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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/2/2007 8:30:04 PM   
Driver1961


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ORIGINAL: apiercedkitty

What about the woman with triangle, vertical AND horizontal hood piercings?? lol


I give up!?  A gurl that's 'wired in' her pleasure button?

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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/2/2007 8:47:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ocilla

Until recently I had never taken a fella to bed that was not really eager and determined to please me - maybe I just know how to pick em or maybe I just got lucky but even if they were not the most skilled initially
I have found it interesting that I had not encountered the less enthusiastic male specimen until I wandered into the world of BDSM.  Having been in exploration mode I've had a few more casual encounters than typical and have discovered those who are more "bottom" oriented are not so great at delivering sexual pleasure.  Definitely has been an education for me.  And has reinforced for me that the relationship D/s dynamic is really critical to me and is not something that I can accomplish with a "playmate", kink buddy" or more casual encounter.  Which is kind of a bummer when one is in the earlier stages of their exploration.


He dips His lid to all;

Yes ocilla! That's two things that concur.

I hazard a gross generalisation I've observed, but  I do question the ability of Doms that place more effort on their BDSM Domliness with finesse to perform sexually for the pleasure of the other.  The 'bottoms' are generally masochistic and respected as maschos that can dictate responses,  but I have little experience here preferring the D/s dynamic exchange.  I have noticed that some Doms (partic Sadists) seem to 'fit in' with BDSM because of sexual performance dysfuntionality.(Did I type that?  A generalised criticism of fellow peers based upon a sample of some 50 realtime!)   Horses for courses!

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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/2/2007 8:57:04 PM   
scrapmetal


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Status: offline 		Most of these posts are too detailed. Sure every woman is different, but people are more similiar than eveyone would like to think.

The vast majority of people who have vagina's reach orgasm during cunnilingus by a continuos, rythmic tounge applying harder pressure on the clit and slightly around it, with enough foreplay (fingers, lighter tounge flicks, longer slower licks) around the area to being with, to make her wet.

It is IMPORTANT to note that if you STOP to take a breath, move around, get some water, text message or what have you, that all of the build-up that you have just been working on will be LOST. And you will have to start building her up to orgasm all over again.

So in a nut shell: fast, hard, rythmic...don't stop till she comes!

People should really describe it that way to young people. It's a lot simplier than you think.

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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/2/2007 9:16:59 PM   
KiandPhoenix


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Status: offline 		Phoenix has a hood piercing. It does screw things up a bit, but not so bad it can't be worked aroound. She has a ring, so I ocasionally will pull slightly on it and release making a sensation she seams to enjoy at times. I don't know about multi piercings though.

~Ki

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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/3/2007 1:42:41 AM   
murmur


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to the OP...at first, i laughed, but i just remembered that there *is* class for women and men in to how to give proper head techniques...seems funny, but for some, it's a very serious matter...
i think you should learn with practice-pratice-practice  but that's just me

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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/3/2007 12:53:12 PM   
ocilla


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ORIGINAL: Driver1961

quote:

ORIGINAL: ocilla

Until recently I had never taken a fella to bed that was not really eager and determined to please me - maybe I just know how to pick em or maybe I just got lucky but even if they were not the most skilled initially
I have found it interesting that I had not encountered the less enthusiastic male specimen until I wandered into the world of BDSM.  Having been in exploration mode I've had a few more casual encounters than typical and have discovered those who are more "bottom" oriented are not so great at delivering sexual pleasure.  Definitely has been an education for me.  And has reinforced for me that the relationship D/s dynamic is really critical to me and is not something that I can accomplish with a "playmate", kink buddy" or more casual encounter.  Which is kind of a bummer when one is in the earlier stages of their exploration.


He dips His lid to all;

Yes ocilla! That's two things that concur.

I hazard a gross generalisation I've observed, but  I do question the ability of Doms that place more effort on their BDSM Domliness with finesse to perform sexually for the pleasure of the other.  The 'bottoms' are generally masochistic and respected as maschos that can dictate responses,  but I have little experience here preferring the D/s dynamic exchange.  I have noticed that some Doms (partic Sadists) seem to 'fit in' with BDSM because of sexual performance dysfuntionality.(Did I type that?  A generalised criticism of fellow peers based upon a sample of some 50 realtime!)   Horses for courses!


I really want to understand what you are wanting to communicate to me but need more help.  Are saying in the first sentence that Doms put more effort into non sexual activities or is it the opposite?

The bottoms as masochists comment....I think you are saying that they are all about getting things done to them soooo?

I understand the sexual performance comment and can see where that might be applicable to the lifestyle although as you said a generalization so certainly not applicable to all sadistic Doms - but just perhaps a good fit for one who is not sexually motivated for whatever reason.

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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/3/2007 1:11:31 PM   
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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/3/2007 1:35:41 PM   
bamabbwsub


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Status: offline 		My ex-boyfriend employed a lot of the techniques that were described in the original post. And, it worked like a charm every time!

Although, yes, all women are unique, I agree with feastie that this is a good "primer" (so to speak). The last guy who went down on me sure could've used the advice that was given here. <sigh>


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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/3/2007 2:34:06 PM   
stonerbaby


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Status: offline 		Well forgranted alot of you have used words that I do not have a clue what they mean. LOL  Also coming from a young man that I am I have had older dominant women most of my early prime.  First I thought about a woman's pussy that the g-spots where in the same place?  I might be wrong.  I mean how hard is it?  How many of you other guys like as in women too have had a blow job that was so damn boring it made your dick limp?  I can say for sure I have.

Not everyone likes the same thing the same way but sometimes it takes the same thing just another way to stimulate the area in which you are trying to pleasure.

For instance, flicking the clit! Maybe the up and down motion don't work for her so at the same time you turn your head and try it side ways or another direction. Remeber the clit gets hard as Cosmopolitans says It's considered a penis....Shocking but true...LoL

You just got to figure out what stimulates it once you find it and you realize she is enjoying the hell out of it, until she rips you up and says fuck me don't let go of it.  I have never once had a woman complain or say that I can't eat pussy. But of course I have the tongue and lips for it. Not everyones mouth is made for it. Just like every womans body heats differently with in matter of seconds you should know what triggers her and what does'nt

                                                      Just a little comment of my own!

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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/3/2007 3:24:07 PM   
curiousexplorer


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Status: offline 		It reads like a teenager who has read a few of his old mans penthouses and written what he thinks women want to hear?

"I've been told by many a female that I give the best head they've ever received...This has come from women who are bisexual...as well...which is quite a nice ego stroke.  I'm not trying to gloat...I'm just saying I've done my research and have applied many series of trial and error to try and get better and better at my favorite activity: Giving oral sex to a Woman... "

Poor bastard. I put no thought or effort into it and had girls recommending me to friends, organising eat offs, and comparing me to girlfriends and professionals. I've never understood the jokes about men not knowing what to do?

While massages are fun and nice, I feel sorry for a guy who requires it to get a woman in the mood. Also if he is going back to people he has already "eaten", they wont be letting him stuff around with massages, they will be clamping their legs around his head about 2 seconds after he walks in the door. When old friends walk up to you and say take me home and eat me, only a masochist would attempt a massage.

"The Op misses the point where a woman just grabs your ears and tells you to hurry the fuck up. If he is as good as he says he would know not every woman can stand prolonged teasing. "

Exactly. It seems like he needs a LOT of support to make his pussy eating worth lying through. He isn't being thrown down and told to show her what all the talk is about.

"Normally i hate having my pussy eaten, it is by far the least favorite of any experience I have had"

Wow, I thought women like you were like unicorns. Do you still like sex? And how do you fill in all that time?
Alas we could never get together, no point going to the amusement park if you can't get on the good rides.

"Exactly.. if you want to know how to eat a woman..ASK her!!!! "

Well, only if her body isn't talking.

"did you hear the guy with the british accent saying "its all sticky" too?
what movie is that from? "

That's not Butters from the South Park Paris Hilton episode is it?

"Oh and I had a boyfirend in college who insisted that all the best things in life are sticky."

Fun is messy. And if it's not wet and sticky, someones doing it wrong.

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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/3/2007 3:25:52 PM   
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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/3/2007 3:46:15 PM   
instynctive


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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/3/2007 4:30:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Bearlee

I don't know if the guy is into BDSM or not...it kinda sounded like not.  And not because we all know the girl would be TOLD to give him a blow-job in return (real doms don't have to ask?)...but rather because he just didn't mention it. 
 
It is my personal belief that even in a D/s relationship, men (even dominant men) LIKE to please their ladies...and not all know HOW.  For that reason, I would be one of those women who (in spite of thinking penitration is overrated) didn't much care for oral sex on me.  That would be because so many men act like it is a chore.  Since discovering BDSM, I've had a boy beg me to let him please me...no strings attached.  We are good friends, I'd just beat the crap outta him...and he just wanted to keep the subby-oriented head-space.  So, I let him...............OMG..........OMFG!!!  john, you were awesome!!!
 

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i personally take great pleasure in performing oral on a woman. i wouldn't mind doing it all day with the right woman. i may not express my eagerness initially, even if i'm attracted to them until i know it's safe to go down there. not an easy subject to initiate without breaking the mood. also, i'd rather eat pussy or fuck than receive a blowjob. blowjobs are still enjoyable, if they're really into it and also know what they're doing. stopping breaks the mood for me too. don't think that's exclusive to women only.

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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/3/2007 4:35:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thanks for posting, OP. Of course, different strokes for different folks but reading it made me hot in ALL the right places......

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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/3/2007 5:11:53 PM   
ocilla


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ORIGINAL: instynctive
Jeezus.. I think the check-off list for a space shuttle launch is shorter....


LOL.  See post #42 for the simplified version. 
And a massage is not always appropriate to the situation...How you got to the eating pussy part of the encounter has lots of variations, the masage is not really a part of it imo.

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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/3/2007 5:19:22 PM   
e01n


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Status: offline 		I'm almost upset with myself for reading all the way through this thread, hoping for new ideas/techniques/styles... I should have expected to find nothing that I didn't already know. Because that's what I found. <sigh>

I had this conversation with Her about masturbation, and it didn't quite get through as communication... but what was understood is this: knowing different ways of getting to the same place is good. Using all of them at the same time is not. Being able to achieve the goal through diverse means doesn't mean that each and every time you must re-invent the wheel, but being able to have variations on the wheel is pretty handy and often welcome.

YMMV. I might suggest "practice, practice, practice" as a way of getting to an appropriately operatic state...

< Message edited by e01n -- 9/3/2007 6:10:16 PM >

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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/3/2007 5:48:05 PM   
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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/3/2007 5:58:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		mmmmmmmmmm ok... so that is how one eats them....  But... how do you cook them?

*goes back to sharping my steak knife**

< Message edited by KnightofMists -- 9/3/2007 5:59:39 PM >

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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/3/2007 6:07:51 PM   
Samaria


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Status: offline 		Seriously, do what most wont do - ask for directions....the best way to find out what a person likes is simply to ask them. 

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RE: How to eat a woman... - 9/3/2007 7:39:31 PM   
e01n


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Status: offline 		Well, that's good - if they know how to express it, feel comfortable asking for it and have a partner that's willing to do just that.

Most of the time, it's been trial and error based on educated guesses that's worked best for me. It's also worked best for them as well...

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