First off, I read all the replies here so my response is to the OP’s original post.
First off, you say that this post is for the new submissives? How do YOU define what is new? How does the person next to you define what is new? How does the person ten feet from you define what is new?
Someone can have been on the fringes; never actually participated in any BDSM, M/s, D/s; and yet be more knowledgeable than the person who has been in the thick and thin of things for ten years. Who’s the newb? The one who knows everything, and has never tried anything? Or the one who has tried everything but knows nothing?
Who gets to say who’s a newbie and who is not?
Next, you go on to say that it is the ‘new submissives’ who are more often hurt by the posers and players. We have already determined that trying to determine who is new and who is not is a useless waste of time…let’s move on to the posers and players. By whose definition is someone a poser or a player? Yours? Mine? The person next to you? Or the person fifty miles from you?
And since these so called players and posers are victimizing the so called new submissives…it would be in the best interest of all concerned if you could perhaps, define what you mean by victimize. Just so that we are all on the same page here of course.
Now that we have all the definition BS out of the way; let’s move on to what you think should be red flags. Since we aren’t capable of standing up for ourselves it is only natural that we turn to someone, big, and strong, like yourself…to defend us from these mean ole Master’s and Dom’s who only want to use and abuse us poor, wittle subbies ….
Quite seriously, the only red flag I see here has your name written all over it.
