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ORIGINAL: windchymes

Ya know....it's like when you go to the shoe store and say "I like those red shoes".  The clerk hands you a box containing the shoes and you go home, only to find that they're the wrong size.  Is it the clerk's fault for not asking you what size you wore, or is it that in some instances, some things should just be mentioned up front?

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ORIGINAL: teamnoir

Also for the record, if I happen to meet you at a party, talk, flirt, of propose play together, if I haven't mentioned something, like a wife, or a girlfriend, or a dog, or a BMW, or the name of my first grade teacher, it's because it hasn't occurred to me that it's at all relevant. If something like this is relevant to you, then it is your responsibility to ask. I really can't read anyone else's mind in order to know that the color of my cat might make a difference in whether you're up for a casual flogging.

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ORIGINAL: teamnoir

Last month I was talking to this woman and everything was going great. So we agreed to have coffee. She was cute, there was mutual attraction, so we agreed to play at an upcoming party.

So we did. And it was great! She came back to my place afterward and we had a really lovely time.

But later that week, I found out that she drive a BMW! Can you believe it! She drives a BMW and she had the audacity to lie about it and hide this information from me!

Stupid, lying, no good, CHEATERS! I'll never date or play with anyone again unless I verify via a reputable third party that this person doesn't drive a BMW. The online bdsm world is full of people like this - people who don't tell you that they drive BMW's before you get involved with them.

There outta be a law.

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For the record, this is humor.

Also for the record, if I happen to meet you at a party, talk, flirt, of propose play together, if I haven't mentioned something, like a wife, or a girlfriend, or a dog, or a BMW, or the name of my first grade teacher, it's because it hasn't occurred to me that it's at all relevant. If something like this is relevant to you, then it is your responsibility to ask. I really can't read anyone else's mind in order to know that the color of my cat might make a difference in whether you're up for a casual flogging.

And if you don't like the color of my cat, or my relationship status, or don't believe me when I tell you what it is, then I would submit that we have communications problems already and really shouldn't be playing with each other at this point.

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Also for the record, if I happen to meet you at a party, talk, flirt, of propose play together, if I haven't mentioned something, like a wife, or a girlfriend, or a dog, or a BMW, or the name of my first grade teacher, it's because it hasn't occurred to me that it's at all relevant.


WOW.... i wonder if the wife or girlfriend knows they aren't "relevant"? geez.....

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But later that week, I found out that she drive a BMW! Can you believe it! She drives a BMW and she had the audacity to lie about it and hide this information from me!

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone
WOW.... i wonder if the wife or girlfriend knows they aren't "relevant"? geez.....

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord
If someone has, say, a wife- in a, as far as she knows, monogomous relationship- and the husband cheats on her- of course others should care. The husband has demonstrated a willingness to lie to someone he married. Not only is this act morally reprehensible, but it also leaves in question the validity of any socially-contracted interaction with such an individual. This is to say, he's not above manipulation and deceit.