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Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 5:41:53 AM

Bound2Dominate

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Hey guys.. fellow Masters....
I'm here to ask you ''experienced' Masters out there in BDSM land... I just met a 'novice' slavegirl from Holland, and she's into ''Humiliation'' big time !! I need your guys' input on the 'many' ways of humiliating the poor girl... she needs it so.... so help me to help a poor suffering girl....

I was thinking of some 'public' humiliatioin... she enjoy's face slapping... so was gonna give her a few in public...for starters..just gently...across the face... making sure 'other's are watching'... what else guys?? Help me out... having a stall in the brain dept. right now... So, lay it on me guys!!
Look forward to hearing from you Masters out there !! thank you ... Bound2Dominate..

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 5:49:55 AM

crouchingtigress

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ask her to write you a fantasy or two.

i dont think the words "i am into humilliation" are enough to go on blindly....she may be talking about a mild emabarassment of having to try on a dog collar in a pet store, or she may want to be made to wear dirty diapers to a ball.

the range and scope of those four words is nor something i would triffel with unless i had more information.

good luck.

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 5:53:53 AM

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I'd be wary of slapping her in public, even lightly, while others are watching. Someone might decide that's abusive and make your life annoying for awhile.

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 5:58:39 AM

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I'm with crouchintigress on this one. Ask this person to clearly define the extent of humiliation she wants and needs.

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 6:43:53 AM

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In addition to you getting in trouble for abusing her in public, kindly give the poor public a break. They aren't interested in watching you nor in explaining this to their ums.

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 6:52:02 AM

sambamanslilgirl

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i have phone numbers to the best attorneys around because you're going to need them after being arrested for publicly slapping her in front of nilla witnesses who will certainly testify that you were indeed in fact abusing said woman.

i would love to be on the jury just to hear your explanation of the situation in question

sincerely,
sambaman's lil girl who is also certified paralegal

oh btw just because you're into public humiliation doesn't mean the public should be forced to watch you two doing that. are you going to have a "question and answer" time when finished so parents can explain in tiny details to their UMs about what you just did.

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 7:00:31 AM

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There are some easy secret-but-still-in-public things you can do. Maybe have her wear a short skirt with no panties on underneath?
Send her to the grocery store with a list of items such as : bananas, cucumbers, vaseline, ginger root, turkey baster (haha) and things like that. Make her call you while she is at the register and have her repeat the items to you.

Use your imagination and have fun! Just be aware of the surroundings so that you don't inadvertantly push the kink onto other people.

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 7:29:07 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bound2Dominate

Hey guys.. fellow Masters....
I'm here to ask you ''experienced' Masters out there in BDSM land... I just met a 'novice' slavegirl from Holland, and she's into ''Humiliation'' big time !! I need your guys' input on the 'many' ways of humiliating the poor girl... she needs it so.... so help me to help a poor suffering girl....

I was thinking of some 'public' humiliatioin... she enjoy's face slapping... so was gonna give her a few in public...for starters..just gently...across the face... making sure 'other's are watching'... what else guys?? Help me out... having a stall in the brain dept. right now... So, lay it on me guys!!
Look forward to hearing from you Masters out there !! thank you ... Bound2Dominate..

Please be sure if she likes public or private humiliation and negotiate with her beforehand. Humiliation should not shame her or make her feel "less than." But, embarrassment is oh sooooooooo much fun. *W*

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 7:36:50 AM

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For some, just who they have as a Master is humiliation enough.

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 7:45:53 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bound2Dominate

Hey guys.. fellow Masters....
I'm here to ask you ''experienced' Masters out there in BDSM land... I just met a 'novice' slavegirl from Holland, and she's into ''Humiliation'' big time !! I need your guys' input on the 'many' ways of humiliating the poor girl... she needs it so.... so help me to help a poor suffering girl....

I was thinking of some 'public' humiliatioin... she enjoy's face slapping... so was gonna give her a few in public...for starters..just gently...across the face... making sure 'other's are watching'... what else guys?? Help me out... having a stall in the brain dept. right now... So, lay it on me guys!!
Look forward to hearing from you Masters out there !! thank you ... Bound2Dominate..

Boy this really just bellows out with a.....young un down in the parent's basement thinking of posts to send to a website......just too many red flags..

Frank Ar.

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 7:52:07 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bound2Dominate

Hey guys.. fellow Masters....
I'm here to ask you ''experienced' Masters out there in BDSM land... I just met a 'novice' slavegirl from Holland, and she's into ''Humiliation'' big time !! I need your guys' input on the 'many' ways of humiliating the poor girl... she needs it so.... so help me to help a poor suffering girl....

I was thinking of some 'public' humiliatioin... she enjoy's face slapping... so was gonna give her a few in public...for starters..just gently...across the face... making sure 'other's are watching'... what else guys?? Help me out... having a stall in the brain dept. right now... So, lay it on me guys!!
Look forward to hearing from you Masters out there !! thank you ... Bound2Dominate..

Slapping her face in public may will get you done for asault, or attacked verbally or even physically by someone watching, if you're in a shopping centre security may like a word, or of you're in town then the police.

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 8:06:06 AM

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Ask her to tell you about her fantasies. You'll get some ideas there.

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 8:21:30 AM

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Ah yes, the old "we must not force the pure and innocent public to watch us at play" canard. That's ridiculous. Any person can be offended by any action whatsoever. By that standard, NO behavior is acceptable in public. I'm offended by people who drive SUV's. Does that mean SUV's should be banned in public? Hardly.

Parents can and should explain to their UMs whatever fits their moral outlook on life. "That man slapped that woman and you should never do such a thing" sounds fine to me. UMs are going to see much more ugliness in the world than two lovers expressing their love in an unconventional fashion.

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

oh btw just because you're into public humiliation doesn't mean the public should be forced to watch you two doing that. are you going to have a "question and answer" time when finished so parents can explain in tiny details to their UMs about what you just did.

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 8:30:19 AM

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Slap her in a public place and you may find yourself cuffed smiles..bounty

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 8:51:14 AM

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quote:

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Ah yes, the old "we must not force the pure and innocent public to watch us at play" canard. That's ridiculous. Any person can be offended by any action whatsoever. By that standard, NO behavior is acceptable in public. I'm offended by people who drive SUV's. Does that mean SUV's should be banned in public? Hardly.

Parents can and should explain to their UMs whatever fits their moral outlook on life. "That man slapped that woman and you should never do such a thing" sounds fine to me. UMs are going to see much more ugliness in the world than two lovers expressing their love in an unconventional fashion.

Actually, the only thing one would have to say to their UMs about a man slapping a woman in the face in public, at least in this state of the U.S., would be, "That man slapped that woman and you see that the police are taking him in handcuffs off to jail, so you should never do such a thing."

To the OP: I've had some mild public humiliation scenes - very short skirt with no panties on outings and orders to not expose myself under any circumstances (that required constant attention to how I moved and to any breeze that came up outside, and kept my focus on my nakedness under the dress); requirement that I call him "Sir" at all times in public and walk a certain distance behind him; given a list of shops for specific fetish and sex toys to buy alone, with specific instructions on how to dress, speak and behave while doing that shopping *I'm innately shy*, and giving him a detailed report when I got back; having to wear a translucent white blouse with no bra during a light rainstorm; being made to try on too-tight or revealing fetishwear/lingerie and exotic dancer outfits, and to walk out into the general store area to get others' opinions of the fit and look;

There are just so many things you could do for mild public humiliation that won't get you arrested...

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 8:54:35 AM

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I would suggest maybe doing it 'publically' in a bdsm club rather than out in the general public. This might satiate her desires for public humiliation.

Slapping her around in the general public might be risky as far as getting yourself into trouble with a cop, or someone who reports it when they misinterpret the 'scene' as non-consentual. I'd be afraid to risk it, personally.

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 9:53:30 AM

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that wouldn't embarrase me at all, in fact last time I was at petco I looked at all the collars tried one on, and asked daddy to take a pic with his cell phone. :D

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\she may be talking about a mild emabarassment of having to try on a dog collar in a pet store,

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 10:05:06 AM

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ok, now that the legal stuff is defined...the next question in my opinion is, is she into humiliation or degredation...because they are different because they have different outcomes...and both can be desired and one or the other can be desired, or none can be desired (since you're posting this topic, i assume at least one is desired), i love humiliation, if you degrade me, i will rip your balls off as i walk out the door...humiliation - to make one feel one's humility/humbleness/"place in life" --this can be done in a number of ways, this is where fantasy is a key tool...is it name calling, is it face slapping, is it golden showers, is it objectification, is it being stepped on, is it being made to eat off the floor, is it all of the above, or it is none of the above and something else....degredation can be any of those things with the intent of making one feel less than one's place in life..."just a hole in the matress without a name" was a phone sex fantasy i heard once...it sounded degrading to me...it may have been humiliating to someone else and just plain hot to someone else...
the thing about all these activities is how do they make the bottom (reciever of the activity) *feel* if they make them feel humiliated, they are humiliating, if they make them feel degraded, they are degrading, if they just make them hot and horny, they are just hot....

good luck
chelle...and umm sorry not an experienced Master...not even a Master...

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 10:55:25 AM

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obviously your title dictates that you have never been on the receiving end of a slap. try having to explain to a 8yr old after witnessing her father slapping and publicly calling her mother a bitch infront of family and friends while preggers with number 2. i spent my Christmas Eve 2001 doing just that - it was also the first, last and only time my ex has ever tried to abuse me.

your moral explanation of "never slapping a woman" was weak as water.

yes we as kinksters should respect the nilla public not force them to watch us at place ...did we ask them consent first before beating the crap out of someone for humiliation? no, we did not. what might be considered play to us will be viewed as abuse. like it or not - we have a duty and responsibility to adhere while playing in public.

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RE: Help experienced Masters !!! - 9/9/2007 1:05:55 PM

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quote:

I'm offended by people who drive SUV's.

As am I. But to the matter of the subject... I agree with aforementioned posts. I mean is this a handjob-under-the-table-control-your-self-and-act-right-so-no-one-notices ordeal or is more complicated... like making her hump a mechinal childern's toy outside of walmart while making barking noises? Be more pacific to obtain better ideas.

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