MsSonnetMarwood
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ORIGINAL: MisPandora
Seriously, this topic is so tired and so old. If it's not for you, politely say no thanks and get on with your life. Have you all nothing to do but to bitch about what other people do???? Let it go already.
With all respect MisPandora She is also referring to the reputation of the site, and it does cause a big stain to Collarme's credibility in the online BDSM community. Did you know this site is now called "the Jerry Springer Show" of BDSM? It's not good for anyone, and i would also like to see something done about it, which She is asking.
Is it Collarme's credibility of being filled with so-called money dommes (and let's not forget their counterparts - the masses of males who are only looking for wanking material and/or no-strings sex/play, of which there are arguably far more online) REALLY an issue? In what way is Collarme somehow worse at drawing out these characters than say Alt or Bondage or AOL or mIRC or any of the other sites out there? Who exactly is calling Collarme the "Jerry Springer Show" of BDSM, and what is their credibility in the scene?
Most importantly, what do you suggest is an effective and equitable way to identify and remove both the money dommes and the male wankers (because they are indeed two sides of the same coin)? How will you prevent them from then returning under other names? How will the hours needed to weed out these undesirables be funded since this is a free site?
To me, the heart of the issue is that people are coming online and <gasp> finding people that they're not interested in meeting/associating with - which isn't surprising, really. When was the last time you went to any large group and every last person was someone you liked and wanted to associate with and held the same moral values you did? This topic has been beaten to death, and the only real answer is that if the money thing isn't what you're into - delete, ignore, and move on.
Heck, if you'd emailed me, I'd have deleted your email and put you on ignore because I don't like "subs" whose profiles are little more than a list of sexual likes. I don't think it's a very smart thing to do if you're looking for a relationship to have a profile like that (sounds more like a wankers to me), and I wouldn't want to be in contact with you, but I'm not going to go shouting to the boards that people like you make this site a joke and that you don't have any right to be here. I don't have unrealistic expectations (delusions of grandeur) that everyone online is going to behave in a way that I find appropriate.
This topic is such a dead horse. It's brought up several times a week under many guises, almost exclusively by someone who's posted less than a handful of times, and then more often than not, doesn't participate in the conversation. They insist SOMETHING should be done about it but are rather short on practical, workable ideas on how to make sure everyone fits into what they find appropriate to their views and definitions of BDSM.
It's really really easy to target money dommes and complain about them, but those that do never really seem to be interested in addressing the fact that it is indeed some people's kink, that there are plenty of men online willing to give them money (however wise or unwise that may be), and most importantly, who really has the authority to pass judgement on what they do.
You may find them personally annoying and an insult to what you do, etc, but believe me - there's someone out there that feels the same way about you for reasons that they find perfectly valid.
The only REAL solution is for you to financially support your own site and do all the work filtering people out that fit into your ideals of what is undesirable. However, be prepared - there will still be people with credibility in the scene that call YOUR site the "Jerry Spring of the BDSM world".
Think about it.
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