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RE: Is any mistress only into S&M without $$$$ - 9/6/2007 4:22:54 AM

MsLilac

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Very well said! :)

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RE: Is any mistress only into S&M without $$$$ - 9/6/2007 3:41:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: Najakcharmer

Yeah, but not necessarily with you.

It's kind of like dating, or making friends. If I like somebody, have a lot in common with them, and enjoy their company outside of scene, I'll probably enjoy it inside of scene as well. If they're selfish, dorky in a bad way, annoying, creepy, boringly unintelligent, unable to hold an interesting conversation, lacking in basic social skills or just plain don't have enough in common with me to be fun to hang out with, then I don't want to.

The problem with a lot of male "subs" is that they think women exist basically to meet their needs and fulfill their stereotypes. That's fundamentally unattractive, and men who think that way are probably not going to get any play except for pay. It's really and truly No Fun to be treated as a wank object by some horny jerk who doesn't care who you are or what you want and doesn't even like you as a person.

Are you getting it yet? If you have the social skills to develop a healthy and positive relationship with a woman who happens to be kinky, and you like her and she likes you, then you BOTH get your needs met. If you continue whining that your needs aren't being met without noticing or caring that dommes are real human beings who don't exist just to be your personal wank fantasy, then NOBODY gets their needs met. Or at least YOU sure as hell don't.

you always seem to nail it

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RE: Is any mistress only into S&M without $$$$ - 9/6/2007 3:50:27 PM

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MissMagnolia you win my vote!

Absolutely the to the point!

I have been around quite awhile and I can honestly say that I don't charge. But just as "arayofsunshineat55" said, everyone including me has to pay their own way. We don't live cheap and there are costs to any style of life.

However I also have been messaged by subs and slaves that I wouldn't touch for all the money in the oil market!!!

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RE: Is any mistress only into S&M without $$$$ - 9/6/2007 4:03:14 PM

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DrkJourney - grats on getting your cuffs back. Who ya gonna use them on?

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RE: Is any mistress only into S&M without $$$$ - 9/6/2007 4:22:51 PM

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Am I missing something here??? A sub whining his needs arent being met, erm I dont think you are a true sub hun it isnt about you it is about me!!!!

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RE: Is any mistress only into S&M without $$$$ - 9/6/2007 4:26:51 PM

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You can be my sub for 2 hours at $250. an hour...

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RE: Is any mistress only into S&M without $$$$ - 9/6/2007 5:19:41 PM

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When I first got to Collarme I got two hundred emails the very first day and that was without a picture or much of anything on my profile. I quickly created my profile to stop the insanity and that cut the emails in half. (I can’t influence anyone who doesn’t read my profile and writes anyway.) I then changed it to not looking for anyone.

Here is my take on what I received and how I felt. {All a personal opinion, figures may be faulty by other standards or experiences.}

Most emails contained their fantasy and willingness to serve me to get it.

Many were married and it sounded like the wife didn’t know about their husband’s Collarme activities.

About ten percent were out of the country I live in.

About twenty percent I could have birthed.

About twenty percent were one liners.

About five percent seemed to want to upset a Mistress as their kink.

About two percent should be caged legally.

About five percent were actually ’real’ {lol} and wanted to go through the more acceptable patterns and methods of getting to know a ’real’ {lol} Mistress.

About ten percent read my profile and said something about it in the email.

About three percent were offering something of monetary value for my SERVICE to them!

Now I have more control of things but still I would like to break things down for these ‘real and genuine submissive’s looking for a real and genuine, non money seeking Mistress.

One hour per day reading emails to find a small percentage of submissive’s that didn’t offend me with their fantasy life and needs = wasted time.

Half an hour looking at profiles of submissive’s that sent emails= non productive most of the time, but done to be fair to the genuine boys.

Half an hour responding to submissive’s that were courteous and genuine in how they presented themselves, but not a fit for me= kindness time, productive to some degree, but not for me.

My message to submissive’s like the op:

We all have a bitch; join the club. You want real; be real. If you spent half the time being productive in your search, rather than calling attention to yourself with post such as the one’s you have posted, you might get somewhere. {I did say might.} And if you find nothing works; take the hint or hire a professional. Offending some of the message board population of Mistress’s and showing your true colors isn’t going to get you anywhere but the computer trash bin.

Now whiny boy… eat my chit!

Ahhhh finally something for me! lol

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RE: Is any mistress only into S&M without $$$$ - 9/7/2007 5:46:53 AM

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I haven't accepted money, but I have admitted before & will again, I have been tempted to do the money thing. Mostly, because of "Do me, subs."

If I list what I am looking for, & what I am not looking for, a very high proportion of the messages I get, are from "do me, subs". They like to tell me what they are looking for. They put it like, "I will lick you for hours," or some such nonsense, but it is easy to see, they are looking to get their needs met, with no thought of what mine are. I didn't contact them. They are contacting me. I don't think they even bother to look through my profile.

Some are new, looking to explore & think this is only about sex. That is fine, but really not what I am about. Even when I flat out tell them, it wouldn't work, still they continue to contact me. Sometimes, I will even offer to play with them at a party, or suggest they go to a munch. Of course, they don't want to go anywhere public.

So, if they are not going to meet our needs & have no desire too, & they mostly want to play out their kinks, can anyone not see the temptation for Dommes to ask for money. Honestly, they are better off going to a Pro. They will get what they pay for. If the submissive is not going to meet my needs, really, it would be just like any other job if I were to interact with them.

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