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RE: Continuing to post after I've said no thanks - 8/28/2007 9:44:29 PM

Alumbrado

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Do respond to say "Thank you, but I'm not interested". That's polite. People that can't even be bothered with that is a major peeve of ours.

.....PLEASE don't ignore that first email. It is soooooo incredibly rude.

About as rude as muting the TV during the commercials. No one is owed anyone else's time or effort.

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RE: Continuing to post after I've said no thanks - 8/28/2007 9:46:38 PM

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You can block the mail.................then they can't contact you again.

Belive it or not, some will create a new profile and may even pretend to be someone else to try a new technique or type of message to get ones attention.

Ohhhh the drama.

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RE: Continuing to post after I've said no thanks - 8/29/2007 4:17:13 AM

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I'm not a fan of blocking. Not for me, mind you, I couldn't possibly have such a need. I guess I should say I'm not a fan of advising someone to block.

Once you've done the diplomatic thing of responding to an initial email, and yes I think that is a rarer thing these days than it should be, your obligations are up. At the same time, you don't wish to provoke needless animosity.

If another email from an 'undesireable' comes in, you could block it, you could delete it unread, or you could open it and read it or not. Not responding, I think, is fine at that point, but blocking, in my opinion, sends out a very negative message. Since you aren't able to judge the motivations of the other person, you don't know whether you end up provoking a stalker who now seeks revenge.

Say what you will, but why make an unknown person more determined to cause harm because of something you feel is an 'innocent' spurning.

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RE: Continuing to post after I've said no thanks - 8/29/2007 4:32:05 AM

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Riiiiight... and you had better meet with them and have sex, so that you won't be forcing them to turn to serial killing out of frustration at being rejected...

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RE: Continuing to post after I've said no thanks - 8/29/2007 3:14:37 PM

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I'm not a fan of blocking. Not for me, mind you, I couldn't possibly have such a need. I guess I should say I'm not a fan of advising someone to block.

Once you've done the diplomatic thing of responding to an initial email, and yes I think that is a rarer thing these days than it should be, your obligations are up. At the same time, you don't wish to provoke needless animosity.

If another email from an 'undesireable' comes in, you could block it, you could delete it unread, or you could open it and read it or not. Not responding, I think, is fine at that point, but blocking, in my opinion, sends out a very negative message. Since you aren't able to judge the motivations of the other person, you don't know whether you end up provoking a stalker who now seeks revenge.

Say what you will, but why make an unknown person more determined to cause harm because of something you feel is an 'innocent' spurning.

I understand and agree to a point. However this topic and this post is concerning after diplomatic methods have been exausted. Nobody(I don't think) is saying or sugguesting to e-mail "no thanks" and then block them giving them no chance to reply one way or another. When I say block I mean after the no thanks has been given, yet they continue to ask and bug away. At such point in time you have no choice but to block them. That or just ignore and delete their e-mails as they come in which can be and would be annoying and frustrating.
As such a point in time if someone is going to be unreasonable the same way, be it by being blocked, or by being deleted and ignored. One way is just less annoying than the other I think.

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RE: Continuing to post after I've said no thanks - 8/29/2007 3:33:00 PM

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Hello Everyone:

I'm seeking some insight into the Masterful Mind.

I almost always give a polite no-thank-You response to Masters who don't fit what I'm looking for - usually it's because of location and/or accessibility. But there are some men who keep cmailing me even after I've said no thanks. These emails aren't the generic mass email kind of message, either. They are tailored to things in my profile or forum posts.

I know the quick and obvious answer. At best, these guys just aren't paying attention. At worst, they are ignoring my no and ... hoping I won't notice? hoping I won't care? (Scary.)

Either way, I just don't get it.

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It is nice you answer them all I am sure it is very time consuming. I would agree with many here after you say no if they write back and you know they have send them a note I said no now I am blocking you.

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RE: Continuing to post after I've said no thanks - 9/4/2007 8:54:14 PM

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I say block them...once you have politely said no...well...no means NO..not maybe...not, please write again and again...*sheesh*...

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RE: Continuing to post after I've said no thanks - 9/4/2007 9:01:13 PM

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i send an thank you ,, if they keep mailing ,, then i click the block button.

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RE: Continuing to post after I've said no thanks - 9/4/2007 11:57:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: pearlmoongirl

Hello Everyone:

I'm seeking some insight into the Masterful Mind.

I almost always give a polite no-thank-You response to Masters who don't fit what I'm looking for - usually it's because of location and/or accessibility. But there are some men who keep cmailing me even after I've said no thanks. These emails aren't the generic mass email kind of message, either. They are tailored to things in my profile or forum posts.

I know the quick and obvious answer. At best, these guys just aren't paying attention. At worst, they are ignoring my no and ... hoping I won't notice? hoping I won't care? (Scary.)

Either way, I just don't get it.

~ pmg

If the letters are neither insulting nor harassing then they may simply be from men who are trying to persuade yout o change your mind.

But you have the right to end the correspondence, and they should respect that.

Feel free to use the "block" feature to block the writers when they become a nuisance.

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RE: Continuing to post after I've said no thanks - 9/10/2007 10:14:36 AM

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It's up to you to filter your own mailbox. There's any variety of things you can do...the ignore button being the most drastic.

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RE: Continuing to post after I've said no thanks - 9/10/2007 10:30:59 AM

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You can block the mail.................then they can't contact you again.

Belive it or not, some will create a new profile and may even pretend to be someone else to try a new technique or type of message to get ones attention.

Ohhhh the drama.

I 100% agree....I use "The Groundhog Day Technique" of internet dating....I write down the subs likes and dislikes, keeping it all meticulously filed...When I fuck up on one profile I simply return again, better armed and prepared for conquest with my next profile........You like short hair...I've got short hair...You love blue eyes ..Mine are blue....Did I mention that I am a sculptor? I love cats!! God, I have always thought that dating someone on psych meds would be cool!!!...And so on...

It works like a charm!!...It might take about six or seven profiles to get the cheese...But few things of worth are gained without putting in some hard work.

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RE: Continuing to post after I've said no thanks - 9/10/2007 12:14:46 PM

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Just delete them unread.
With many, as soon as you respond in any way, they take that as a sign of interest or at the very least a door opening. If I'm not interested I don't respond. It's much easier that way.

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RE: Continuing to post after I've said no thanks - 9/10/2007 12:18:05 PM

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Katy, remember when you had phone sex with "DomFromPitt?"....Remember how you thought to yourself that it was like he could finish your sentences and was the perfect match....That was me!!!.....I recorded our conversation...Just in case you ever piss me off.

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RE: Continuing to post after I've said no thanks - 9/10/2007 12:45:41 PM

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HA! You never had it so good...

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RE: Continuing to post after I've said no thanks - 9/10/2007 1:47:42 PM

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To me, it's a matter of reading the fine print in one's profile (unless for some reason the observer is functionally illiterate). I've had my mailbox bombarded by "submiisves" or "slaves" who were nothing more than cock hunters and as such, they were one of the reasons why I adjusted my mail controls to route their mesages to my bulk folder. In short, it's matter of using good judgment.

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RE: Continuing to post after I've said no thanks - 9/12/2007 10:45:12 AM

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Too many people--both men and women--think that they are somehow exempt from the answer no. They bother me. However, it could be that some of these people really think that 'no' is just a first answer and that if they persist you may change your mind. Heck, do you always take the answer 'no' when someone tells you they can't help you (the cable company, a retail clerk, etc?). It's natural for people to push a little to get what they want, but for the repeats who don't seem to undertand you are uninterested--be specific, don't try talking up to them or sparing their feelings. And if they continue?

As much as I hate the idea of banning someone from contact, it has happened. I like knowing that tool exists as an option should I need it.

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