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seducing your dominance - 9/1/2007 10:43:20 AM   
Aimtoplease101


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Status: offline 		Picking up on a thread from one of Ms. Vesta's posts, which mirrors something I've seen in a few profiles as well ...

What does it mean to you have a sub "seduce your dominance?"

How important is that to you in order to enjoy a D/s scene?

And what are the things your subbies do to seduce your dominance?

Looking forward to hearing from you all.

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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/1/2007 12:24:23 PM   
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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/1/2007 12:49:54 PM   
MisPandora


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aimtoplease101

Picking up on a thread from one of Ms. Vesta's posts, which mirrors something I've seen in a few profiles as well ...

What does it mean to you have a sub "seduce your dominance?"

How important is that to you in order to enjoy a D/s scene?

And what are the things your subbies do to seduce your dominance?

Looking forward to hearing from you all.

Regards, ATP

In my mind, a subject that seduces my dominance is someone who knows me well, knows what trips my trigger with his submission, and he proffers that to me as an enticement.  This is different than topping from the bottom, in that he is surrendering, but he's doing it in such a way that is nearly irresistable to me.  In my case, he doesn't act out, he's humble, he's strong, and there is alot of non-verbal energy exchange between us that beckons me to take from him everything that I need to feed upon.

I don't think that it's requisite for me to enjoy a slave, however, it seems that him "meeting me" where I want him to be is invigorating.  I think that's what you're asking.

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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/1/2007 5:18:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		i dont think it`s possible to seduce a Mistress`s dominance unless you know a lot about Her. This could be from reading Her profile and points of view here, or from being in long term conversation. Or having met already.

What i would say is that acting differently from how you normally are, to be seductive, may also be seen as being manipulative.

If you are already in a relationship then just be yourself, as that is what She liked about you in the first place.

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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/1/2007 8:05:23 PM   
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It's not non-verbal at all for me. Not when it comes to triggering Her. To getting right there. It's easiest for me when I have those moments where it just washes over me exactly how lucky I am and exactly how grateful I am to be where I'm at. Not that I don't feel that way all the time. I do. I just have moments where that's all there is in the world for me. And I tell Her so.

If She's home and nothing's going on She's most likely sitting in the recliner or on the couch and I just stop and kneel at Her feet and tell Her thank You. She'll ask me for what and I'll tell Her everything. Mostly what follows is a profession of my desire to serve Her and what that does for me as a servant. It then makes Her bounce and smile like the Big Kitty She is and normally that means She wants an exercise in Her Dominance or in my humility. Or both. Either way She's happy.

If She's at work it comes in really well thought out emails. Or a set of pictures of the things She likes to look at and a few words of expression.

If She's busy or I am it happens everywhere in the house with a soft moment almost of "I really appreciate everyhting You do for me." and then I'm back to whatever it was I was doing.

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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/1/2007 9:08:50 PM   
MisPandora


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Status: offline 		That's an interesting take on seducing.  I guess I look at it that it's got to be far more stealthy and less obvious!  The following lyric comes to mind in terms of what he's doing for me:

"On a hot summer night, would you offer your throat to the wolf with the red roses?"

He's baring his throat for me to take, and he's doing it in such a way that makes it sweeter, more pink and delectable than perhaps I'd noticed before.  It's hard to put this into words that make any sense......:-)


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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/2/2007 1:39:04 PM   
TexasMaam


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Status: offline 		There are times when life gets so very busy that I just completely miss the clues from a man that he's craving Dominance.  If he behaves as a business partner might, fairly forthright and conversational, I'll respond as a business partner.

If, however, he behaves as a submissive, responds to Me with the word 'Ma'am' routinely, defers to Me in his body language and with verbal cues, the Domme in Me will respond.

If he supplicates Me by crawling to Me and putting his head in My lap, the sometimes oblivious Domme in Me suddenly 'gets it' and snaps to attention, understanding that what he's asking for is NOT the menu for tomorrow night's dinner, he wants Me, want's My Dominance, and is begging for it right now.

Try as I might to supress My instant arousal, I cannot.

My heart beats faster, I forget whatever we were just discussing and I am seduced into a state of Dominant mindset that must be satisfied from My own Dominant psyche's perspective.

There are, certainly, many times when My Dominant needs take the lead, and evoke his submissive response, but those times when his submissive seduction lures Me into becoming the Domme that he needs are indeed precious moments to remember.

I just don't think of it as topping from the bottom or manipulating Me into what he needs from Me...I think of it as his way of begging for what he craves.

If I were not Domme by nature, I wouldn't respond to submissive seduction in the first place.

Texas Maam

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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/2/2007 2:14:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Politesub53
What i would say is that acting differently from how you normally are, to be seductive, may also be seen as being manipulative.


It could be manipulation. It could be invitation. I think the moment and the energy that accompanies the moment would help separate one from the other.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/2/2007 4:58:50 PM   
HelenaTroy


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Status: offline 		What's wrong with being manipulative? If you've never turned on the seduction to get what you want, then you're definitely missing out.

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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/2/2007 7:01:31 PM   
undergroundsea


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ORIGINAL: HelenaTroy
What's wrong with being manipulative? If you've never turned on the seduction to get what you want, then you're definitely missing out.


So let's say there is a domme who does not want her feet rubbed. Is it ok for the sub to get out some lotion and massage one hand with his other hand and make moaning sounds?

;-)

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/3/2007 2:35:40 AM   
Politesub53


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ORIGINAL: HelenaTroy

What's wrong with being manipulative? If you've never turned on the seduction to get what you want, then you're definitely missing out.



Ma`am i would think that any Mistress who thought i was being manipulative, would end up spanking my butt.

Hmmm i agree....i`m missing out

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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/3/2007 2:59:31 AM   
MrRodgers


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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/3/2007 3:34:18 AM   
EternalInferno


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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam

There are times when life gets so very busy that I just completely miss the clues from a man that he's craving Dominance.  If he behaves as a business partner might, fairly forthright and conversational, I'll respond as a business partner.

If, however, he behaves as a submissive, responds to Me with the word 'Ma'am' routinely, defers to Me in his body language and with verbal cues, the Domme in Me will respond.

If he supplicates Me by crawling to Me and putting his head in My lap, the sometimes oblivious Domme in Me suddenly 'gets it' and snaps to attention, understanding that what he's asking for is NOT the menu for tomorrow night's dinner, he wants Me, want's My Dominance, and is begging for it right now.

Try as I might to supress My instant arousal, I cannot.

My heart beats faster, I forget whatever we were just discussing and I am seduced into a state of Dominant mindset that must be satisfied from My own Dominant psyche's perspective.

There are, certainly, many times when My Dominant needs take the lead, and evoke his submissive response, but those times when his submissive seduction lures Me into becoming the Domme that he needs are indeed precious moments to remember.

I just don't think of it as topping from the bottom or manipulating Me into what he needs from Me...I think of it as his way of begging for what he craves.

If I were not Domme by nature, I wouldn't respond to submissive seduction in the first place.

Texas Maam


Very well said!  Thank you TexasMaam!

You took me to that place! lol  I was having a hard time putting everything into words and your words just took me to a couple of moments where my submissive and I shared moments like you just discribed.  I loved how you explained how you would respond to him coming off like a business partner and then the rest. 

Sometimes my submissive can get a look on his face that absolutly brings out the dominant beast I am.  I don't think of what he does as a manipulation because he doesn't intend to manipulate, but just relax and flow with the dynamic's we both enjoy so much.  I love when my cocky submissive releases his respectful brat!  So far he hasn't gone too far and makes sure he isn't crossing a line.  Any time he wishes to bring out my dominance, gives me opportunity to enjoy his submission and it's all the more fun!  Properly done... I'm all for the suduction!

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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/3/2007 4:15:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

"On a hot summer night, would you offer your throat to the wolf with the red roses?"

He's baring his throat for me to take, and he's doing it in such a way that makes it sweeter, more pink and delectable than perhaps I'd noticed before.  It's hard to put this into words that make any sense......:-)



That worked for me!

I know what you mean… it hard to define that would truly describe it. It could be the little bell like ring from the D-ring on a collar or the way he/she serves me my drink. It’s a total dynamic, an energy we feel together.   Normally there is chemistry right away; however I have taught slaves I wasn’t particularly attracted to to seduce my dominance. I have various level of “space” and it’s not always sexual yet erotic. The first thing I teach them is proper protocol. How to approach me, address me, serve me. I can have a slave doing this for me throughout the day and if done properly its like lengthy foreplay. I begin to dial in and things begin to happen. I may add things here and there throughout this day like throwing them against the wall while they are cleaning the floors, peering into their eyes and asking, “what are you doing slave?”   But that action is fueled by how they present themselves throughout the day.


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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/3/2007 9:30:42 PM   
TexasMaam


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Status: offline 		Ditto!

If I were not Domme to begin with, that approach would surely squick Me, instead.

A submissive seduction just sends Me every time!

I imagine that it's surely what a Dominant male feels when his sultry submissive partner seduces Him, too.

In our situation, My sub's masculine yet sumissive supplication for attention just makes Me swoon.  Which is to say: my labia swell, my slit gets wet, my clit gets hard and stands up at attention and I take the scene from there to satisfy My needs.

manthing, are you listening?  seduce Me anytime you submissive hunk of Domme bait!

TM

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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/6/2007 8:20:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam

manthing, are you listening?  seduce Me anytime you submissive hunk of Domme bait!

TM


Yes Maam i am listening. your wish is my command!!

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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/8/2007 6:48:44 AM   
crxmale


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ORIGINAL: HelenaTroy

What's wrong with being manipulative? If you've never turned on the seduction to get what you want, then you're definitely missing out.



So True....Isn't it part of the game, the hunt, the big score?   It is so a part of the dynamic of the D/s relationship the Domme manipulates and the sub gets used, and loves getting used.  I bet you started developing your skills in Jounior and Sr Highschool.  The mental ensnaring and enslaving of males.  Keep up the good work.

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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/9/2007 7:47:13 AM   
forluvofmaria


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Status: offline 		Some very good insightful posts here. Having a sub "seduce" One with little kindnesses and acts of true giving do tend to inspire Dommes, lol. Life is busy and sometimes the littlest gesture or offer can start things We both crave.  Topping from the bottom is when a subbie is like a child in a candy store..."i want this, i want that...please do this....me, me me"  Not going to get him anything more than a spanking and sent to the corner...

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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/9/2007 9:46:17 AM   
RaynaSub


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Status: offline 		My Master orders  and allows me to seduce him, at certain times.
He has ordered me to learn to belly dance, and many other fun activities.
We both love seduction, as long as I know my place.

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RE: seducing your dominance - 9/9/2007 5:34:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: undergroundsea

quote:

ORIGINAL: HelenaTroy
What's wrong with being manipulative? If you've never turned on the seduction to get what you want, then you're definitely missing out.


So let's say there is a domme who does not want her feet rubbed. Is it ok for the sub to get out some lotion and massage one hand with his other hand and make moaning sounds?

;-)

Cheers,

Sea


OMG, you are such a true jewel.    I spit my tea out. 

Thanks for the laugh.

Rosa

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