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ORIGINAL: ocilla

Very good to know to be aware that it is a hot trend at the moment  - kind of like chicks kissing in bars, the whole lesbian obsession, m2f anal of years past.  I think you are on to something with that. 

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ORIGINAL littlesarbonnsupersubsecretagentauteurtuffdom

Wait! Tell me more about this "chicks kissing in bars" thing! Man, I hate that I live such a sheltered life here in the convent.

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ORIGINAL: SubJordanTyler

As far as size goes, going bigger and bigger is something I do like to do.  For me, it's not really a guy thing, as much as just testing my limits - to see how deep I can take it and how wide I can stretch to take the width.  Even though I can get a nice, tight feeling from something normal, I just want to see how much more I can take.  Since I'm also a pain slut, the larger and larger strap-ons/dildos are going to hurt, and that is something I like.  So the pain is wonderful, and when you add that with being able to just stretch a little further each time, that's great for me.

I did do the strap-on gangbang once, although it was probably more of a mini, as it was with three women.  I can't say it exactly lived up to the fantasy, and that was mostly because of how much pain I was in.  Because there were three of them, the pounding was just relentless.  When one would get tired, they just moved to my mouth and another took over.  If it was just one woman, I'd get a break, but with multiples, I didn't get a break.

In addition to the pain, I was so sore I couldn't walk or sit when it was done, it took longer than normal for the stretching to reduce, and I was torn and bleeding a little.  That wasn't too bad actually - it was the pain and soreness that was the worst.  It took days to recover from it.  I couldn't really complain because I asked for it, but I guess I wasn't totally expecting it to be that abusive on my anus and rectum.  I don't believe I would do it again, although maybe if they weren't quite as rough as they were that time I would do it again.

But there is most definitely a difference in orgasms.  I have the most intense orgasms from anal play and stimulation.  They are full-body, shaking orgasms and I've come close to passing out a few times from them.  I don't come anywhere close to that through masturbation or "normal" sex.

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ORIGINAL: Drifa

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ORIGINAL: ocilla
Ya know - I just don't get the obsession with male subs of strap on dildo size and being gang banged.

I'm a woman, so I can't speak for the male perspective.

I do note that while a gangbang plays well in the fantasy in my head, that in reality there is such a thing as too much of a good thing.

At the same time, I do enjoy being fisted... that's  some size, but it's not the size that I'm after there, it's the intensity and the whole experience of what my Lady is doing, the time she's taking with me, and so forth.  Following some fantasy play not too long ago, my Lady got me three dildos... big, huge, and freaking enormous, and she worked with me on accepting those, gradually going bigger. This was not about pounding hard sex, more slow gentle stuff that was designed to test the limits of my submission and trust.  This is not something I ever want to do unprepared, or hard and fast, or very often. But it was incredibly intense.

To me, a gangbang is kind of objectification - the bangee is rather depersonalized, an object used by the gang. There's an element of humiliation there for sure. There's also the theme of being overwhelmed and completely possessed.

Maybe the best way to handle the fantasy is blindfolding and a lot of verbal description playing with the theme?

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ORIGINAL: ocilla

Wow, yall are amazing me with your personal experiences.  The pain puppy part of that make sense in terms of wanting to take something bigger.  And you relentless banging was even too much for you the pain pup.  You might want to go visit Diane if you want to give it a try again.  Based on her threads - including the most recent one from wince this thread sprung - she is no nonsense tough but knows how far is maybe too far even when a sub does not know.

I am so making my slut read this post.  Really great info jordan - think my slut will find it very useful.  I encouarge him to read Diane's posts but think this will resonate with him more.

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ORIGINAL: SubJordanTyler

As far as size goes, going bigger and bigger is something I do like to do.  For me, it's not really a guy thing, as much as just testing my limits - to see how deep I can take it and how wide I can stretch to take the width.  Even though I can get a nice, tight feeling from something normal, I just want to see how much more I can take.  Since I'm also a pain slut, the larger and larger strap-ons/dildos are going to hurt, and that is something I like.  So the pain is wonderful, and when you add that with being able to just stretch a little further each time, that's great for me.

I did do the strap-on gangbang once, although it was probably more of a mini, as it was with three women.  I can't say it exactly lived up to the fantasy, and that was mostly because of how much pain I was in.  Because there were three of them, the pounding was just relentless.  When one would get tired, they just moved to my mouth and another took over.  If it was just one woman, I'd get a break, but with multiples, I didn't get a break.

In addition to the pain, I was so sore I couldn't walk or sit when it was done, it took longer than normal for the stretching to reduce, and I was torn and bleeding a little.  That wasn't too bad actually - it was the pain and soreness that was the worst.  It took days to recover from it.  I couldn't really complain because I asked for it, but I guess I wasn't totally expecting it to be that abusive on my anus and rectum.  I don't believe I would do it again, although maybe if they weren't quite as rough as they were that time I would do it again.

But there is most definitely a difference in orgasms.  I have the most intense orgasms from anal play and stimulation.  They are full-body, shaking orgasms and I've come close to passing out a few times from them.  I don't come anywhere close to that through masturbation or "normal" sex.

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ORIGINAL: ocilla
Learning so much from yall.  And yeah  - the fisting is a whole different ball of wax I have found.  A whole lot more intense and interesting for me as the fister than has been strapon to date. 

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ORIGINAL: ocilla

Too Ivy: No your response is helpful. I was hoping women subs would weigh in. And I was thinking a gangbang was always a rape - so that alone offers some education.  And I can fathom the mental versus physical stimulation. Thanks - not gibberish at all.