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First Question! - 9/11/2007 11:25:12 AM   
Thorns82


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So here goes...I've heard that it's possible to orgasm from nothing other than a good spanking.  I wasn't sure if that was true or not, but judging from a couple of the threads on here it seems so!  My Master and I are new at this, and still learning various techniques. Could anyone offer us tips on how to do this, or point out a good guide?  It'd be most appreciated = )
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RE: First Question! - 9/11/2007 11:26:46 AM   
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It starts and ends with your mind not your ass.

Good luck!

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RE: First Question! - 9/11/2007 11:27:47 AM   
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The only tip I can offer is to try not to force it. It has happened to me twice, but over the span of three years.

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RE: First Question! - 9/11/2007 11:38:26 AM   
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I know someone who it happens to quite frequently....Mr. & Mrs. Merc are right...

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RE: First Question! - 9/11/2007 11:42:31 AM   
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Possible, yes; likely, no.  All depends on how easily you orgasm, how you process pain, and to some extent on how you are spanked. 

There is an area called the "sweet spot" right around the juncture of thighs and buttocks, where the nerves share branches with the nerves that serve the genital area.    Impacts there, especially thuddy ones, tend to produce diffuse sensations that may stimulate the nerves that produce orgasm.  Use of heavy implements such as a hairbrush, rods or heavy canes on this area can actually cause the flesh around the vagina and clitoris to vibrate, which also helps.

Spanking directly on the vulva area can produce orgasm.  The intensity and rhythm is usually pretty important.

There are some who can orgasm from nearly any sort of impact play almost anywhere on the body.  They seem to naturally process pain in an erotic way; and may get this effect entirely on their own, without any special techniques or training.  This is not common at all, and should certainly not be expected.

It may help to make it a conditioned response; that is, to repeatedly combine impact play with direct stimulation of the genitals, such as with a vibrator, that will reliably produce orgasm  Eventually the impact play alone may have the same effect.

It will definitely help if you communicate to your partner which things he does produce the most sexual sensations.

Good luck and enjoy your journey.


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RE: First Question! - 9/11/2007 12:03:01 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: GrizzlyBear

Possible, yes; likely, no.  All depends on how easily you orgasm, how you process pain, and to some extent on how you are spanked. 

There is an area called the "sweet spot" right around the juncture of thighs and buttocks, where the nerves share branches with the nerves that serve the genital area.    Impacts there, especially thuddy ones, tend to produce diffuse sensations that may stimulate the nerves that produce orgasm.  Use of heavy implements such as a hairbrush, rods or heavy canes on this area can actually cause the flesh around the vagina and clitoris to vibrate, which also helps.

Spanking directly on the vulva area can produce orgasm.  The intensity and rhythm is usually pretty important.

There are some who can orgasm from nearly any sort of impact play almost anywhere on the body.  They seem to naturally process pain in an erotic way; and may get this effect entirely on their own, without any special techniques or training.  This is not common at all, and should certainly not be expected.

It may help to make it a conditioned response; that is, to repeatedly combine impact play with direct stimulation of the genitals, such as with a vibrator, that will reliably produce orgasm  Eventually the impact play alone may have the same effect.

It will definitely help if you communicate to your partner which things he does produce the most sexual sensations.

Good luck and enjoy your journey.



*raises my hand and blushes* 

that describes me pretty much.  spanking, flogging, both will absolutely cause me to climax fairly consistantly.

i think Sir about grinned his face off the first time that happened...

kitten

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RE: First Question! - 9/11/2007 1:29:07 PM   
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I am interested in this thread Master have been discussing this and Master says it can be done.  Maybe we will try that.

Matt's littleone

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RE: First Question! - 9/11/2007 1:34:04 PM   
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I can't do it as the first orgasm but after that, oh yes. More thud and less sting for me please. Hitting the sweet spot and playing with me between spanks.

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RE: First Question! - 9/11/2007 1:50:11 PM   
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One toy I will highly recommend if you wish to achieve an orgasm during spanking is a set of smart balls.  The repercussive action they create hits not only your g-spot but also your clit.  They create the most wonderful sensations when being spanked and are by far my favorite toy. 

I do orgasm rather easily from spanking as it is one of my favorite activities.  Hope you enjoy it as well.

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RE: First Question! - 9/11/2007 2:43:01 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

It starts and ends with your mind not your ass.

Good luck!


I couldn't agree more with this. 

There will be those who will tell you it can not be done without some sort of vaginal stimulation.  They will even try to prove it so.  But the mind can acheive anything.  When I open myself up to receive his energy, amazing things happen.  Enjoy!

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RE: First Question! - 9/11/2007 3:04:27 PM   
abda


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What is a smart glove? I did  a google search and it came up with gloves they use for people who have carpal tunnel.

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RE: First Question! - 9/11/2007 4:02:10 PM   
fairerthanshe


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They are called "smart balls". 

http://www.tickledpinktoys.com/browseproducts/Smart-Balls.html

Here is a link so you can see what I'm referencing.

Take care ~ fairer


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RE: First Question! - 9/11/2007 5:19:45 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: GrizzlyBear

Possible, yes; likely, no.  All depends on how easily you orgasm, how you process pain, and to some extent on how you are spanked.   Very true.

There is an area called the "sweet spot" right around the juncture of thighs and buttocks, where the nerves share branches with the nerves that serve the genital area.    Impacts there, especially thuddy ones, tend to produce diffuse sensations that may stimulate the nerves that produce orgasm.  Use of heavy implements such as a hairbrush, rods or heavy canes on this area can actually cause the flesh around the vagina and clitoris to vibrate, which also helps.    Not everyone has that particular "sweet spot".  Mine is actually up between my shoulder blades.  The juncture of thighs and buttocks just plain hurts ;)

Spanking directly on the vulva area can produce orgasm.  The intensity and rhythm is usually pretty important.    I'd say VERY important.  A flogger would do it, a cane wouldn't.

There are some who can orgasm from nearly any sort of impact play almost anywhere on the body.  They seem to naturally process pain in an erotic way; and may get this effect entirely on their own, without any special techniques or training.  This is not common at all, and should certainly not be expected.    You been spying on me?  lol

It may help to make it a conditioned response; that is, to repeatedly combine impact play with direct stimulation of the genitals, such as with a vibrator, that will reliably produce orgasm  Eventually the impact play alone may have the same effect.   A very good introduction technique - to associate the pain with pleasure until the brain does it automatically.

It will definitely help if you communicate to your partner which things he does produce the most sexual sensations.   And if you are incoherent whilst flying, rest assured he will know ;)

Good luck and enjoy your journey.




The ability to equate pain with pleasure and orgasm from just straight pain is a process that can take a long time but is well worth the effort.  Being a pain slut helps of course but even then not all pain sluts arrive at orgasm.  Some like the pain just for itself.  Some, like me, flip back and forth...I don't always cum during a session but can still fly and enjoy it all.

To each his/her own basically.  Love what you do and you'll always do what you love.

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RE: First Question! - 9/11/2007 5:25:56 PM   
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Well I guess in a few short hours say 48 or so...we will determine things to mutual satisfaction I am thinking hmmm? heh heh (grinning evilly)


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RE: First Question! - 9/11/2007 7:52:26 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

It starts and ends with your mind not your ass.

Good luck!


Exactly!!

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RE: First Question! - 9/11/2007 8:20:01 PM   
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I've spanked women who got off on it, but they're quite rare.

I've never been able to 'train" anybody who hadn't the ability to gain it. That's not because I don't try that or other things. I've managed to train women to have orgasms just from stimulating their nipples.

But in my experience, spanking is an either/or thing.

If it's that way for you, don't worry about it. It's more a party trick. Of course if you develop the ability, then party on, Garth.


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RE: First Question! - 9/12/2007 6:50:18 AM   
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Understand what might work for some may not work with others.  For me, the exploration is what is the most fun.

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RE: First Question! - 9/13/2007 3:46:25 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

It starts and ends with your mind not your ass.

Good luck!


This is the long and short of it Mercnbeth said about all there is to say.... your Master has to get into your mind then all things are possible.

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RE: First Question! - 9/13/2007 5:10:55 AM   
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It does start in the mind. My Sir can speak to me in "that" voice and make me wet and ready. I have orgasmed from being over the knee and him using his hand and I have orgasmed when he used the crop on me. God I love the crop!!

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RE: First Question! - 9/13/2007 5:48:19 AM   
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its all about feeling safe and free enough within your mind to totally focus on whats happening and only then will your body be relaxed and free to enjoy whats happening for you to orgasm, whether its spanking or simply a pinch!!

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