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RE: What does "A Dom you are seeing" mean? - 9/2/2007 6:36:24 AM

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it means exactly what it says; you're seeing him, like dating. i'm claiming to be currently single, even though i've been 'seeing' the same dom for a year now. it doesn't mean that there will/won't be future plans forged or that we're just two people using each other in the here and now. it means that we're dating, plain and simple.

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RE: What does "A Dom you are seeing" mean? - 9/2/2007 8:50:18 AM

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I would assume, if he already has a girl or has another girl, and given his answer, he isn't committed to you. You should prolly ask him what he expects.

What about poly?

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RE: What does "A Dom you are seeing" mean? - 9/2/2007 8:53:41 AM

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I must interject here.

Amen, to the whole post.

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RE: What does "A Dom you are seeing" mean? - 9/2/2007 9:01:54 AM

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I have been seeing a Dom regularly for a few months. He has a girl already. I asked Him several weeks ago what I had in Him and He told me that He was a Dom that I see. What does "I am a Dom you are seeing" mean? What would a Dom expect from a submissive he is seeing?

Either you are "under consideration"

or he is "under consideration."

Gawd.... I hate those words....

my sincere response is....

do YOU want to be his only girl

just another girl who he is trying to control??

welcome to the boards

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RE: What does "A Dom you are seeing" mean? - 9/2/2007 2:36:42 PM

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To the OP..My take on it was that, you are free to see others, as is he. You are a relationship in which he has no obligations nor responsibilities toward.You are an exploration or a convenience or a consideration..I will not take the stance of you should ask him..I would take the stance of what you think it is and if it is what you want in your life...know yourself, then most questions can then be answered from within...Tempting

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RE: What does "A Dom you are seeing" mean? - 9/4/2007 7:12:53 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Isolde2007

Question edited:
I have been seeing a Dom regularly for a few months. He has a girl already. I asked Him several weeks ago what I had in Him and He told me that He was a Dom that I see. What does "I am a Dom you are seeing" mean? What would a Dom expect from a submissive he is seeing?

It means at a basic level that you are dating this dominant. The O.P. has been edited in such a way that many questions are left unanswered in my mind but here are a few: Did you know when he first asked you out that he had a submissive already? Did you know whether or not she was O.K. with him seeing others?

If the answers to the first two questions are "Yes, he was honest and gave me answers to both of those questions" and you were O.K. with that and decided to go out with him, then after several dates the next questions that would have arisen in my mind would have been "What are your intentions here?" "Is this just fun for you or are you looking to: 1.) Replace the submissive you have now? If so, is she aware of THAT aspect? 2.) If not looking to replace her, are you looking for a potential second submissive to add to your family?

But...before you ask those questions, you need to ask yourself what your own intentions are? To just have fun, as long as his submissive is O.K. with him seeing you? To just have fun, even if his submissive is not O.K. with his seeing you because "that's between them"? Are you interested in becoming part of his "multiple partner D/s dynamic" if that is his intention?

It is all well and good to question his motivations but, in MOO, it would be just as helpful to the situation...if not more so...to question your own.

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