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RE: Online relationships - 8/26/2007 11:26:37 AM

CuriousLord

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Having an online relationship would probably be a bit more unfulfilling for most. Bodies want to touch eachother, and many people have great difficulties connecting the idea that someone online is actually a real person. (Particularly older generations who aren't as used to such communications. Some even believe the Internet just to be a computer program! I still want to find some of these people again so I can question them as to what they think phones are..)

In any case, the medium does limit many types of contact, particularly physical, so a monogamous online relationship can be straining.

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RE: Online relationships - 8/26/2007 11:36:07 AM

sambamanslilgirl

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currently in an online relationship for over a year now (surpassing any naysayer's typical expectation) with Daddy. though our type of relationship/dynamic may not work for many, it successfully works for us because we quite independent, motivated and can function in both worlds. unlike those who said/agreed that it's used to get your life together and missing the physical side to BDSM - HA! my life is together - enjoying the success and fame of being local music scene reviewer/net radio personality ...i don't need physical sex with Daddy to feel "complete" - we are very much happy together - that's merely dessert in a 7 course meal. i enjoy having an online relationship with Him while i begin the next stage and seek another (nilla or otherwise) relationship.

oh to add - we do meet physically when He can ...and the collars i wear aren't online collars either. the leather one (as well as the othes i own) are as real as our relationship.

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RE: Online relationships - 8/26/2007 11:39:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

Having an online relationship would probably be a bit more unfulfilling for most. Bodies want to touch eachother, and many people have great difficulties connecting the idea that someone online is actually a real person. (Particularly older generations who aren't as used to such communications. Some even believe the Internet just to be a computer program! I still want to find some of these people again so I can question them as to what they think phones are..)

In any case, the medium does limit many types of contact, particularly physical, so a monogamous online relationship can be straining.

I totally agree with this it is human nature to want to touch feel and to be touched

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RE: Online relationships - 8/26/2007 6:44:17 PM

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I would like to know if any of you had online bdsm relationships & about your experiences. No need to detail just want to know the positives/negatives. Little curious here want to learn...:)

I believe there are far more positives than negatives. Digital photography and web cams have changed the way online BDSM relationships develop but, in their most basic sense where there's just exchanges of email, they're no different to the way people romanced each other at times when circumstances force physical distances between them. For example, I spent the first 6 or 7 years of married life frequently away from home for long periods of time. This was pre-Internet and while we occasionally kept in touch by phone, letter writing became the favored form of communication. BDSM had been a physical part of our relationship even before we married, but it took those letters to fully reveal our darkest desires and so on. It depends on the person, of course, and many people simply don' t have the patience it takes to get to know anybody through letter writing. But if you have that kind of patience, it can be very reqarding in the long run.

On the down side, I can appreciate the fact many people regard cybering as just plain silly. I've cybered a few times, and even had a bit of fun doing so. But then, I'm not a person who is under any illusions that the person sitting on the other side of the screen could well be sitting there in her flannel jim-jams and fluffy slippers. In fact, I'd rather know that she was being herself and not pretending to be naked and orgasming every time I made a typo. Could well be that "she" is even a "he", and I don't have any particular issues with that either. I don't particularly understand it, but I have no issues. As long as they aren't scaring the horses or hurting the children...

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