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Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/29/2007 10:30:47 PM

Bobkgin

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My first experience with bdsm was a good one.

I was with a woman in an LTR.

She loved receiving cunnilingus, and being rather good at it, I enjoyed giving it.

The only problem was, as the feelings intensified for her, she'd buck her hips.

In fact, she'd buck so hard she'd catch me by surprise and bruise my upper lip from time to time.

On one (un)fortunate occassion, she'd managed to bruise it three times in a row.

The problem was, I couldn't hold her legs up and hold her hips down at the same time, so I suggested I tie her ankles back to the top of the bed to handle that task. She agreed. So I suggested I tie her wrists to the top of the bed as well, to keep them out of my way.

She agreed.

An hour+ of cunnilingus later, she was hooked, and so was I.

Never looked back to vanilla again.

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/29/2007 10:39:48 PM

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My first one is a bit hard to pinpoint, as I was so uptight about even vanilla sex. Funny enough then I suppose, I consider my first real foray into BDSM to be learning that it was not only safe to give my hubby a bj, it was enjoyable. Not per se the physical aspect of it, but simply that the only reason I learned to do it at all, was because I was so desperate to please him and make him feel good in the same ways he did for me.

We didn't officially start playing with "real" BDSM for another 2 years after that, but that was my first hint of it.

(as an aside, I'm so glad I'm not the only woman in the world who may or may not have been attempting to knock a mans head off with my hips while his face was between my legs O.o)

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/29/2007 10:40:31 PM

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I remember my first experience... my first non-solo experience at least... extremely well. It was the fall of my first semester of college, and I was on the couch at my mothers house with my girlfriend, Janet, who was already long-time and would continue to be so for another two years. We had spent the day together, just resting and cuddling, and were planning on having sex after Saturday Night Live, since we had the house to ourselves anyway.

It was the episode Chrisina Ricci hosted. There was a scene where they spoofed Taxi Cab Confessions, with Tracy Morgan playing the cabdriver and Ricci playing a stripper coming home. They talked of rough sex, and Morgan reacted by swerving all over the road. Ricci discussed how she got off on having her hair pulled, her neck bitten, and other rough things. I noted it, was intrigued, but didn't say anything, and neither did Janet.

After the show, we were making out and her shirt ended up coming off. I was gently running my hand through her hair when she said something that changed my sex-life forever.

"Pull my hair."

I had her repeat herself, then did as she asked. It was intense… she moaned, in pleasure more than pain, and right then I knew that was for me. I'd known I was interested in BDSM since I saw a movie where the girl got handcuffed years before that... but being kind of naive at the time, I never thought I'd meet an actual masochist... which Janet ended up being.

To be totally fair, I can honestly say that if it wasn't for Christina Ricci, I might never have discovered that yeah, there are masochists out there. Janet was inspired to bring up the idea of hair pulling because of that skit, and that led directly to other things, which has led down the path I'm currently on.

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/29/2007 10:41:13 PM

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My Ma'am walked into my work place, I was smitten, i knew then i'd do anything to please her, 14 years later thats exactly what i'm doing, anything she pleases, to this day and no doubt for always if she's pleased then i'm pleased.....the whole 14 years has been my first best BDSM experience

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/29/2007 10:51:03 PM

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quote:

Do you recall your first good bdsm experience?

I have not had any (offline) bdsm experience...so I cannot answer this question.

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/29/2007 11:11:10 PM

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Why yes, I do.........

But those who kiss and tell, kiss less.

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/29/2007 11:32:02 PM

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No, I don't remember my first but the first one I remember is warmly nostalgic...

Was fooling around with a lover in his car, in the front seats, and I tied his arms back with the seatbelts and had my way with him.

I'm gonna write him an email, it's been a while since we chatted....

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/29/2007 11:33:56 PM

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quote:

But those who kiss and tell, kiss less.

yeah, it IS kinda hard to kiss AND tell at the same time...isn't it?

LOL

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/30/2007 12:22:54 AM

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Yes my first bottoming experience at a play party in Nashville, TN in 1991 with Lady Gail......mostly sexual but I'll never forget it.

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/30/2007 12:57:18 AM

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Lemme put it this way Mike. If I want to be an exhibitionist-I go do it at the "community center". My date knows everyone is going to see. For things she doesn't want known by the entire world? You'd have to waterboard me to find out.

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But those who kiss and tell, kiss less.

yeah, it IS kinda hard to kiss AND tell at the same time...isn't it?

LOL

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/30/2007 6:40:50 AM

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my first experience was with a Pro Domme in a local dungeon.
She chained me to a St. Andrews cross and flogged me while naked and blindfolded. As She flogged me my cock grew harder and harder and started to even ooze.
Seeing this She removed me from the cross and bent me over a saw horse and chained my wrists and ankles to it in the bent over position.
She proceeded to heat a spoon over a candle flame and run the spoon across my balls. She then tortured me and performed a tremendous amount of cbt. my pain tolerance was very high at that point and has grown immensely since.

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/30/2007 7:13:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: RRafe

Lemme put it this way Mike. If I want to be an exhibitionist-I go do it at the "community center". My date knows everyone is going to see. For things she doesn't want known by the entire world? You'd have to waterboard me to find out.

So you posted to a topic asking you about your first good bdsm experience, so you could say you're not going to tell unless you get waterboarded?

I'll give you an "A" for originality.

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/30/2007 7:44:57 AM

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Yes...I do recall My first BDSM and D/s experience....

Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/30/2007 8:09:10 AM

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I am going to take some liberties with the question and define it as my first "good" bdsm scene in a good relationship.

I was meeting her for the first time, we had seen pictures of each other but real life is well real so I was a bit nervous about how well we would hit it off. I am standing in the airport waiting for her. I had instructed her to dress in a business suit as that is a fetish of mine and makes me hot. She was to stand in front of the glass windows overlooking the street and wait for me there. I had told her I would walk up behind her, in full view of the public and slide my hand into her hair and twist it hard. Something that few would notice and nobody was likely to comment on. I would then torment her a bit in whatever way I chose, all before she was allowed to turn and see me for the first time.

That was the plan anyway.

Instead I saw her strutting through the airport and almost lost my breath. No doubt this woman was a dominant, the air of power around her, the arrogance and confidence was amazing and oh my fucking god was she hot, smoking hot! I steeled myself for this, knowing she was there to see if I could take her, possess her, but still I wondered if I could tame this woman. I threw my shoulders back and waited for her to stand where I told her to and she did. I walked up behind her and the smell of her hair was intoxicating, I wanted to throw her down right there and mount her but figuring with all the witnesses and security it would be a bad idea. So, I stood there behind her for a moment, letting here know I was there but also that I would move when I wanted to. I then reached out and slid my hand into her hair and yanked it. I had her. I could see her go weak.

What an amazing weekend THAT was and it has only gotten more and more amazing.

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/30/2007 8:38:44 AM

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That weekend changed the course of my life...Thank you...

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/30/2007 8:41:21 AM

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It was my pleasure, really it was MY pleasure....

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/30/2007 8:42:36 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bobkgin

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ORIGINAL: RRafe

Lemme put it this way Mike. If I want to be an exhibitionist-I go do it at the "community center". My date knows everyone is going to see. For things she doesn't want known by the entire world? You'd have to waterboard me to find out.

So you posted to a topic asking you about your first good bdsm experience, so you could say you're not going to tell unless you get waterboarded?

I'll give you an "A" for originality.

maybe scrub boarding would be more affective, huh?

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/30/2007 8:44:01 AM

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I hope so... I aim to please..

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/30/2007 9:00:50 AM

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Memories, memories, sweet memories...

My first experience was pre-planned... I knew much about BDSM but was too cautious and scared for few years to try.
After knowing my Sir online/phone for about a year (he wasn't my Sir then.. but a good friend) we got an opportunity to meet.
He was wonderful, caring, careful not to freak me out. He explained everything to me, the implements he had, the use for them, the difference. Even though I was nervous, I felt so safe with him because he took the time to explain safety points and techniques.
I still remember my first chest harness, which of course didn't cover anything but felt so secure. We spent a wonderful evening together with a bit of spanking, flogging, and just learning about each other and our bodies.
Nice and light experience but I couldn't think of a better way to be introduced, at least for me.

Now of course I can not stop smiling with all the memories swirling in my head.
Thank you, Sir Solar... always!

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RE: Do you recall your first good bdsm experience? - 8/30/2007 9:37:00 AM

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I didnt know when I started this it would end up so long....apologies for the length....but thanks for the opportunity to write this...I think I needed that...Im gonna go cry in a pillow now....

Ok, well...im one of those people who's first foray into the BDSM world was online only. I mean for years Id been having these fantasies and erotic dreams about being tied up and spanked and honestly I just though there was something wrong with me. I can remember having these dreams in second grade, we moved alot when I was little and I always judge my age in memories by what house we were in....yea, we moved that much. My dad is a minister, but he's not one of those live in a closet type ministers...actually my dad's pretty cool..he watches MTV and says shit and damn.....but I did think I had to be the only person in the world who had dreams like that...

So when I was in mid-highschool sometime, I found chat rooms on the internet via yahoo messenger. First I just hung out in the regular chat rooms...then I found..whoa...BDSM chat rooms? really? You gotta be kidding me....I thought I was the only nutso thinking up these things. Sometime around that same year I found a copy of "the story of O" in a box mom had brought home from a yard sale....that led to an interesting conversation with my mother. She said it was disgusting garbage that she hadnt realized was in the pile she bought for a dime a peice...anyway...back to the chat rooms. I kinda got the impression that all anyone in the rooms did was cyber so I still honestly didnt believe that anyone really did this stuff in real life....I guess I was about 16 at the time...

So, right out of high school, Im working as a manager at a hardware store. There was this one customer, there was just something about him, I couldnt get enough of him. He was a regular customer, and was in the store at basically the same time every tuesday. I would stand by the front door and watch the parking lot until his van showed up. It didnt matter what else I was suposed to be doing right then, or if I was in the middle of helping another customer, Id pawn it off on another employee and follow this guy around like a little puppy dog, helping him find anything he needed and carrying all his stuff. I was kinda embarrassed about it, cause I knew he must have thought I was silly, but there was just something about him, and the way he looked at me, Id almost melt.

Anyway, after several months of this, one day he leaned down and whispered in my ear to be ready at seven pm that night because he was gonna pick me up and take me out. I think I just kinda nodded, and I was shocked. It wasnt until after he'd left the store that I realized he'd never asked where I lived and Id never told him. But I decided to ignore that and be ready anyway. I think I was ready by 5...lol...But right at seven, he pulls into the driveway of my apartment complex. I still to this day dont know how he did that, and it was 10 years ago. He kinda put his hand on the back of my neck and just steered me to his car, I cant remember much of what was said that night, but there was no question in my mind I would have done anything he asked of me that night. All we did that first evening was go to a few clubs, and dance and shoot pool. He never tried to do anything to me, or make me do anything, he kissed me at my doorstep when he dropped me off, and during that kiss he grabbed the back of my head and twisted his hand up in my hair and kissed rather hard, and bit my neck so hard I had a bruise the next day. It was an amazing feeling. I never gave him my number, and he never even mentioned the possibility of a second date that evening, and It drove me nuts for several days at work. I couldnt concentrate on anything, I was constantly staring out into the parking lot. When I got home, Id immediatly take a shower and get dressed again in something I wouldnt mind him seeing me in, but he never showed up. Finally, after I almost couldnt take it anymore, he showed back up on Saturday. I dont remember what I was wearing but he made me change, after going through my closet himself. And he drove me to a rather amazing fetish event. Id never before known anything about the Leather lifestyle, even during my time in the chat rooms Id never heard of it, but that night, I dont think I could stop staring at everything around me. I remember asking lots of questions, and he answered all of them, but he never did anything but just let me watch and ask things on my own. I never had an actual bdsm "scene" with him until a few months later, but we were together almost every evening. I dont think he ever actually did a single thing to make me feel the way I did, but there was never any question about the fact that he had compleate control over me from the first time he walked into that store where I worked.

We were together for almost 3 years. Extenuating circumstances ended our relationship, but it ended on a very good note.....Now, I have my 8yr old...who is beginning to look an awful lot like his father, and its very hard for me to see his face without remembering the feelings I had towards J.

My husband and current Sir knows, that everytime anyone asks me to describe the perfect Master, I will describe J. He also knows full well that if I were to ever run into J again on the street, it would take a compleate and Direct Order from him to stop me from falling to the ground at his feet.

I know now, now that Ive grown up some and learned alot more, that most of the "training" I recieved from J would be considered by most to be abuse, tantamount to brainwashing....When driving through my old neighborhood, Ive found myself circling the block where he used to live for hours. I know he doesnt live there anymore, but I physically can not force myself to turn the car away, It takes calling my husband and getting him to force me to drive away to get it to happen....

When most people hear me describe my relationship with J, they cant believe I consider it a good experiance, but for me...it was wonderful. I know for the sake of my son I would never go back...but there is a very strong part of my brain that begs me to go back constantly.....

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