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jolievoltaire -> RE: Guy being dommed by a lesbian couple - fantasy or feasible? (9/13/2007 9:09:44 PM)
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Greetings!
Since I am a lesbian dominant, I thought I'd throw a few words in on this topic. I hope this will be helpful!
Something to note: I am a professonal session-conducting physical dominant. The vast majority of my sessions involve close body-to-body contact (wrestling and wrestling-domination). All of my clients are male. I greatly enjoy my work and I greatly enjoy domination. And, professionally speaking, I do enjoy physically dominating men. There is no sex involved here, mind you, and the matter does not come up in my sessions. However, "female" physical domination moves like face sits and smothers can come into play.
So that's pro play, and it is paid. But, again, I'm all for domination for domination's sake. I enjoy playing casually in clubs with male friends. I'll play D/s games with my male friends, and I will gladly beat on them with fists and floggers. I'll play as hard and as fully as they can play. Nothing sexual comes from this, though. It is just friends at play.
I do have a very lovely and loving girlfriend, and I do play with her as well. She's my bottom, though she is nowhere near to being submissive. She reports that she has no problem at all playing at domination with a man. She says that to her "a woman dominating a male seems like an inversion of the traditional power dynamic," which appeals to her on an abstract level.
Have we played together with a male sub? Yes, though we have done so in professional sessions. Have we done so together outside of pro sessions? No, we haven't. Jointly dominating a male is not something we think about or fantasize about in our bedroom life, though we do enjoy it in our work. We have, however, frequently discussed and fantasized about dominating females together.
Regarding the initial question from the original poster...
I personally have no desire for a male to perform oral service on me, nor do I have a desire for a sissy pet. But note that I am not the sort to keep sissy pets; I would rather more enjoy the presence of confident, well behaved, soldier-like male "submissives" (or bottoms or trainees) who like rough handling. I have no sexual desire for these fellows, but they are ideal male "submissives" for my lifestyle.
I don't have a problem with having a man around, and as a matter of fact, there is a male dominant who lives in my home as my housemate and closest friend. Would I want to have a male sissy pet around? Not me, personally, but not because I have a problem with males.
I don't think my girlfriend would want to have a male sissy pet around either, but her reasons would be the same as mine; she just doesn't like sissy pets in general. I think she would like to have a coffee slave, though, male or female. ;) Ah, she just reports this: "If I had a male submissive around whom I liked as a submissive and a person, who wished to express his slavery as a sissy pet, and whom I judged would look good doing it, then, well, okay."
All righty, I hope that helps! Note that I am as lesbian as can be with regards to sexuality. I'm also a butch and genderqueer, which may be important to note for this discussion. I'll play at BDSM with a male or a female, provided we have good rapport. I'll play professionally with male clients because I enjoy play.
Cheers friends!
Jolie Voltaire [>:]
Vetiver Lane [&:]
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