me and called me down the way she has on this thread, be damned if I'd ever put up with it or forgive it. As far as I'm concerned there are things you just don't do to people you are supposed to care about. But that's just my own moral code. Good luck with what you have.

akisha -> RE: Dissatisfaction with Master (8/30/2007 11:20:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mons greeting to all i understand that what this woman is saying is show very little respect for her master. she should walk away, but what if she came not just walk out. abuse is everywhere then there is the issue of she may not be able to speak her mind and this is the only place she can say what she need to say, she maybe so angry at him or even fear just saying what she needs. i say this because as a teen i was beaten and i never told anyone he was a beast and a nightmare i came to ca to run from him and stay away from him. a woman maybe a slave or whatever we do not really know why she has written about him so badly , i do not judge or i will be judge we may never know why she is being this way . it is something to think about i am not saying she is right but just thinking of why? mons mons, she's complaining because he doesn't beat her, and doesn't do as she wants when she wants him too. Doesn't sound like abuse does it?? I'm sorry you had to experience an abusive relationship though. That's never a good thing. I hope things are better for you now.

WickedBDSM -> RE: Dissatisfaction with Master (8/30/2007 12:00:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Domwolf1 Just after a divorce, yes I do live with my parents for the time being. fsslave does serve me well, but I don't watch TV all that much anymore, only the shows we both have interest in. I also make a decent wage. Yes I do love my slave very much You love her?.....love her very much? Well, she does not appear to love you back. I am astonished, that you would even identify yourself, if my submissive wrote these things about me, I'd be ashamed to do so. Why are you hanging on to her? Her house? Her salary? her 401K? I am sorry, I just don't get it.

YesMistressIrish -> RE: Dissatisfaction with Master (8/30/2007 12:29:52 PM)
I agree with what Satyr said. Thanks for that honesty quote. I saved it on my fave quotes list. Irish *waves hi to Satyr

shadevarr -> RE: Dissatisfaction with Master (8/30/2007 2:22:19 PM)
and here I am, wondering about the whole 5 whacks with a crop thing...the flies outside get beaten more than that!

KnightofMists -> RE: Dissatisfaction with Master (8/30/2007 4:12:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shadevarr and here I am, wondering about the whole 5 whacks with a crop thing...the flies outside get beaten more than that! well... considering her level of respect for her apparent Master.. she doesn't deserve as much as a fly would get.

LoveEverylastin -> RE: Dissatisfaction with Master (8/30/2007 6:21:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Domwolf1 Just after a divorce, yes I do live with my parents for the time being. fsslave does serve me well, but I don't watch TV all that much anymore, only the shows we both have interest in. I also make a decent wage. Yes I do love my slave very much Sir, Why do you feel the need to come and defend yourself? You tell us you recently got divorced and that you make decent wages and that you don't watch tv all that much, defending yourself against your slave's accusations when instead, you should be looking at her, her lack of respect, and her lack of caring. She has abused your relationship and humiliated you on a public forum and yet... you defend yourself and say that she serves you well. If that good service entails public beratement then yes, she has done her job very well! ffslave: you won't be happy no matter who does or says what to/for you. It's all about you. Your house. Your income. Your wants. Your needs. Nobody can ever live up to your expectations because, quite frankly ma'am, you are spoiled rotten.

RRafe -> RE: Dissatisfaction with Master (8/30/2007 7:18:29 PM)
My only reason in the past for holding back was from fear of overstepping.I was green,and stricken with societal inhibitions like "never hit a woman." Takes time to let go of all of that-have some patience and let him know he can go further-at his pace-not yours. Do you want a Dom-or a service Top? Push him, you'll get the former.

gwendolyn -> RE: Dissatisfaction with Master (8/30/2007 8:43:01 PM)
I'm usually pretty quiet when I come across a thread like this. Someone usually posts the point I would have made anyways, but I wanted to point something out about this brat's profile. She's whined and bleated about lack of consequences for her actions, yet it states that she merely tolerates obedience training. Why is she crying over something she has no overt interest in??? -shrugs- This could just be me. Wouldn't be the first time. Gwen

adaddysgirl -> RE: Dissatisfaction with Master (8/31/2007 9:00:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LoveEverylastin Sir, Why do you feel the need to come and defend yourself? You tell us you recently got divorced and that you make decent wages and that you don't watch tv all that much, defending yourself against your slave's accusations when instead, you should be looking at her, her lack of respect, and her lack of caring. She has abused your relationship and humiliated you on a public forum and yet... you defend yourself and say that she serves you well. If that good service entails public beratement then yes, she has done her job very well! And maybe this is the point? In light of what the OP initially said, he comes back and all he can say is he loves her? Maybe this is what she is talking about as what is lacking in the relationship. i'm sorry Domwolf....you sound like a nice guy....but is this is indicative of what a response would be after your slave has said such things....then i could see where she might need something "firmer". i know i sure would! Best wishes to both of you. Daddysgirl

MistressShuggie -> RE: Dissatisfaction with Master (8/31/2007 2:04:11 PM)
He's making an option of your priority. Sounds vanilla to me. If anything, it sounds as if you're in control, not him. You're underutilized it seems. Test it, and if he allows you to be in charge, you've got a vanilla with sprinkles. Move on.

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