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RE: does your Dom/Master want another sub? - 8/21/2007 7:03:11 PM

angelic

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i would not be owned by One who wanted another, nor do i want to be owned by One that i 'allow' to do anything. That is not the dynamic i seek.

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RE: does your Dom/Master want another sub? - 8/21/2007 9:22:08 PM

shyinini

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quote:

ORIGINAL: susie

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ORIGINAL: blossomtree

and if he does want to take another sub or play with others, do you allow him to do that?

Do I allow my Master to do as he wants, when he wants? Um yep. That is the deal. He gets to meet other people if that is what he wants to do. May not work for everyone but that is the way our relationship is. I would never consider telling him he cannot do what we agreed agreed he could do.

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RE: does your Dom/Master want another sub? - 8/21/2007 9:55:45 PM

shyinini

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blossom,
I am going to respond to both your threads.
And no, am not gonna pick on the word "allow."
I think you used that word and didnt realize it was such a strong word. Learning to ask questions without being put down is a learning curve.

Trust is vital, in all relationships. Not just a D/s one.
I dont know how "new" you are and how you are about submitting, I am going to assume it is your desire.

Yes Doms seem to be able to do what they want ....but those who are replying might not be with their Dom/mes if s/he were to break their boundaires in the agreed upon relationship.

I am going to assume and that you didnt realize that establishing parameters, of others in your relationship, could/should be talked about or this wouldnt be happening. It takes this kind of agony at times to even make your realize .... anyone realize, that all boundaries were/are not discussed.

When this lifestyle I first entered, I didnt know doms could just pick up a girl if that is what they wanted. And it is not always a poly issue. It can be a selfish issue with that man, you know, have his cake and eat it too. I am gonna go out on a limb and say, niave subs can be taken advantage in this area. I was. And I am not the only one.

Going back to trust.... it is hard to rebuild. I am not going to advice you to move on...its your choice, but I guarnatee you, if you stay, there will be more brokenness and mistrust. Which leads to a lack of respect and then many subs begin to question themselves. This is not your issue or problem but HIS !!

How do you know ~ "I know I'm not his preference, even though he bought me a collar." ?? How long have you known him? Why do you wear his collar. Did you talk about adding to your relatioship? Obviously you did cause you said he told you he wouldnt look for another sub.

If this man is making you an option .... this early in the relationship, you will always be one. Been there. Its a rejection and abandonment I was not prepared for.

If this is the value he is placing on you.... dont wear it...you are more valueable than he is treating you.
He is DISRESPECTING you !! I know this is not what you want. Why? Cause you ask us these questions.

I am sorry he has lied to you. Decide what YOU must do before you think all relationships work like this.
I will ~ might get guff about this...but I dont think just because a dom is a dom allows him to just do anything he pleases. The ultimate of arrogance and selfishness. If he owns someone.... he will think of her..... just as much as himself. This is what my Sir would say. A confident dom thinks on his own interests as well as his subs.

Goodluck
Sir's girl, who disagrees many times with the crowd.

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RE: does your Dom/Master want another sub? - 8/22/2007 3:11:23 AM

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To the OP: I think that is definitely a topic for discussion between you and your Master. Get your concerns out in the open beforehand as a poly situation can be a real deal breaker if you aren't agreeable to it. In fact, I believe that is a subject that should be discusses before collaring at all. My opinion only.

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RE: does your Dom/Master want another sub? - 8/22/2007 3:35:35 AM

bbwdommelilith

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When I was a newbie I made the mistake of getting involved with a dom who was very open about his ongoing search for a "real" sub. I was just experimenting, and, besides, he wasn't my type. But after 6 months of (I believe) monogamy, feeling as though I was special to him, and allowing him to get my nipple pierced so that I would think of him "every day", I was devastated when he got involved with someone else as well. It drove me crazy.
I would never do this again, and will never allow myself to be dominated again. Topped, perhaps- keeping my distance, definitely- but never dommed again.

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RE: does your Dom/Master want another sub? - 8/22/2007 5:20:14 AM

xAngelxDaphnex

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i think its a difficult question, i am just 18 years old and i do not have a lot of experience..
but in the beginning when i met my Master He did told me, that he will have other womans around Him.
thats just the deal we made and i am fine with it. I also like womans and if master will take an other girl home,
i only will love Him more haha!(I also think that this is an other situation than if you do not like womans!)
But he also had an other sub girl and I guess she did not like the relation that she had with Him..
she was a little jealous i think..

I think that if you CAN allow it, you can go on with a Master that wants more (sub)girls
I think if you CAN NOT allow, you have to look for someone else.

If you are strong enough to see good things in it, have a lot of fun, and like the way your Master treats you..
Than you dont have to allow it, than you can enjoy it :)

An at least, I think that it is also important that you MUST know, that (Thats how my Master is) .. I believe that His
feelings for me will not change if he is with another woman :) I will always be His little-sweetheart (L)
And i do not feel less special

With a lot of love,
sub angel daphne, sub of Master Stephan

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RE: does your Dom/Master want another sub? - 8/22/2007 1:19:49 PM

Constanza

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If my Master wants another sub to play with, he is allowed as i can't deny him anything. I want to please him in any way, so if that is what he wants.... fine by me :)

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RE: does your Dom/Master want another sub? - 8/22/2007 7:02:35 PM

arayofsunshine55

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It is part of my Daddy;s nature to conquer, to explore, to enjoy. So he is married. He owns another switch. And he seduces subs/witches who find him irresistible. Do I allow him? Not only is that just not an appropriate question in my relationship, I try to find ways to get off on his conquests and exploits. That is a combination of emotional masochism and sympathetic enjoyment of his pleasure.

He is who he is and I love him. I find ways to celebrate him being fully him. And he does the same with me.

Edited to add: It is uesefule to be one very arrogant and confident bitch. If he left me for another then so bit it. I am by far too wonderful and I know he knows it. If he didn't know it then he would not be really worthy of me. So I don't live in fear of his coming or going. And that encourages him to be him. Well that and my wet cunt.

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RE: does your Dom/Master want another sub? - 8/22/2007 7:44:10 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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For every action, there is a reaction...and for every choice, there is a consequence...always keep in mind your reaction and choices..it is your life, decide what you want, need, desire and go from there..Tempting

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RE: does your Dom/Master want another sub? - 8/22/2007 8:07:02 PM

Steelriven

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Sir is willing to certainly scene with others. We discuss it, and then discuss it with the person who wants him to preform the scene. No sex is envolved, and everything is concentual. Safe calls are always available to either Sir or the submissive.

As far as wanting another submissive? We've talked about it, we aren't poly. But a nice housekeeping servant would be nice hehe.

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RE: does your Dom/Master want another sub? - 8/22/2007 10:29:41 PM

slaveluci

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quote:

ORIGINAL: blossomtree
and if he does want to take another sub or play with others, do you allow him to do that?

As His slave, I don't "allow" Him to do anything. He does as He desires to do. If you mean do I "feel" accepting of my Master engaging in activities with other females? Why "yes I do" and, if I'm lucky, I can join in too

. It's something we both very much enjoy........luci

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RE: does your Dom/Master want another sub? - 8/22/2007 10:59:01 PM

hisdevotedtoy

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I think I understand where you are coming from. If this isn't something you expected or previously talked, to think He desires to add someone else can really hurt. Communicate.

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RE: does your Dom/Master want another sub? - 8/23/2007 7:53:04 PM

behindmirrors

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quote:

ORIGINAL: blossomtree

(Does your Dom/Master want another sub?)...
and if he does want to take another sub or play with others, do you allow him to do that?

I don't know if my Master is really interested in having another submissive- a switch would probably be a better fit, and more the type he seems to have attracted thus far. We're not really actively looking though- more like "if something comes to be, that's cool".

If my Master desires to play with others, provided everything is fully discussed and negotiated between all so that all parties are fully informed, I am fine with that- especially since he has allowed me the same, only I have to get permission, haha.

behindmirrors.

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RE: does your Dom/Master want another sub? - 8/23/2007 9:06:38 PM

xoxi

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Will I "allow" the man I'm in a relationship with to date another girl? Of course.

Will I still be there when he gets home? Not on your life.

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RE: does your Dom/Master want another sub? - 8/23/2007 9:06:39 PM

slaverosebeauty

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quote:

ORIGINAL: blossomtree
does your Dom/Master want another sub?

No.

IF He did {points to the door} bye bye.

quote:

and if he does want to take another sub or play with others, do you allow him to do that?

Our relationship dynamic and beliefs do NOT allow for another submissive or slave. An occassional mutually agreed upon female is a possibility a distance down the road on rare occassion, yet, not on a regular basis or for a '3rd.' MJ and I do NOT believe in poly. If things changed and thats what He wanted, with a heavy heart, I would be gone in a heartbeat; and NOT look back.

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