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RE: He hasn't called?????????? - 8/21/2007 9:46:32 AM

slaveluci

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I do live with my Master. However, there was a long period in the beginning where I did not. It wasn't because neither of us wanted to though. It was for financial and job reasons. We lived 800 miles apart and I had a great job. It was one where, if I were to leave, someone would need to be well-trained to take over and there was no one else to do it. I gave a little over 90 days notice before leaving and I had to stick it out to train my replacement.

In addition, it took a little time for both of us to get a bit more financially sound before I made the move. He wanted me in AR as badly as I wanted to be there but, unlike me, He was able to control His impulses and be patient until the time was better

. I'm here now and have been for awhile and it's great. Of course, there are differences than when we lived apart. BUT.....I am no more owned and no more in love than I was at 800 miles away. That impeded our physical contact, sure, but that's all it impeded. And, even at that, I visited for a week or weeks at a time every couple of months for a year or so so we made do.

It really makes no sense to assume that just because people aren't residing together that it's because they don't want to or that they are somehow "less" committed or owned because of it. Sooooo many different ways to skin a cat, ya know?.................luci

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RE: He hasn't called?????????? - 8/21/2007 10:30:59 AM

opensoul

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Since I am new to this lifestyle I hope not to upset anyone. I live 6 hours away from my Master, that does not mean I am not owned , it just means that for now I must suffer long times between his visits, I think alot during our times away and learn with his help and understanding the real me. The one who for so long has waited for the right person for me to trust and give over myself to. For me that is something thats been along time coming, if my Master and I had lived close or moved right in I think it would have been hard at first and alot more misunderstandings. Now we must talk, listen and I must try to let out soo many things that I have keep hidden for many years, even from myself. So not being right next to each other makes me focus on everything and work harder to open up.

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RE: He hasn't called?????????? - 8/21/2007 11:58:28 AM

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I currently live on the west coast, Master lives in NYC. I will be relocating to NJ in
Sept. to be nearer to him. I will have my own apartment, and we will spend as much
time as possible with each other.

The fact that we will be living separately has no
impact on his ownership of me. He owns me now, even from across the country, the
only thing that will change is the frequency with which we see each other.

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RE: He hasn't called?????????? - 8/21/2007 3:10:27 PM

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Smiles for Cyntilating :) :)

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RE: He hasn't called?????????? - 8/21/2007 6:04:12 PM

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     I think many people can be extremely intimate and not share the same household.   On the flip side I think there are many who do share the same household but do not share the amount of intimacy as some who do not.
    There are various reasons why people do not want to share a residence.
    If a person has stopped calling or emailing, there is probably a reason for it.   I would think (my personal thoughts) if a Dom stopped calling or emailing me without a reason why, that the relationship wasn't very intimate to begin with.   There are hundreds of reasons why someone is not able to call or email but if there was a level of intimacy, it seems the non caller would take time out to call or email saying why they are unable to take time out for contact before hand and if there is an emergency, I would think there would be an arrangement to have someone else get in contact.

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RE: He hasn't called?????????? - 1/19/2008 4:08:01 PM

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C) The "radio silence" break-up is, sad to say, common enough in both BDSM and vanilla-land. It's easy on the part of the person leaving, though not very brave.

What is "Radio Silence"???

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RE: He hasn't called?????????? - 1/19/2008 4:21:28 PM

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This is an older post so I don't know if the OP is still around or not, but I will reply anyway.

My response is not to list a plethora of reasons as to why certain people who adore each other might not live together, but to suggest you broaden your thinking to realize there are possibilities outside that which you might relate to or even understand.

Your OP is slanted in such a way as to reflect negative judgment on those who live in a way which you do not understand. And while you find it "odd" that people who love, worship and adore may not share a roof, do you also find it "odd" at how many gazillions of couples who ARE married and/or DO share a roof have become contentious and detached?

And if sharing a roof is in someone's future plans but they are unable to do so just yet, is that odd, too?

Your question is perplexing.

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RE: He hasn't called?????????? - 1/19/2008 4:24:14 PM

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I've noticed that a lot of female subs post that they are highly concerned about a very intimate problem, usually sexual in nature. They admit that they are totally "owned" by a dominant Master, totally love their Master, and that they participate in BDSM. Their concerns indicate an intense personal relationship. Yet, the posts end with ,"he hasn't called" or "he stopped emailing me". That's the part that I find odd. You'd think that with such an intense, intimate Master/slave relationship, the two would live together.
Yeah, there may be sound reasons why they don't live together, but to me, it seems odd-like a married couple not living together. Again it seems odd that you can have a truly intimate relationship, but you don't want to live with the guy?

Welcome to the future.

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RE: He hasn't called?????????? - 1/19/2008 4:30:34 PM

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C) The "radio silence" break-up is, sad to say, common enough in both BDSM and vanilla-land. It's easy on the part of the person leaving, though not very brave.

What is "Radio Silence"???

No communication. Radio silence is frequently used at times when, for whatever reason, various people need to stop communicating with each other. The term is most frequently applied to the use of walkie-talkies where only one person can be on a channel at a time. If the underlings are chattering, the head honcho can't get a word in edgewise. Also frequently used when the radio squawking could be detrimental for people in the field, or there are concerns about the transmissions being intercepted and/or honed in on.

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