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Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/1/2007 2:32:57 PM

OnyxDelphi

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I ask this simply out of curiosity of everyones opinion.

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/1/2007 2:53:18 PM

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What are the top five dom tricks? Is that what you're asking, because the post is a little unclear.

From a sub's side, or at least from this sub's viewpoint - don't push me faster than I can handle, be patient and explain things as often as I need plus give me time to learn, pay attention to my responses, and give me affection even when I don't think I deserve it because that's the time I need it most.

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/1/2007 2:53:26 PM

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1. Where he left his house keys.

2. Where he left his car keys.

3. What his actual address is.

4. Where his wallet is.

5. Where he left his sub.

I think that pretty much covers the basics

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/1/2007 3:07:15 PM

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Limitations... a Dom's gotta know his limitations.

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/1/2007 3:29:12 PM

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Obviously, this is solely opinion. It's very hard to generalize what others "should" know. However, to my thinking, this is what I feel it would be good for most masters/owners to keep in mind:

1. You are not perfect. Neither is your sub/slave. Remember that.
2. What others consider "domly" or "masterly" should mean less than nothing to you. Do only what works well for you and your own sub/slave.
3. What others consider "submissive" or "slavely" should also mean less than nothing to you. What your sub/slave "should" be is to be determined by you, not by comparison to all the other little subs/slaves you see.
4. When your sub/slave became yours, at the foundation of that decision was more than likely the concept that it would enhance both of your lives. Therefore, both of you should become "more than" what you were before you joined together in your relationship/dynamic - however that manifests itself.
5. You don't need an excuse to do what you desire to do to/with your sub/slave. If you have the desire to do something that many would see as "punishment" yet your sub/slave hasn't been disobedient, don't look for imaginary "wrongs" so you can do what you wish to do. Don't hide behind the concept of "punishment." You are the master. You don't need reasons. Just do it

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For me, those are just 5 good tips to remember. YMMV............luci

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/1/2007 9:04:59 PM

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1, limits, yours and theirs.
2, reactions to whats going on,(wether its to much to soon)
3, respect
4,effection
5, the learning curve, both yours and theirs.

this is not any order to me.

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/1/2007 9:12:39 PM

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Limits and how to respect them and when to push them
Who HE is
Safewords and what they mean
Basic first Aid, CPR, and how to USE His first aid kit
How to communicate

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/1/2007 9:24:54 PM

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1- trust is never automatic ...it has to be earned

2- respect is a two-way street

3- getting to know your sub/slave first isn't undomly

4- you are not God nor should you pretend to be

5- master yourself before mastering another

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/1/2007 10:05:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: OnyxDelphi

I ask this simply out of curiosity of everyones opinion.

Greetings Delphi,

1. I am the best thing since sliced bread.
2. I am the best thing since sliced bread.
3. I am the best thing since sliced bread.
4. I am the best thing since sliced bread.
5. Refer to 1-4.

Be well.

Frank Ar.

PS. THIS is sarcasm.....grins..

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/1/2007 10:14:22 PM

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1. It's my house, and I'll leave the toilet seat up if I want-you are a big girl, and can put it down.

2. Drama will be ignored until stops.

3.Communication means having your say-but not neccesarily having your way.

4. Bottoms trying to control everything are usually dissapointed when they get what they want.

5. Fanasies only become real with WORK.

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/1/2007 11:39:33 PM

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1. Just because i may have consistant reactions doesn't mean it's safe to predict my response on something new or with a slightly new twist.

2. There is a difference between knowing what i need over what i want. I should trust you to know that :)

3. BDSM doesn't mean traditional romance is dead :) Even with a collar on, flower are still pretty :)...well i think so anyway hehe

4. Maybe it's just my opinion, but just because i have inner desires doesn't mean i'm putting out....or discussing...sex with you on a first date. Gosh, give a girl a chance to salvage a little class :) hehe

5. :) I'm a sub because it's natural. It's who i am. It's me. I live to make you happy. "Rewards" don't do it. If i make you happy, be happy. Show me you're happy. If it's still not enough, get rid of me. If i live to make you happy, and you're not happy, what does that make me?? :(

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/1/2007 11:58:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveluci

Obviously, this is solely opinion. It's very hard to generalize what others "should" know. However, to my thinking, this is what I feel it would be good for most masters/owners to keep in mind:

1. You are not perfect. Neither is your sub/slave. Remember that.
2. What others consider "domly" or "masterly" should mean less than nothing to you. Do only what works well for you and your own sub/slave.
3. What others consider "submissive" or "slavely" should also mean less than nothing to you. What your sub/slave "should" be is to be determined by you, not by comparison to all the other little subs/slaves you see.
4. When your sub/slave became yours, at the foundation of that decision was more than likely the concept that it would enhance both of your lives. Therefore, both of you should become "more than" what you were before you joined together in your relationship/dynamic - however that manifests itself.
5. You don't need an excuse to do what you desire to do to/with your sub/slave. If you have the desire to do something that many would see as "punishment" yet your sub/slave hasn't been disobedient, don't look for imaginary "wrongs" so you can do what you wish to do. Don't hide behind the concept of "punishment." You are the master. You don't need reasons. Just do it.

For me, those are just 5 good tips to remember. YMMV............luci

Luci....awsome post ...and i LOVE number 5 ...Master and i have a pretty good handle on this one. He has at the end of a hard day wanted to just give me a good beating....He even told me...it wasnt because of anything i did it was for Him...because He wanted to do it and thats what i am for. I smiled when He told me that.

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 4:25:15 AM

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1. Their slave's name
2. How to locate The US on a map.
3. Basic math
4. Basic English
5. How to drive

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 5:20:40 AM

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( Disclaimer: these are only MY thoughts and opinions. They in no way reflect the thoughts or opinions of others and are in no way meant as a generalization of ‘ALL’ )

The top 5 things a Master/Dominant should know about himself

#1 That he’s human; and human beings are not infallible. They CAN and WILL make mistakes; sometimes even inadvertently causing pain to others in the process. This does not make you a ‘bad’ person; it does not make you ‘less’ of a person either. It simply makes you human. EXPECT to make mistakes.

#2 You are not God. You are not all-knowing and all powerful. Do not be afraid or ashamed to admit that you don’t know something; or that there might be something that you are incapable of doing. Remember; the only way to know something; is to first learn about it or how to do it.

#3 Love and caring does not make you weak; nor does it weaken your Dominance within a relationship. Emotions such as these can often intensify your control; enabling you to see and hear things from your partner that you may have previously disregarded as unimportant.

#4 Dominance has nothing to do with how big or strong your muscles are. Nor does it have anything to do with what kind of words you may use in regards to your partner. Dominance has everything to do with knowing how strong your spirit and mind are; and knowing how to control those forces within yourself.

#5 The word Master is just that. A word. Unless you understand the meaning behind the word; you will never fully comprehend the responsibilities that go with the use of this word.

Top 5 things a Master/Dominant should know about the person(s) that he is in/contemplating a relationship with.

#1 Your submissive/slave(s) is/are human. They can and will make mistakes; sometimes inadvertently hurting others in the process. To believe otherwise is unrealistic. EXPECT them to make mistakes; understand the reason behind the mistakes and know that no matter how many issues(mistakes) you are able to remove from your relationship; there will ALWAYS be new ones to take their place J Accept this as fact; understand that all you can do is try to help with them; and then move forward.

#2 We like conversation. In all forms; whether we are just talking about the weather, to discussing something of importance. We like conversation. To deny us this is to deny us something that is NEEDED to keep our lives balanced and healthy.

#3 Even if you do not recognize the difference between ‘play’ and abuse; believe me, your submissive/slave WILL.

#4 We like consistency. We like to know that we can rely on you for this. When you are inconsistent, it confuses us and we tend to back away from such situations. If you MUST break with something that has been consistent in the past; tells us please. It does not detract from your position of authority; it only adds to it.

#5 If you want to keep us; treat us with the respect that we deserve. Respect comes in many forms; common decency is one form of this. It does not hurt your image if you respect the girl/boy kneeling at your feet; it only adds to it J in a good way.

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 6:38:01 AM

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Just My thoughts........

1. Be a human being, before being considered a Dom. That means all that comes with it. Not perfect, will make mistakes, and need to handle accordingly when they do.

2. Always have an air of humility. No matter how skilled or knowledgable you are, there is always someone out there who knows more than you, has been doing it longer, and might just be better at it.

3. Remember your responsibilities. The buck stops with you. The safety, security, and general well being of your submissive belongs with you. Honor that.

4. Be grateful. Never forget that you are living the life that most people only dream about.

5. Never stop learning, evolving, and growing. Whatever point you are at right now..... There is always more.... So much more.

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 7:40:16 AM

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Wow, great posts. I for one enjoy the insight into the submissive's mind, provided by many of your posts. I'm just going to watch and learn (or get reaffirmed on some). (the "other half" of Breatheasone"

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 8:45:39 AM

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Estring,
Gees, always with the completely over the top demands

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 8:47:18 AM

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Good question...

1) You are a person, a normal everyday person with highs and lows, flaws and errors. You are not perfect. You are not God, King, Superman, or any other such thing. You are no better or worse than you make yourself out to be. Do not try to act any more than what you are. Normal and everyday. Even a Master with 30 beautiful sex slaves is the same as me with none... Normal and everyday.

2) Understand yourself. Your strenghts and weaknesses. Your Flaws and imperfections. Know what you can and cannot do. Do not try to be anything you are not. Do not hide yourself or your flaws, espesially from yourself and work to improve upon them. Be proud of who you are. If you are not... then change yourself so that you are, because untill you are, you can be no Master.

3) Understand those around you. Be it your sub, or be it just everyday random people. For your sub, know her just as well as yourself. And accept her for her. She is just normal like everyone else. She has her flaws. Unless you accept her for who she is, how could you be a real Master to her? Work with her to change and better her flaws, but do not force and push. Accept the fact that her flaws may always remain flaws. If you cannot accept such or who she is, she shouldn't be your girl. For others, understand that they are just like you. No better no worse and are only as they project themselves to be, just like you. "do unto others as you would have others do unto you" Respect them. Do not force your will upon them. Treat them as an equal untill proven or changed otherwise. A bad Master demands respect, a Good one Gives it off.

4) Learn. Never stop learning. Grow. Mistakes are lessons to be learned, ways to improve yourself. They happen. Learn from the wisdom and experience of others. Learn from the conversations of others, learn from your submissive and what she might offer to teach(take this however you will) Learn. To stop learning is to die. To stop learning is to be prideful.(a Dark side emotion eww lol) To stop learning is to stop being a Master.

5) Be fluid. You are a Master. You ahve rules and Laws. So does the world and life itself, and you are no greater than them. As you learn and grow, should your rules and foundation need to be shaped or changed then do so. Should life present a wall, find a way around it. Never stop, but never stay on a streight line blockheaded path either. Grow and change with your submissive, together, do not grow apart and expect her to follow. Be fluid and be level headed about change. It is not always good, but sometimes you have no choice but to be bad. Be fluid so whatever life , ds, love or circumstance throws in your way, you adapt and make it work as best as you are able for both you and your sub.

::shrugs:: I guess those are my 5. maybe they would count as more than 5. lol But if I had to give 5 things, those would be it.

Just my opinion anyways. :)

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 8:50:58 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaverosebeauty
Basic first Aid, CPR, and how to USE His first aid kit

Good point. That is very key.
Then again I'm under the thought that Everyone should know this. vanilla or not, Master or not. :)

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RE: Top 5 Things Every Master Should Know... - 9/2/2007 8:56:18 AM

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ORIGINAL: Estring

1. Their slave's name
2. How to locate The US on a map.
3. Basic math
4. Basic English
5. How to drive

Now Miss South Carolina will *never* be a top, damn it! Well, she's already got the hifalutin' title...

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