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RE: Female Dominants - 9/18/2007 5:56:53 AM

TNstepsout

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It took me a long time to reach a point in my self awareness that I could understand and embrace my dominant self. In my family, strong, dominant characteristics were not acceptable. Combine that with a very different societal view of women's roles when I was young, and I simply had no frame of reference to be a strong woman.
I think there are many younger women today who are realizing the benefits of the changes in our society and our culture over the last 50 years. They are realizing and embracing their true nature's at a much younger age.

However, I think for the majority there is still a level of personal growth needed to fully incorporate and understand one's dominance. That takes time and life experience.

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RE: Female Dominants - 9/18/2007 7:23:54 AM

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i totally agree age has no bearing to me as long as he Dominat gets to enjoy her bytch i love it

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RE: Female Dominants - 9/25/2007 1:39:40 AM

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I think life experience means a lot. The times have changed as well- the internet is ten years old and seven years ago was a big turning point technologicly for more people being on it. And Dominence in women is acceptable- hence twenty somethings can be Dominent. There's been all these huge changes allowing younger Dommes and letting us know about them.
Younger women are out doing other things too. School, careers, sports, family. I was fencing and learning how to be pretty damn dominent in ways that are extremely usefull! But I had no time to do anything but chase men who were Dominent and go to work and train. Now I have time to explore my sadism, definately my masochism... You don't make it as an athlete if you don't love pain. So I retired and raced mountain bikes.
Older Dommes may bring things younger ones don't. I suspect it comes down to personal taste and personal chemistry. But the business world, keeping kids in line, beating crybaby men down the gym's length with a three foot piece of steel- all usefull.

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RE: Female Dominants - 9/25/2007 1:44:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: sublove037

Overall, are older Female Dominants more or less dominant than younger Dommes or about the same? I noticed alot of Dommes in their 40's, 50's, and 60's on this site.

uh...did you just call me "older"?

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RE: Female Dominants - 9/25/2007 7:26:55 AM

SlaveSubtoserve

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.....and not to forget it is one way for a woman/Domme to quickly gain much male attention!-- now whether, as is seen on the boards here, thats all that worthwhile for Her is another story i guess.

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RE: Female Dominants - 10/7/2007 5:01:12 PM

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I think the answer may be that dominance is not about age. But I do prefer older dommes because they are much more confident than their younger counterpartws. They have more experience and maturity, and to me, confidence makes them much more in control

-- I disagree with you. I am a very confident person and I have met plenty of dommes who are older than me and not very confident. I think it comes down to how each individual is. Everyone is different. Just like I've met some very young subs who have more maturity than those twice their age. Confidence and maturity isn't necessarily related to age. Just like some are wise beyond their years and some aren't.

Look at each person individually. Try not to generalize. Not everyone fits in a box. (oh great....now I have images in my head of trapping a male sub in a box).

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RE: Female Dominants - 10/7/2007 6:25:37 PM

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The younger ones seem to have more of a immature superiorty attitude.

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RE: Female Dominants - 10/7/2007 6:56:44 PM

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If anything is true it is that you can't invalidate someone based on their age.
Sure a Domme might be 19, but she might have three times more experience than a Domme of 30.

The variance is astounding.

Young Dommes/Doms are a minority in the BDSM world, and therefore often get discredited, I think. It's true everywhere.

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RE: Female Dominants - 10/7/2007 7:18:57 PM

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Dear sublove037, Ladies and Gentlemen,

It is my opinion that all dominant women must be judged as individuals and not limited to age, size, style and such. There is a box of candy per se, where all varieties are out there and it boils down to individual preferences in what the seek in another partner.

Beyond the M/s and or D/s factor, age comes with life experiences and I do know and acknowledge that the views of a young woman of my younger days are different in my twilight years. Only hard fast core beliefs, methods and preferred manners, etiquette and such--have remained firmly entrenched but, I do keep an open mind as to ammend my firm beliefs if there is just cause and or proof the change will be better for all involved. I need to see and need to be convinced more by actual proof than just hearsay or just some 'alleged' leader's say so.
Age, sex, location -- does not guarantee perfection, consistancy and or honorable intentions, this is why, in my opinion -- each case as each person, must be judged as an individual and not generalized.

Dominant is a state of behavior and sometimes a title. It does not define the quality or the lack thereof.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: Female Dominants - 10/7/2007 7:36:28 PM

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Most of the female Dominants I have met/and liked (and had crushes on.) have been older. They may not have more experience in the lifestyle, but they do in life in general. That's sexy. (though with a Domme that I get involved with, prefer her to be about 45 or younger.

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