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Dream Control, Anyone? - 9/2/2007 12:19:09 PM

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Please forgive me if I'm posting at the wrong board but nowhere else seemed quite right, either...

Has anyone here accomplished dream control to the point where you can usually control them? If so, did you find that you were able to solve a real-life problem with its usage?

See, here's the thing (and this is where the subject matter gets dicey) -- I am having trouble orgasming with my Dom. We've tried all kinds of stuff and it's only rare that I cum with him, and frankly, we're both to the point of sheer frustration. Sooo, I figured that if I could learn to control my dreams to the point that I'm having wet dreams involving him 2/x a nite for a couple of weeks, my mind and body will be used to it and I'll come with him. Isn't this like 'conditioning', the idea upon which orgasm control is built?

If anyone here has experience with dream control, I'd love your thoughts on this. Thank you.

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RE: Dream Control, Anyone? - 9/2/2007 12:55:38 PM

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The only advice i can give you is to start keeping a dream diary, so as soon as you wake up write down your dream, this in the past i found help me have more vivid and easier to recall dreams...how you would take this in to dream control i cant help im afraid...but im sure google will have bundles of ideas..good luck.

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RE: Dream Control, Anyone? - 9/2/2007 2:28:29 PM

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My advice is that you forget about 'dream control', which will probably be more difficult to do than having an orgasm with Master and take some time for yourself, alone, and begin masturbating to orgasm. Learn what you like, what feels good to you....slow or fast strokes, circular motions, up and down or back and forth. Make sure you're well-lubricated, friction can hurt and slow down orgasmic response.

When you reach a point where you can make yourself orgasm easily, within a few minutes, then show Master so that he can imitate what you're doing. All women are different in their likes and responses, and most men really do appreciate being shown exactly what turns YOU on. Once Master is able to bring you to orgasm more easily, you won't feel the mental pressure to cum and the disappointment when you don't. Good luck! (It's actually a very common problem :) )

This is directed at the OP, not at spiral, who I'm sure already knows how to bring himself to orgasm by masturbating

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RE: Dream Control, Anyone? - 9/2/2007 2:53:41 PM

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Thanx, windchymes, for your advice. I actually can masturbate myself to orgasm, usually within 5 minutes, just having trouble getting to it when he does it, even when it's done the same way...

Well, I'm sure we'll enjoy the journey getting there!

As far as the dream control...I dunno, guess I'll see...

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RE: Dream Control, Anyone? - 9/2/2007 3:18:08 PM

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I posted a well thought out reply to this and now it is gone. Not sure why....?

So I will try again.

Since the beginning of time, I have had recurring nightmares. It was always the same dream, horrible, painful and gruesome. If I woke up in the middle and fell back to sleep, it would continue. I would always wake up in an anxiety attack from them.

The last time I had one, I woke up screaming in the middle of the night, calling out to my Master. It was 3am. Since I do not live with him, I turned to my laptop to IM him. Believe it or not he was right there, and talked me down. And then he ordered me to never have that dream again. I thought that was a cute order, but unlikely that I could fulfill it. The next time I had the dream, just as it was beginning this thought shot into my head - "I'm not allowed to have this dream anymore." and I woke up. I have never had it since, and that was two years ago.

So yes, he influences my dreams. I attribute it to our connection and our practice of energy transferring. He will periodically tell me to dream about him, and I will, if I'm able to get a good REM sleep (I have sleep issues so that doesn't always happen).

In my last post, I also wrote about a DVD that I have, called "Waking Life." It's a philosophical movie, that questions whether we are living a dream or dreaming our lives? It follows a man through a series of dreams, as he asks existential and philosophical questions that are left unanswered for the audience to ponder. It's done in rotoscope (digital film traced over with animation) and is quite interesting, but very heavy. The sound track is good, too.

As for orgasms, if you can cum on your own but not with him, my guess is you are not relaxed. Where is your mind when you are trying to cum? Are you relaxed or does your mind wander to the stresses of the day, and life in general? Are you anxiety-ridden trying to "get one out for him?" What helped me achieve stronger orgasms is rather than trying to push one out, I opened up my mind and body, closed my eyes, and let him come in and take over. I draw in his energy and feel it consume me, and give my body over to him. Where your focus is can change everything.

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RE: Dream Control, Anyone? - 9/4/2007 1:33:21 PM

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BDsbabygirl, i have sent you an email on the other side, but it has gone unread.... anyway, i just wanted to say hello... We are from the same town and there isnt many of us here...

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RE: Dream Control, Anyone? - 9/4/2007 3:06:56 PM

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i was able to cum in my sleep-but it was work.....days of kegaling and always keeping the feeling close with no release.....wearing a buttplug to work-lmfao-i often wondered if the parents would adore me as much if they knew that detail of my life......

anyhow-the night i was to try to do it, i fell asleep with a pillow under my hips, lying on my stomach, kind of with my butt elevated a bit.....i slept through one orgasm i think-or had a helluva dream-and woke in the midst of one of the best ones i have ever experienced....

the "good girl" when i told him about it later was nice too....

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