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louisfceline -> Responses...or lack of (9/6/2007 5:31:03 PM)
To the Laies, If a sub contacts You and You decide not to respond, is it appropriate for the sub to try again a later time? LFCeline

DianeB269 -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/6/2007 5:42:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: louisfceline To the Laies, If a sub contacts You and You decide not to respond, is it appropriate for the sub to try again a later time? LFCeline If a sub contacts me I always look at their profile before I decide to reply. If I see we have nothing in common I do not reply. No, I do not think they should try again. Diane

EternalInferno -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/6/2007 5:44:32 PM)
There are many reasons for not responding and one would be that I am busy and don't have time for it right then. If you have sent an email that was lacking sexual content and selfishness, looked at and read her profile and presented yourself in a respectful manner, I would have no problem with a second email, because sometimes I do forget about that one email that seemed nice. Life is full, things happen like that. I wouldn't nag or complain, but would simply state that you were unsure whether she got the email or whatever, but keep it short. If she doesn't respond then, you may not know why, but you know she isn't interested. A lot of the times if you read her profile, you will understand why. I try to respond to all email, unless it is out of line totally. But have changed my profile to not seeking because of the bombardment I got when I got here. I have found some advice on writing a good first email to a dominant and you might want to do a search and learn from those submissive's that have learned how to present themselves. Good luck to you!

MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/6/2007 5:46:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: louisfceline To the Laies, If a sub contacts You and You decide not to respond, is it appropriate for the sub to try again a later time? LFCeline To be honest, sometimes I don't respond to an email simply because I don't have time. I would say if you drop a follow up email once, that's fine. If the second email doesn't shake loose a response, then I'd suggest letting it go.

goddessAVA -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/6/2007 6:28:07 PM)
depends on the Domme-I specifically state in my journal I like persistance-Especially on cm, it lets me know you are interested in me. I am suprised at how great the sessions tend to be with subs who never stop trying. Like the lottery, you never know it might be your lucky day!

YesMistressIrish -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/6/2007 6:37:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goddessAVA depends on the Domme-I specifically state in my journal I like persistance-Especially on cm, it lets me know you are interested in me. I am suprised at how great the sessions tend to be with subs who never stop trying. Like the lottery, you never know it might be your lucky day! I feel the same way.

Stephann -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/6/2007 6:59:44 PM)
Honestly, I'm a little surprised at the responses here. On the occasion I write someone 'cold' I never consider to write them a second time. I believe I spend a good amount of time and effort when I write someone, and if they have the time to read it, but not the interest or time to write back saying "thank you for the note, I'll get right back to you because I'm heading out the door" or simply replying when they do have time.... well, I wouldn't consider that person worth a second message. As an ironic side story, someone once wrote me on CM. I wrote her back a thoughtful response, and she never bothered to reply to it. I met her in real life, quite by accident, at a play party a few months ago. We dated for about a month, and sure enough she was simply wasn't a very thoughtful person in general. Not a complaint, just an observation. Just my two cents. Stephan

EternalInferno -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/6/2007 7:11:20 PM)
Hello Stephen, how many emails do you get in a day? Sometimes it isn't a choice to be able to send out a thank you, brb email. In planning my day, I tend to check the mail before I leave the site and then am able to know what I need to do the next time I am able to be here or at another site. I most often get a return email sent to them within twenty-four hours, but even then, that can be a hardship to me and I could forget. It isn't a lack of consideration or being thoughtless; it's just being too busy at the moment. I have had emailers that expect a reply as soon as I read the email. On this site, they can see when you read it. I choose what I do and when. But some times it is simply a matter of what might be going on and to have such a rigid way of looking at things, could x out someone really cool.

MistressDolly -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/6/2007 7:49:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: louisfceline To the Laies, If a sub contacts You and You decide not to respond, is it appropriate for the sub to try again a later time? LFCeline There's many resons why she may not respond to your email: sometimes yours gets lost in a sea of other emails, you failed to follow the instructions outlined in her profile, she senses you and she would not a match for one another, etc, etc... If I were you, I would try once more - - it couldn't hurt.

goddessAVA -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/6/2007 8:10:34 PM)
K-just looked at your profile and with all due respect, it seems you are searching for a sub woman. Femdom, like it or not is diff, we are used to being pursued and begged-I like that very much, the humiliation of being one in the crowd for a sub, seperate yourself g-dammit!

louisfceline -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/6/2007 8:18:09 PM)
Thank You all for the responses. Even in the vanilla world i tend to take people on their word or leave them be if they don't show any interest. i just have a hard time differentiating the chase vs. stalking. Again, thank You. LFCeline

Stephann -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/6/2007 8:27:20 PM)
Hi Ava, Hey, I'm totally cool with you doing things the way you do. I only offered my perspective. I really do find I have more success 'meeting' people through these message boards than the other side anyway. Regards, Stephan

Stephann -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/6/2007 8:31:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: EternalInferno Hello Stephen, how many emails do you get in a day? Sometimes it isn't a choice to be able to send out a thank you, brb email. In planning my day, I tend to check the mail before I leave the site and then am able to know what I need to do the next time I am able to be here or at another site. I most often get a return email sent to them within twenty-four hours, but even then, that can be a hardship to me and I could forget. It isn't a lack of consideration or being thoughtless; it's just being too busy at the moment. I have had emailers that expect a reply as soon as I read the email. On this site, they can see when you read it. I choose what I do and when. But some times it is simply a matter of what might be going on and to have such a rigid way of looking at things, could x out someone really cool. I totally agree. I wrote this earlier... and if they have the time to read it,...... or simply replying when they do have time.... well, I wouldn't consider that person worth a second message.

iammachine -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/6/2007 8:55:20 PM)
There are a few reasons why I would not respond to an email: -The person had nothing of interest to say in their email, and nothing of interest to me in their profile. -I got inundated with the above, and completely forgot about the email Odds are though, if I don't reply, I just didn't find what you had to say very interesting, because if it had been, I probably wouldn't have forgotten about it. As such, it's probably not worth the time to attempt to contact me again.

HelenaTroy -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/6/2007 10:16:16 PM)
I won't respond to one-liners. Or emails that only ask "How are you today Miss?" Just because they send me an email doesn't mean that I'm interested in replying. Pique my interest, intrigue me, set yourself apart, and then you'll get a response. Oh yes, and I hate being asked to chat. I especially hate it when they ask for my Yahoo IM or MSN messenger name. That's akin to getting my phone number in my opinion. I'm not giving it out unless we're already friends. Helena

Evanesce -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/6/2007 11:33:35 PM)
In general, I respond to nearly every email sent me, even if that response is to tell them if they can't be bothered to put more thought into their initial contact, then I can't be bothered with them. However, if I respond and tell them I don't feel we have anything in common, or that they're too young for me, or whatever other reason I might have for not being interested in them, then they need to accept that and NOT contact me again. All too often, I'll politely tell someone I don't think we're a good fit, and they'll want to argue their case. At that point, I block them, because I don't need the aggravation. I said no, and that's it.

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/6/2007 11:38:53 PM)
I state in My profile the typical email to which I will respond. If those guidelines are not followed, or at least a decent effort was made to compose the email I prefer, then I am well within My rights to not answer. Yet, I do, more often than I should. But since I am so specific about what I would like to see, if that effort was made, I have read the email, and I have not responded, I would not mind if I got a second email, short and sweet. But please wait a few days or a wee. Sometimes I feel like all these boys assume I an sitting at My keyboard, fingers poised, waiting for the next email. I do get busy, I do get overwhelmed, and once in a great while something will slip through the cracks. However, as other Ladies have also stated, I also get followups, sometimes within a few minutes of when I read an email, other times the same email a week later, a month later, or three months later. I have a mind like a steel trap, and I do remember more than I care to. I also get tired of the complete disregared for what I seek, and the constant requests for chat, webcam, phone numbers. I am always amazed at the number of emails that contain phone numbers with an inviation to call anytime. Those I have no problem deleting without a second thought. And I can pretty well guarantee I will hear from them again, and again, and again...Sigh

arayofsunshine55 -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 3:23:35 AM)
I'm fine with the follow-up. I like persistence. Doesn't hurt. If I didn't respond on purpose, I can choose not to respond a second time. Maybe you're more interesting in the follow-up and I do respond. I do tend to immediately delete those to whom I know I am never gonna respond. And that is the majority of email. So I don't consider a crapload of obviously incompatible and immediately deleted stuff to be an inundation.

thetammyjo -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 6:24:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: louisfceline To the Laies, If a sub contacts You and You decide not to respond, is it appropriate for the sub to try again a later time? LFCeline This raises another question: How long may it take someone to respond to any email? Right now I'm revising the last chapter of my dissertation and my defense is set for the end of October. My sixth book just came out, I'm teaching two classes, and September is a month of 3 major life celebrations in my family. Add to this the stress of my husband current job situation and frankly I'm not posting half as much as I was just three weeks ago on CM. Therefore replies to email will also decrease. It's a nice fantasy that the people we email are online right now and will respond to us. It is just a fantasy however. So once you send an email, I say just wait and see what happens. If you hear back, great, if not, try someone else. Don't allow yourself (myself included in this caution) to get emotionally involved in something that doesn't exist. One email is only one email, you can't possibly know someone so try not to feel anything if you don't get something back. Be more realistic about what you might get and you'll be less disappointed.

MsLilac -> RE: Responses...or lack of (9/7/2007 6:58:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: louisfceline To the Laies, If a sub contacts You and You decide not to respond, is it appropriate for the sub to try again a later time? LFCeline I think that entirely depends on the context of the mail you originally sent. I think it is fairly universal here that the Ladies don’t want to receive mail that does not comply with their guidelines, or something completely inappropriate. If you are sending out generic, meaningless rubbish to any Lady who happens to be on at the time, and she hasn’t responded, it probably isn’t worth trying again. If you are sending a specific well thought out mail, and don’t get a response, it could be she wasn’t interested. It could be she was inundated, could be lots of things. I suppose it wouldn’t hurt to send a polite second mail if you were really interested, respectfully referring that you have messaged previously, as yours may have got lost. Keep it light hearted, and not in the tone of ‘you owe me a reply‘. If she still doesn’t reply, my opinion is let it go.

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