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fastlane -> Femdommes and Male Domes (7/14/2005 8:00:07 PM)
Are they compatible, can they play together, can they share the toothpaste? What if I'm attracted to one? "Hi Honey, Do this...?" "No, M.F., you do this?" "Honey, I'm a Dom." "No, your a Jackass, I'm a Domme." Nevermind, it could never work, but it could be a great reality T.V. show, don't you think? Doms gone wild, or when aggressvie Doms meet, or Doms, a dime a dozen......and can you hear the music...Dom, Da dom, dom....Dommmm? Enjoy!

SadisticPrincess -> RE: Femdommes and Male Domes (7/14/2005 8:21:15 PM)
Actually, I am only content with another dominant as a romantic partner. How else is a partnership of equals really possible? It works quite well, really.

Jasmyn -> RE: Femdommes and Male Domes (7/14/2005 9:38:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SadisticPrincess Actually, I am only content with another dominant as a romantic partner. How else is a partnership of equals really possible? It works quite well, really. Same. :-)

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Femdommes and Male Domes (7/14/2005 11:15:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SadisticPrincess Actually, I am only content with another dominant as a romantic partner. How else is a partnership of equals really possible? It works quite well, really. I understand your point of view, but for me it wouldn't work, because I would think power struggles may become a problem. I admit I don't want an equal relationship, mine would be a power imbalanced relationship (not to mean he is less important, or his happiness doesn't matter to me). M

MadameDahlia -> RE: Femdommes and Male Domes (7/14/2005 11:46:41 PM)
I think it could work for some but be a horrible, futile experience for others.

SweetDommes -> RE: Femdommes and Male Domes (7/14/2005 11:51:17 PM)
It's definitely possible - but it depends on the two involved and how committed they are to making the relationship work - just like any other relationship between any other two people of any D/s orientation.

MsPurrmeow -> RE: Femdommes and Male Doms (7/15/2005 9:48:39 AM)
If there is more communication than ego, then it will work. If there are ego or self-esteem issues hard at work, it won't. Struggles happen when a person feels the need to prove something to themselves. Even Dominants are perfectly capable of being good, polite, honest, and fair people. Yes, even to each other. The basics of any relationship of mine would be mutual respect, honesty, integrity and communication. If those are intact, any two people can get along, if they are not, any two will fail, regardless what label they have on their forehead.

Niran -> RE: Femdommes and Male Doms (7/15/2005 10:04:17 AM)
I think it also may matter if they have a submissive available. I have seen profiles here of Dom couples looking for a sub. Niran

LadyAngelika -> RE: Femdommes and Male Domes (7/15/2005 10:56:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SadisticPrincess Actually, I am only content with another dominant as a romantic partner. How else is a partnership of equals really possible? It works quite well, really. I think at times that this may be the ideal as well. My boy is a switch. He has quite a dominant social personality and is dominant with his other partners. Our relationship has some elements of D/s to it but very little. It is more axed on D/s play and kink. I personally don't see myself in a long term relationship with someone who is completely submissive. I need the balance of being with another dominant type. Now a submissive who was socially very dominant... maybe. - LA

fastlane -> RE: Femdommes and Male Domes (7/15/2005 12:55:19 PM)
All very interesting comments and insight. I've only searched for submissives all of these years, perhaps I should look for my equal...............yeah right...like I have an equal?[:D]

LadyBadger -> RE: Femdommes and Male Domes (7/15/2005 4:34:41 PM)
I'm in a happy Domme/Dom partnership... [:)] it wasn't that way when we started out, but we've managed to weather his changing the rules because we/I wanted the relationship & liked each other well enough to negotiate... we tease the heck out of one another, but respect each other's boundaries... it's fun to watch others watch us when we "play" publicly... LOL! I have a collared sub who understands that serving me means serving whomever I direct him to serve... I don't have much use for those fellows who get all hinky about serving or being flogged by another male... the 3 of us are quite happy with the arrangement... at this time, He's dating a local femsub that I introduced to him... I'm hoping this will get off the ground, so to speak, as he needs someone to be focused entirely on him... though she would serve/help me if he so directed... and sometimes the two of Us co-top with one another... it brings an added dimension to the play, an extension of our personal synergy -- even more so if we're co-topping my boy... <weg> I'd never have thought such a relationship could/would work, but it does and is... [:)]

UtopianRanger -> RE: Femdommes and Male Domes (7/16/2005 3:57:17 AM)
Interesting....... I find myself only attracted to dominant women, yet when it comes to business, politics, sports, and other vanilla pursuits, I'm the most agressive and dominant guy I know. And I hang out with the best of them - Maybe I need to talk to somebody LOL - The Ranger

imtempting -> RE: Femdommes and Male Domes (7/16/2005 4:31:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UtopianRanger Interesting....... I find myself only attracted to dominant women, yet when it comes to business, politics, sports, and other vanilla pursuits, I'm the most agressive and dominant guy I know. And I hang out with the best of them - Maybe I need to talk to somebody LOL - The Ranger I know what you what you mean.

LadyAngelika -> RE: Femdommes and Male Domes (7/16/2005 6:11:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UtopianRanger Interesting....... I find myself only attracted to dominant women, yet when it comes to business, politics, sports, and other vanilla pursuits, I'm the most agressive and dominant guy I know. And I hang out with the best of them - Maybe I need to talk to somebody LOL - The Ranger See, now that is a lovely thing. I know I'm going to get flamed for this but I really, really am not attracted to very submissive men. I actually take evil pleasure in getting relatively dominant "vanilla" men to submit to me in various contexts. So when a man comes up to me crawling and begging to submit to me, I don't see a challenge in it for me and therefore am not turned on by the situation at all. That is why I said that I personally don't see myself in a long term relationship with someone who is completely submissive. When I wrote "I need the balance of being with another dominant type", I didn't necessarily meant someone who was sexually/relationship dominant but at the very least socially dominant with a very strong personality. The way I see it, there is someone out there for everyone. Some women like them super submissive. Well there are plenty of them out there. The kind of option you present I have unfortunately found to be rarer. So please stay as you are and some woman will be lucky to snatch you up! - LA

GddssBella -> RE: Femdommes and Male Domes (7/16/2005 7:19:17 AM)
G'morning all: ahem It's "Doms", not "Domes". Sorry, spelling/grammar nazi came out. As to the relationship dynamic? A wimpy pulp of a man holds no interest for me. Does this mean I want a dom? Not by any means. People can be equals in their humanity without sacrificing their power orientation. I prefer a gentleman that can act independently in public, charm me, make me laugh heartily, challenge me mentally... in short, a man. Mindless drones are fine for doing the vacuuming, but the partner to share my sheets must be multi-faceted, hence why the search continues. Forced masculinity Techniques for "teasing out" masculinity Stay safe, play nice, & share your toys w/ others... [:D] Bella

lonewolf05 -> RE: Femdommes and Male Domes (7/17/2005 3:13:36 AM)
I actually take evil pleasure in getting relatively dominant "vanilla" men to submit to me in various contexts. Lady Angelika; ========================= hmmmmmm. now wouldn't THAT be a kick? i can just see this one. i am loud and boisterous and domineering in vanilla public and then when She gets home behind the door She finds out i am a service slave, and not vanilla at all. i could just see some Domme doing this.....surprise!!!!!!!!!! Her face would just be so precious to see at that instant. talk about kodak moment! roflmao

SadisticPrincess -> RE: Femdommes and Male Domes (7/17/2005 9:04:47 AM)
LOL Joke would be on you, Wolf, you'd be vacuuming behind the furniture in no time!

AAkasha -> RE: Femdommes and Male Domes (7/17/2005 10:01:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika quote: ORIGINAL: UtopianRanger Interesting....... I find myself only attracted to dominant women, yet when it comes to business, politics, sports, and other vanilla pursuits, I'm the most agressive and dominant guy I know. And I hang out with the best of them - Maybe I need to talk to somebody LOL - The Ranger See, now that is a lovely thing. I know I'm going to get flamed for this but I really, really am not attracted to very submissive men. I actually take evil pleasure in getting relatively dominant "vanilla" men to submit to me in various contexts. So when a man comes up to me crawling and begging to submit to me, I don't see a challenge in it for me and therefore am not turned on by the situation at all. That is why I said that I personally don't see myself in a long term relationship with someone who is completely submissive. When I wrote "I need the balance of being with another dominant type", I didn't necessarily meant someone who was sexually/relationship dominant but at the very least socially dominant with a very strong personality. The way I see it, there is someone out there for everyone. Some women like them super submissive. Well there are plenty of them out there. The kind of option you present I have unfortunately found to be rarer. So please stay as you are and some woman will be lucky to snatch you up! - LA I'm right on the same page. It was obvious to me that I could never function in a relationship with a man who had a submissive personality, or wanted me to take the lead on everything. I'm far more comfortable with a partner who is an equal, and who also will stand up to me if I am being unreasonable. I also knew I wanted a man with a lot of initiative and someone who was comfortable taking control when appropriate-- just someone who wasn't a control freak. I've had some great relationships with submissives that were play relationships only. My longterm relationships have mostly been with vanilla men that I converted. However, I knew there were a lot of aggressive/assertive types out there that had a very strong submissive drive as well -- it was a matter of finding the right balance. Akasha

MsPurrmeow -> RE: Femdommes and Male Domes (7/18/2005 8:45:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha I'm right on the same page. It was obvious to me that I could never function in a relationship with a man who had a submissive personality, or wanted me to take the lead on everything. I'm far more comfortable with a partner who is an equal, and who also will stand up to me if I am being unreasonable. I also knew I wanted a man with a lot of initiative and someone who was comfortable taking control when appropriate-- just someone who wasn't a control freak. Very well said of both Aakasha and Angelika. I've worked over profile so many times trying to express the need for a strong, self-starting, assertive person who understand that slavery and submission do not equate to spineless and directionless. I want a person who can hold an opinion in a debate, or be strong enough to change their opinions when need be. (I feel that it is a sign of strength to admit to being wrong and be willing to learn and grow.) A slave who is super-submissive and weak is just a lot more work. I need the one who can figure out the little stuff on his own and assist me at my side rather than just follow in my shadow. A speaker at Portlands Kinkfest said it very well. "The best slaves are not the born-submissives, but strong Dominant people who make a conscious choice to put the needs and service of another as their highest priority." (Sheryl Dee) I so very much agree with that statement. Now, if we can just get ego's out of the way, that search might be much more successful.

LadyAngelika -> RE: Femdommes and Male Domes (7/18/2005 7:51:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lonewolf05 I actually take evil pleasure in getting relatively dominant "vanilla" men to submit to me in various contexts. Lady Angelika; ========================= hmmmmmm. now wouldn't THAT be a kick? i can just see this one. i am loud and boisterous and domineering in vanilla public and then when She gets home behind the door She finds out i am a service slave, and not vanilla at all. i could just see some Domme doing this.....surprise!!!!!!!!!! Her face would just be so precious to see at that instant. talk about kodak moment! roflmao Cute wolf. But for the record, I don't go for loud, boisterous and domineering. I go more for tall, handsome, italian leather suit, slightly arrogant and smug. Now THERE is a fine catch! (in my evil opinion of course) - LA

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