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RE: Vanilla relationships before D/s? - 8/22/2007 8:50:01 AM

BDsbabygirl

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I have never had a D/s relationship prior to the one I am in now, which began vanilla. Total number of vanilla relationships prior to meeting my Master and beginning this lifestyle: 7.

When I met my Master and we began dating, it started off as a vanilla relationship. I am incredibly happy it did not remain that way...

I was interested in kink throughout all relationships prior...

Ditto...except I had about 12 'nilla relationships prior to this BDSM one. In nearly every one of them, we enjoyed 'kinky' sex and I would naturally 'give in' to what my partner wanted most of the time. Likely, they were actually on the border of BDSM, it was just never titled and my partners never knew enough to take the reigns and 'Dom' me...and I didn't know enough to look for this world.

I am very happy, also, that my Dom and I started out vanilla; we started with a foundation of friendship and it grew from there, so I know the relationship is based on something other than kink/sex and I won't feel 'used' or that our relationship is built around sex, which I probably would've felt had we started this way, what with me being a newbie and all.

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RE: Vanilla relationships before D/s? - 8/22/2007 11:05:42 AM

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I definitely agree with realtuffdom on this one. I have grown up believing that the only difference between vanilla relationships and BDSM ones is that, like cwytch said, is the handcuffs. The handcuffs being the symbol of "kinky" of course.

Actually, I never had a real honest to god relationship before the one I am currently in. However, Sir and I started off as vanilla. And we just gradually developed into something better!

I love doing "vanilla" type things with him like cuddling, going to the movies, on a date, out to dinner, things like that. It's just as important to me as the kinky stuff.

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RE: Vanilla relationships before D/s? - 8/22/2007 11:27:47 AM

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Now that I am asked to think about it, most if not all, of my relationships have been either borderline vanilla or D/s. One thing that was a constant in all of my relationships is that I played the dominant role. Of course in vanilla relationships that is not always appreciated by your significant or insignificant partner.

In my opinion, the difference between vanilla and D/s relationships is trust. My experiences with vanilla-like relationships have always been lacking in that department but my D/s relationships have reached levels beyond my wildest desires.

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RE: Vanilla relationships before D/s? - 8/22/2007 11:31:37 AM

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relationships are relationships regardless..............

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