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GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Being a slut (7/11/2005 5:01:13 PM)
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I have been thinking about this a lot. I have tried My damndest to come up with a derogatory name for any male who is, as chris stated, "on the prowl for sex".
The only one I can come up with is "rapist", and that is forcing a woman against her will.
How often to we hear about the court cases where a woman's sexuality is opened up in a rape case to try to prove the male not responsible? It really wasn't a rape. She was asking for it, or she didn't say "no", or "sometimes no means yes, and keep going".
Yet there are a lot of words to refer to a woman in a derogatory manner when it comes to sex.
She is the school slut.
She is the town whore.
She's a cunt.
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I have learned over the last few weeks that on the CM message boards the word slut or whore means you are a ho.
The word bitch means you are anyones banger and its ok to use it.
Thje word cunt is sweet and endearing and useable.
Yes, it is unfortunate the the term slut and whore means just that. And I don't think it is just the collarme message boards. I do not have any problem, whatsoever, with anybody's term of endearment when they are playing their own, understood, bedroom games. But you answered your own question by saying:quote:
My profile is inactive cause i am trolled, and i read message boards.
We are all trolled to a certain extent, but you had to close this profile because, I would just be guessing here, you were probably treated extremely disrespectfully due to this particular user name. With a name like that, most males are going to view it as an open invitation for "easy pickings" in the sex department.
The word "bitch", IMO is not used for anybody who is easy. It is often used to indicate a temperment that does not have to have anything to do with sexuality at all.
"She is a real bitch". I, Myself, am called "Classy Bitch". It has nothing at all to do with sex, and much to do with power and personality.
Woman are bitches and men are aggressive and powerful.
I have never seen the word "cunt" used to indicate something sweet and endearing. But perhaps I missed that. I did, however, have to listen to a drunk mother call her own daughter a cunt. I have never heard it used as anything except derogatory, both in a sexual sense and in a plain old derogatory sense.
Perhaps, if people use these words in another context for many years to come, the eventual definition will move to something less derogatory. But I haven't seen it yet.
Are there any dergoatory names for males who are promiscuous? Even being called a Don Juan, a Cassanova, or a Wolf is not considerd derogatory. Woman take these descriptive names and use them to know who with whom they should be careful with heart and with body.
"Don't fall in love with him, he's a real Don Juan".
No matter how hard we try, the boys are still getting together in the locker rooms and talking about the girls who are easy. Even in our modern day and age, the girls still get the reputation and the boys still get the pat on the back. "Atta boy, you scored! Was she any good?"
That is why, even on a site like this, which is based upon an alternative lifestyle that has to do with certain power dynamics and sexual preferences, there are so many trolls. If she's on this site, she must be an easy target for a quick hook-up. Hence the word "troll". Throw out a line with whatever bait you think might work, and see if you can catch anything. Fishing for sex.
And for those who want that, that is fine. But to assume that this is what it is all
about is wrong. It's not going to change, but I certainly don't want to encourage it by saying I am a slut or a whore or a cunt. That would be sending the wrong message and I would only have Myself to blame if I was viewed in that light because I insisted that there was nothing wrong with using those words and they really don't mean that to Me. quote:
Words mean something to each of us and we need to be careful how we ue them, in proper contest and within our own boundaries.
And so it seems to Me that it is only prudent to stay away from those words unless you wish to impart the idea that you do fall into the *general* perception of those words.
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