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corsetgirl -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (9/12/2007 9:07:45 PM)

My 45th birthday was miserable, too!  Things were not going well between my dom at that time but I tried to make the best of it as he and my folks met each other. 

This was not very pleasant, he drank quite a bit of Scotch, and I have to admit it was like watching a train wreck.  We were through, done and over. 

In retrospect, I am happy and thankful he let me go and even though I am single, I like having my freedom to meet whoever I want to do so and play with whoever I choose to be with, which is not bad.

So, even though your birthday was not good, there will be a time where you can walk in the sun, hold your head up high and meet that dom who can rock your world again. 

It just takes time to get to know yourself.  I wish you well.



Evanesce -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (9/13/2007 6:29:50 PM)

Almost eight years ago, I was dumped by the Domly Dom love of my life.  It tore me up so badly, I cried over it for months!  But I knew there had to be someone else out there for me.  Then I met the Kaptin.  [:)] 

Grieve for your loss now, but know that there is someone else out there for you.  This one simply was not meant to be.



peaceinthevalley -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/5/2007 8:19:24 AM)

thats ok you can vent, i will add that if the world didnt suck we would all fall off.lol have agreat day...



sexyred1 -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/5/2007 8:57:28 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

You'll be just fine.

And don't forget to put on your "My Dominant Was A ShitHead" tee shirt.

chia* (the pet)


You mean, "My Dominant Was a Shithead and all I got was this Lousy T-shirt" don't you? If those were available, I want one in black with silver sequins please.



pinksugarsub -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/5/2007 9:29:41 AM)

Ah, 29, on the cusp of Yr power.  Focus on the positive, cry, let it go.
 
And enjoy today!
 
pinksugarsub



lilsubl -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/5/2007 9:41:13 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

You'll be just fine.

And don't forget to put on your "My Dominant Was A ShitHead" tee shirt.

chia* (the pet)


You mean, "My Dominant Was a Shithead and all I got was this Lousy T-shirt" don't you? If those were available, I want one in black with silver sequins please.


you have such good taste, red!!



carlie310 -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/5/2007 9:43:55 AM)

I've always felt that a brief period of taking to my bed with the vapors, a tear-jerker movie, large box of favorite chocolate (I prefer Lindt) and Kleenex was in order, but be careful not to do this too long.  Then, of course, getting out of bed and standing under a hot shower (both metaphoric and literal) to wash that man right out of your hair helps. After that, if I can figure out what I learned, what I liked, what we both did right, where we both screwed up. . .I'm ready to take on the world.  Even the worst disaster has lessons and benefits for us.

I don't want to minimize your pain, and you already seem to be moving out of the first into the second.  Here's a virtual hug. 

Grossly wide generalization ahead, many men do not fit this description, tax, tag and title not included, weight loss is not typical of average customer:  Many men (and probably many women, but I've never been dumped by a woman) have learned that a gentle breakup doesn't always end the relationship from the other side.  The soon-to-be-ex-partner grasps onto any hope on which to build a new improved relationship.  So they end up having to break up gently several times before the message gets through.  I've always been one to want to maintain a friendship.  I finally got to that point with one ex after a LOT of work, and we had a very honest conversation about breakups and why ours had been so painful.  I've asked around to other male friends, and it seems to be a common thread.  (Again, this is just my experience, and I'm not a doctor, nor do I play one on TV.  I may be hanging around the wrong group of people.)  My point. . .it's around here somewhere. . .even if the dump was brutal--and it sounds like it was--that doesn't make it about you.

Another hug.



sexyred1 -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/5/2007 9:45:37 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: lilsubl

quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

You'll be just fine.

And don't forget to put on your "My Dominant Was A ShitHead" tee shirt.

chia* (the pet)


You mean, "My Dominant Was a Shithead and all I got was this Lousy T-shirt" don't you? If those were available, I want one in black with silver sequins please.


you have such good taste, red!!


Thank you. I was going to ask for rhinestones, but thought the silver was more festive, LOL



dawndewdropbaby -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/5/2007 11:57:49 AM)

I would offer my support but I've been dumped a handful of times......so I can't really relate



Maya2001 -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/5/2007 1:43:42 PM)

If this is your  first time and your 29 consider it being lucky some are going thru the 3 or 4 th dumpings and they do not get any easier even with practice ;) 



slavekal -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/5/2007 7:48:15 PM)

Everybody gets dumped sometime.  It hurts, but eventually we move on.  You will survive and have a new relationship in the future.



chiaThePet -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/5/2007 10:01:36 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

You'll be just fine.

And don't forget to put on your "My Dominant Was A ShitHead" tee shirt.

chia* (the pet)


You mean, "My Dominant Was a Shithead and all I got was this Lousy T-shirt" don't you? If those were available, I want one in black with silver sequins please.


And we're back.

Seems tee shirts are in order for all.

I'll bring the water.

"She's a maniac, maniac on the floor".

Splash.

chia* (the pet)



laurell3 -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/5/2007 11:08:06 PM)

I'm sorry you're hurting.  A very wise friend once said to me upon a breakup "You must look at this and think will it really matter in ten years?  Will you even remember anything about him then?"

I've found it to be a good litmus test for bringing reality to these things.  In reality, life will go on and you will continue to love others and forget this guy even had this importance.  Chia is right.  Have faith that you can and will survive on your own and are a strong, capable person without him.

If all that fails, I highly recommend chocolate [;)]

Good luck!
l



petpete -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/6/2007 4:28:51 AM)

Let go of your past and get ready to face the future.. It maybe more exciting!!!???????????????



MsCfromMelbourne -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/6/2007 4:44:47 AM)

I was dumped for the first time just before my 40th birthday.  And I thought we were doing OK[:(]

I walked to my party alone and stopped outside to cry.  No husband, no kids (despite trying for 10 years), divorced and hitting 40 all by myself......and facing the rest of my life as a childless woman drifting from middle aged user to user or staying alone....

*************

Fast forward 2 years: I have travelled around the world by myself, got my Masters in the US, moved into my own house, met a really nice, youunger, handsome submissive, moved into his lovely house and.........we are 6 months pregnant and having a little girl in March!!  WHO would have guessed??

Now I wish the last guy had dumped me sooner.  I would have got my brand new happy life quicker!!

Only thing worse than being dumped is being used for years by someone who doesn't love you that much anymore.  Good luck meeting Mr Fantastically Right next time



MaamJay -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/6/2007 6:10:30 AM)

As a sub, i got dumped by my "Master" 3 days before my birthday in June in 2003. It was wretched, not in the least that He had dumped me for someone else who i thought was a friend, and i felt betrayed. Also He had told me that He was making something very special for my birthday (as i had done for His in April, a scrapbook of my life) ... and that was never forthcoming ... it wasn't the gift itself but the fact that He was making with His hands which would have made it special. Despite the dumping, had He sent the object, i'm the nostalgic sort who would still have treasured that along with the good time memories.

At the same time, a Dominant with whom My Domme side had been conversing online for some time in a general friendly fashion, suffered a similar blow. His sub (with whom He didn't live but saw regularly) had been giving Him a lot of trouble ... suddenly she took off from Aus to the USA to marry a vanilla guy! (It didn't work out). His Dom side was shattered, so out popped a little-often seen sub side of him. My sub side was shattered so My Domme side was the caretaker. I began to Domme him ... and W/we had the chance to meet in August and had an awesome 5 days. Incredibly healing. By October W/we had switched with me now sub, Him Dom ... and by late November when i went to visit Him, He was Master. He still IS Master and W/we have lived very happily 24/7 since June 2004. My Domme side's still seeking a sub though!

I look back and think wow, talk about a silver lining with that cloud! This was pure gold! That "Master" did me the greatest of favours by dumping me just as Master's errant sub did Him one! It led us to find each other in a way that not only had W/we not predicted, W/we hadn't even dreamed of it. W/we're not the most likely couple, He is 15 years younger than me for one! But i have never been so happy in a relationship (and I've been twice married). What was really nice was about a year later, just after Master had moved to live with me, i encountered the other fellow online. By then the bitterness had gone and i thanked Him for the favour! He was very rueful ... for the other girl had proved skittish and difficult and had dumped Him, and He had come to realise what He had let go. So He ended up being the one with all the regrets.

painlovingsub ... I hope you soon find the silver or gold that comes with this cloud [:)] Sometimes life takes some really odd twists and turns!
Maam Jay aka violet[A]



chiaThePet -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/6/2007 6:11:27 AM)

Okay all you wonderful souls whose heartstrings have been tugged, this thread
was started back in September. If this is still a major tissue issue at this point,
I'm scooping up some stock in Kleenex big time. Carry on, and on, and on.

chia* (the pet)



MaamJay -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/6/2007 6:55:51 AM)

Ah shoot, I never think to look at the dates LOL! So why did it pop up as an unread thread I wonder??
thanks chia
Maam Jay aka violet[A]



phoenixxy -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/6/2007 7:43:18 AM)

His loss - the advice i was given recently - let yourself have the cry, let it all out, then, when your ready get back up, get out there and things will be good...
Smile and the world smiles with you - weep and you weep alone.  Not to say that we dont need that alone time, but when we are ready for the others a smile goes a long way.



LotusSong -> RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need to vent! (12/6/2007 1:19:03 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: painlovingsub

Life sucks. [:(] i have been crying for over an hour since i was officially "dumped" by my Dom. i will be 29 on Thursday and i have never been dumped in my life. Usually we part on agreeable terms or i just end this. This is my first real D/s relationship and i just have no faith anymore... none... [:(] [:(] [:(] [:(] [:(] [:(] [:(] [:(]
  

                                                 ...... karma, perhaps?



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