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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 9/14/2007 5:04:37 AM   
samboct


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Status: offline 		"I didn't say or indicate that I was "chasing after younger men" in my OP.  My god, the situation of being pursued by younger men is why I wrote my question      It always seems that the older woman is always that warm, sweet, wistful smile of memory on the face of the younger man.  I just wonder why I never hear "man,she was a wild woman!  I snatched her up in a heartbeat and made her mine". 

The answwer to your question- the woman who wanted to be with two guys- the reason is there.  Yes, she was wild in bed- and that maybe that's the "warm, sweet, wistful smile of a memory" that you're referring to.  I think the responses you're getting from the men here is that the wistful response is from someone who's good in bed, not the sweet little 18 year old who was far better in fantasy than reality. 

Why aren't older women snatched up  (seems to me in your case, they are- with two guys collared- OK, sorry, it's a lewd response, but it is that kind of a board.  And it's the kind of thing Shakespeare would have snuck in anyway.)?  Because as we get older, we all carry more "baggage" unless you can figure out how to get rid of it.  I suspect that the reason you don't see that many older woman/younger man relationships (but you see a lot more of the converse, especially in Europe) is that women (Oh god, I'm about to make a terrible broad sweeping generalization here) don't jettison their baggage as readily as most men, or men just accumulate less baggage along the way.

Look, human females, like females of most species, get to pick their mates.  (The Brad Pitt hearththrobs are a very, very small minority.)  If younger guys are ditching older women in favor of women their own age or younger, I think the reason is that the women have a fixed idea in their mind of what they want in a guy, and when they try to squeeze the younger guy into that mold- he decides that this is not the life that he wants.  Of course, this works for all relationships- but maybe it's a bit more obvious with the older woman/younger man scenario.

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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 9/14/2007 6:08:56 AM   
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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 9/14/2007 6:40:13 AM   
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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 12/12/2008 11:05:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've recently and happily had a few younger men pursue me- one, 27, looked like Keanu Reeves only MORE handsome, a FABULOUS vanilla lover; another, 31, a cross between Alec Baldwin and John Stamos and equally fabulous (not quite so vanilla- and was told that older women are easier to get along with and are less focused on superficial qualities.

Pathetically grateful? F**k that!

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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 12/12/2008 11:57:05 PM   
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I feel sorry for lightheartedmaam with her sad mind set "I'm old, therefore ugly".   Beauty is ageless, and youth is not always pretty.  Believe it or not not all men are shallow, and some of find character attractive.  I know, I know, this flies in the face of cultural stereotypes, men are not supposed to be smart and complex.  It's too bad some women are turned off by non-simplistic men.  Just because a man is attracted to an older woman does not necessarily mean he's looking for an easy lay.


How many long term relationships do you know of a younger man and older woman that haven't ended leaving the older woman alone- again?  I know there are guys out there that like older women.  What I question is- what motivates them?    I'm not knocking it.

If you have some insight, I would appreciate it other than little sarcastic jabs.



Some of us younger men just get tired of all the drama, head-games, and materialism most younger females bring to a relationship. Me its still about personality, chemistry, maturity. I preffer an intellegent person that I can conversate with rather than an airhead that just sits there and looks pretty. Unfortunately most of the women my age and younger seem to be the later. Most my age are still into the night clubs and parties. Older women tend to enjoy more sophisticated events.  

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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 12/13/2008 12:27:16 AM   
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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 12/13/2008 3:44:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		When I was a younger man, I adored older women...still prefer mature women. I have never sat around and thought about the "why" of it, just enjoyed it.
Didn't care about the "why" I have always thought it was just another one of my kinks....Lord knows I have many!

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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 12/13/2008 6:24:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		The feedback I receive from younger guys is that older women are more confident in their sexuality, communicate better and have more realistic expectations.  There is also the desire of the younger, less experienced male to learn from a more experienced female rather than stumble through drunken sessions of "fumble and grope". 

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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 12/13/2008 6:39:12 AM   
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Pay no mind to Aileen68.  She's a bitch.
Now Aileen1968...she likes men who are just a tad bit older than her.


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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 12/13/2008 6:40:47 AM   
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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 12/13/2008 6:46:23 AM   
BlackPhx


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Status: offline 		Master is 15 years younger than I am. Age has never been a criteria for me, maturity, intelligence ( lord knows I need to be able to talk with someone and learn from them), stability and the many intangible qualities that make for a whole person , yes, even the baggage is what attracts me along with a strong sadistic streak and an ability to deal with my baggage.  He makes me feel cherished and I know that I can rely on him fully, no matter what. I have been with Older Doms/Sadists who were my seniors, some who have been my age and others younger. Age mattered far less than the quality of the person.

I of course asked Master why he chose me, he is young, intelligent, a wise investor, hard worker and wonderful provider as well as a delicious sadist. He could have anyone, in any age bracket, he truly desired and went after..why me. He says it is because he found in me, things he did not find in younger women. They seemed to be focused more on older men, or "bad" boys and the ones that did focus in their own age bracket tended to be emotional sinkholes, unsure of what they wanted, unable to commit for what ever reason or extremely shallow, not fully developed as a person and knowledgeable about what they wanted from life.

Our life is not perfect..I doubt anyone's is, but we are perfect together. We have mellowed from that first rush of NRE to a strong bond that has us happy to see each other at night, wrapped comfortably in each others arms at night and comfortable enough to talk about anything from finances to remodeling or feelings. When we dance we are a matched pair feeding each others needs, when we play with others, the other watches and both reap the rewards afterwards.

I will grow old and likely pass before he does..at least I hope so because I don't ever want to be without him. It took us both a long time to find each other, and age...didn't matter so much as both of us being the person the other needed in their life.

Poenkitten 55 to his 40

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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 12/13/2008 6:55:07 AM   
chaos9071


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Status: offline 		Older women are so much sexier than younger ones in my opinion. I love women 35-60. 

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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 12/13/2008 4:37:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		  It is interesting how the "older woman mystique" has changed from Mrs. Robsinson to Stifler's mom & MILFs to Pumas. 

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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 12/13/2008 5:37:25 PM   
LushLadyLilith


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Status: offline 		I revived this thread because this is a new experience for me, and it's a lot of fun. I get to be sexually open without anxiety because I don't get that invested in the outcome, and am pleasantly surprised that the men are darn cute and passionate as hell.

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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 12/13/2008 6:56:19 PM   
FourQ


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Status: offline 		I recall, aged 16 courting a woman a month off 32.  A fantastic, if platonic relationship.
At 21 I found myself with a woman aged 44.  Outstanding.  We thoroughly enjoyed ourselves.
At 23 I was courting a woman aged 44, she was massively insecure about the age gap, but we loved each other enough to see past it... for a while, but I'd been introduced to the lifestyle - officially.
At 25 we realised that what we had was great and got back together,

Between the ages of 17 and 29 all of my relationships (not that there's been many) were with older women, with the above having substantial age gaps.  Why?  Because women younger than myself have always lied, cheated, and were obsessed with going out clubbing and ended up in hospital - not character traits I admire.

I sincerely doubt I'd have been happier with younger women. 


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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 12/13/2008 8:28:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: kubens

I feel sorry for lightheartedmaam with her sad mind set "I'm old, therefore ugly".   Beauty is ageless, and youth is not always pretty.  Believe it or not not all men are shallow, and some of find character attractive.  I know, I know, this flies in the face of cultural stereotypes, men are not supposed to be smart and complex.  It's too bad some women are turned off by non-simplistic men.  Just because a man is attracted to an older woman does not necessarily mean he's looking for an easy lay.


When I was 27 yo I proposed to a woman who was 45 yo and I was serious.  She said "No" and gradually stopped seeing me saying I was too serious.  Her expressed  reason for saying "No" was that she couldn't have children.  Since I did not want children, I did not see that as an obstacle but she was adamant that I would want children later.

We gradually separated and lost touch.

I met her by accident about a month ago. Her personalty has not changed.  My mother once said that if you truly love someone that person sometimes does not seem to change and remains in a time warp to you.  That is apparently true.  Mary Ann looks and acts the same as she did at 45.  Her 79 is  younger than my 61.

I wonder what her excuse will be this time.



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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 12/13/2008 8:31:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

And I still miss domiguy...

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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 12/13/2008 11:00:50 PM   
kiyari


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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Yeah, what happened to him?  He had a certain ability to give moronic threads the old coup de grace.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

And I still miss domiguy...



I suspect he was banned from CC, as 'domiguy' is an active Profile on the Other Side.

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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 12/14/2008 4:32:34 AM   
Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Yeah, what happened to him?  He had a certain ability to give moronic threads the old coup de grace.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

And I still miss domiguy...



Permanent ban on this side.

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RE: Younger Men/Older Women - 12/14/2008 10:03:27 AM   
Lorr47


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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Yeah, what happened to him?  He had a certain ability to give moronic threads the old coup de grace.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

And I still miss domiguy...



Permanent ban on this side.


There was an entry on the site a few minutes ago.  I responded asking who "We" was and about the requirement of being "house broken."  I thought the response was funny.  Richard responded to me, making it even funnier.  Then the thread would not take any more replies; then the responses disappeared; then the e mail address of the original thread disappeared; then the whole thing disappeared; then the thread disappeared on the list of threads I had responded to.  Have I met a moderator at work?

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