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SusanofO -> RE: Master has no balls.... (9/6/2007 5:10:12 PM)
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If he has actually discussed whatever the problem is with you, and you just don't like his answer, or he has decided that it's not an issue that you need to approve of his way of handling, and you're in a D/s relationship, then I agree with most others here - that is just the nature of D/s, and it's just tough. Decide to handle it, or leave.
However - on another note - if you are complaining that he is not particularly prone to want to be a decent communicator in general, then I will say that -
IMO, there are some people who just have no desire to ever improve their communication skills, no matter who it hurts.
Whether it is a D/s relationship or not, if he is just a poor communicator, is slightly beside the point. If he lacks communication skills in general, then his answer to you wanting to discuss whatever you view as problems, is likely going to be along the lines of: "That's your problem - because X_________(insert problem for discussion here) doesn't bother me at all, so it's not at all important".
If he simply won't discuss anything, or aknowledge you have a right to your own POV (regardless of whether or not he agrees), the relationship might well go downhill fast.
There are people who seem to think that simply because it is a D/s relationship, this means there will be no need to ever communicate with the submissive (or Dom, take your pick) or solve any issues together, and that IMO is a silly and naive assumption, and my guess is, they are going to be sorely disappointed, if that is what they expect.
While I can agree a D/s relationship requires a submissive to submit, if a Dominant, IMO, never ever listens to anything you have to say, and you are very discontent and he doesn't seem to care at all, then, IMO, it is very possible you're with the wrong guy.
I can appreciate someone being quiet, and a "loner" but - IMO, there is a point beyond which this can become very tedious for a partner.
If he cannot recognize he has a deficit in this area (and if you are not the only one who thinks this) - if others have also at some time suggested this possibility to him (that he has a lack of communication skill) - and he's chosen to do nothing about it (it's not like a disease, he can improve on this if he wants - he may never be a gregarious party animal, but he could learn to hold a conversation beyond a grunt, or beyond answering: "Yeah, fine, whatever").
If he refuses to take your bringing this up in any serious way, and shows no effort to remedy the situation...
Then it might be time to move on and find someone new.
Because in the long run, if you desire true companionship (D/s or no D/s), someone like this just doesn't cut the mustard, IMO.
- Susan
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