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Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 3:05:22 PM

KarenMarie

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I been on the net both for work and hopes of finding real love.
but it seams no matter where you go it`s the same thing.
Game players! I read many of profles and have replied to a few that seam to sound close to what I hope for but I`m finding a lot is not what they seek in reality. I really thought if We posted trurth as to who we really are I thought some where there be some one on same wave. Sorry I find it hard to write down exactly how I feel into readable words but all i can really say clear is I`m very disapointed. I hope many will post here as to how they feel and any suggestions as to where do you find real people.

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 3:09:25 PM

sambamanslilgirl

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*goggles a where to find real people search*

once again - i'm still fake ...YES!!

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 3:09:41 PM

mnottertail

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I have the same issues on my side. What is better is to actually do brick and mortar meet and greet in the local community and munches, it is rare to find 'the thing' out here. The trouble lies mostly in impression, a thousand offers per nano second, and you have to cop a feel for someone on these sterile screens, usually the silver tongued players have the advantage out here because men and women, dominant and slave think with their genitalia no matter what they espouse.

Reality is an entirely different matter.

Ron

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 3:13:14 PM

Elorin

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Keep on truckin is the best advice to offer. It takes work to find someone online, it isn't a magic cure.

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 3:17:34 PM

DiurnalVampire

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More often than not, people online dont actually know what they want becasue they havent realy experinced much if any of it. That doesnt make them less real, just more confused. You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince (or princess) and online, it takes longer from kiss to poof. The internet is a safety net for a lot of people playing out fantasies, as much as it is a testing ground for those of us looking for what we really want. Keep trying, but dont be too surprised when a good number of the ones you contact arent what you expected.

DV

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 3:31:08 PM

cwytch

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i recently was approached by a man claiming to be a Master...after several conversations the truth came out that he had never Mastered anyone let alone been in any type of "kinky" relations..he was using this medium in an attempt to experience the lifestyle because it was something he felt he had been missing..now i have no problem with experimenting in an effort to find out what you like and dislike, but i was shocked that he was presenting himself as a "Master"...fortunately i had been around the block once or twice ( i am sad to admit i am no novice nor spring chicken) and was able to read between his lines...or is that lies??? my concern is that a fresh sub/slave may not recognize the problem and may actually get caught up in a dangerous situation...if you dont know what you are doing when you get into something then it is easy for people to get hurt...if both parties know the situation then there is a possibility that working together or with a mentor one can learn in a safe environment...D/s is not a place where we can afford to misrepresent ourselves...honesty is not only sanity but untilmately a safety issue..be real and let others have a chance to accept you for who you actually are...i would much rather know what i am getting into before i am knee deep in the water..

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 3:37:23 PM

celticlord2112

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There are a lot of players, posers, and wannabes in any community--whether it be a real community or virtual community.

If you accept the unpleasant inevitability of the wannabes, when you encounter them you can just move past them. Then you are free to embrace the "real" people when you at last encounter them--and, in time, you will.

Time heals all wounds, and wounds all heels. (Yeah, not original, but true!)

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 5:03:38 PM

HerBoudoir

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If you're looking online for a possible real time relationship, it stands to reason that you will ultimately have to sift through more people who don't suit you because you're coming into contact with many many more people that you would if you were looking exclusively elsewhere.

Factor into the equation trying to find someone suitable for both vanilla and kink interests and desires, being local enough, compatible enough, etc...it's a miracle anyone finds anyone in the lifestyle.

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 5:05:08 PM

Redoubt

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I'm not real - I'm a figment of my own imagination

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 5:06:53 PM

cuddleheart50

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You just have to sort and weed through them to find the "real one"

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 5:07:50 PM

mnottertail

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no, you don't.

Just type in that nick, he is here on CM.

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 5:10:01 PM

cuddleheart50

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And what is that nick?

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 5:12:16 PM

arayofsunshine55

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They are all real. but they are not all really what you want. Even someone who seems compatible in the words in his profile can't show enough of himself for me to have any sense that he'd be "just right" for me. It seems an unreal expectation. The things I really want to know can only become clear over time, engaging with each other, living through moments with each other, learning about each other not through what we say about ourselves but who we show ourselves to be over time. The people who to me seem most disheartened by their encounters are those whose expectations were not realistic.

< Message edited by arayofsunshine55 -- 8/18/2007 6:06:38 PM >

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 5:15:51 PM

FangsNfeet

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Some people put in there profile who they want to be or thought they were more than who the are and realize it after a few tries. As far as figuring out who is real and who is just playing, you're just going to have to trust your gut and never give up finding what's right for you.

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 5:26:42 PM

SmokingGun82

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I can't possibly be the only one who can't help but think of Chappelle's Show and the "When Keeping It Real Goes Wrong" sketch whenever the "real" conversation comes up, can I? Or maybe I am, and that's one of the signs that I'm not real.

< Message edited by SmokingGun82 -- 8/18/2007 5:27:09 PM >

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 5:28:44 PM

TheChastiser

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it can be a difficult and time consuming job, trying to find a match, either on line or in real life. all you can do is persevere. too many expect a quick fix, and then give up when it doesnt happen that way.

all i can say is be patient. and dont just leap in with both feet the moment you 'think' you have found the right person.

Mike

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 5:35:46 PM

naughtysubK

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First post here. i think that a lot of people come to sites such as CM and alt and such expecting to find an instant match. i used to be pretty active on alt. i went through about 2 and a half years of trial and error before i met my last Master. then after we split up, another year later and i meet someone here.

Both sort of just happened along when i wasn't actively looking.

It takes a lot of patience. You are not going to find your soulmate in a week.

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 6:21:19 PM

Hisbellaluna

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i think now is the time into introduce my new product...insta-Master...or should i do insta-slave first....its a little capsule, you submerge it in water and leave it there over night, and in the morning you have a Master or slave sitting in your sink (like the dinosaurs we had when we were kids)....hmmm not so original...but they are real! you can touch them and everything...next product to come out...program-a-Master and program-a-slave....so those insta-Masters and insta-slaves will do what you tell them to....

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 6:49:07 PM

MamaDomme

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Hisbellaluna

i think now is the time into introduce my new product...insta-Master...or should i do insta-slave first....its a little capsule, you submerge it in water and leave it there over night, and in the morning you have a Master or slave sitting in your sink (like the dinosaurs we had when we were kids)....hmmm not so original...but they are real! you can touch them and everything...next product to come out...program-a-Master and program-a-slave....so those insta-Masters and insta-slaves will do what you tell them to....

ooooh, oooh, oooh...... I want one of the "Insta-slaves" please!!!!

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RE: Who is Real? - 8/18/2007 6:56:25 PM

shyinini

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Please KarenMarie, make your journey settled, longer and creatively endeavering not to settle for anything less than just a body that breaths,eats and talks and can use their tongue.

If you asked each of us to pinch our skin and report if it was rather uncomfortable...we would all respond...hell ya. If we dont respond, maybe we held our breath just to see if we were real human beings.

Besides rweeeeel is in the eye of the beholder.

I have extra glasses if you need them to see better.............

one of these we dont possess if you like one to be struck with it, only to call them rweeeeeeal

good luck in finding yours

Sir's girl

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