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New to all this jazz! - 9/13/2007 8:37:47 PM   
aquarius27


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Status: offline 		Im new *smiles* I would like to learn more about being a sub does anyone have any good websites that would help? Or just some all around tips to newbies?
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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/13/2007 8:41:45 PM   
TreasureKY


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ORIGINAL: aquarius27

Im new *smiles* I would like to learn more about being a sub does anyone have any good websites that would help? Or just some all around tips to newbies?


There's loads of information on the web, but it really depends upon what you are interested in.  There's also a great deal of good information right here on the forums.  Spend some time browsing through old threads and reading the new ones... don't be shy and jump in to ask questions where you have them. 

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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/13/2007 8:43:36 PM   
earthycouple


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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/13/2007 8:45:09 PM   
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edited to add...domiguy is the head of the welcoming committee.
If you email him on the other side I'm sure he'll mail out your handbook pronto. 

< Message edited by Aileen68 -- 9/13/2007 8:46:59 PM >

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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/13/2007 8:46:01 PM   
Sweet1Maybe4U


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Status: offline 		ive learned alot from these forums and read thru them as often as i can for tips on all kinds of things.
i also read www.castlerealm.com when i first started out. It helped me understand many different points on Doms and subs. Maybe it would help you also.
hugs

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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/13/2007 8:46:30 PM   
aquarius27


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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/13/2007 8:47:18 PM   
jaymckenas


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Status: offline 		Welcome Aqua----

Basically my advice would be to read the forums, though that's already been covered...

It's impossible to just outline what D/s is, it's personalized case by case---- so wander around, see what you see and see where your interests lie.

Best wishes on your journey,

Jayson

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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/13/2007 8:50:52 PM   
Aileen68


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ORIGINAL: aquarius27

Handbook?


I edited my post above.  It has all the info you need.

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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/13/2007 9:01:48 PM   
lighthearted


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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/13/2007 9:04:31 PM   
heartcream


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Status: offline 		hmmmm i tried to get a dorito out of domiguy --but no go. maybe cuz i dint get my handbook first?

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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/13/2007 9:07:03 PM   
litleone8620


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Status: offline 		Welcome to the forums. I'm just reiterating what everyone else has already said. Read the forums. If you have a question don't be afraid to ask.

And I checked your profile, I'm in Iowa too. Always good to have people from the state here.


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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/13/2007 9:27:50 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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My advice for Novice Female Submissives

Newbie!

At a loss

I'm a new domme seeking advice

Does a slave also have to be a fool?

sub: totally new concept

Questions for other newbies

The Journey

Starting Out

New to the Life, Help

How to deal?

Request for Advice

Advice please: Relationships, bdsm, love and boundaries

First time sub seeking you advice- how to find the right master?

First time sub seeking advice

a newbie seeking advice

How can I be a great sub?

Brand new life

Help needed

Emotional Rollercoaster

Welcoming newbies

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Just a few questions

Do's and Dont's


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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/14/2007 3:57:21 AM   
Cyntilating


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..you're such a gem of a person ...
smiling.
 
Hi Aquarius..and welcome.

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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/14/2007 4:12:03 AM   
BeachMystress


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Status: offline 		Submissive information
http://www.leathernroses.com/submission/subfever.htm
http://gloria-brame.com/domidea/subper.htm
http://www.malesubmission.com/faq/index.htm
http://www.thedsgarden.com/library/sub_drop.htm
http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/jerseyaftercare.htm 

Some general informative links..
http://www.domsub.info/faq.html
http://www.nlacolumbus.com/education/sm101/smbasic.html
http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdsm.html
http://www.evilmonk.org/A/begintip.cfm
http://www.sscn.org/abuse.html
http://www.erotic-bdsm.net/Articles/The_Collar.html
http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdswitch.html 

Play information and safety
http://lthredge.com/resources/safety.htm
http://www.medicaltoys.com/lib-soundplay.htm
http://no.place.like.home.mindspring.com/abbot/articles/jl980105.htm
http://www.malesubmission.com/faq/cbt.htm
http://www.medicaltoys.com/lib-electric.htm
http://www.mybdsm.com/pages/faustopheles/needle_play.html
http://www.domsub.info/caning.html
http://www.sexuality.org/l/sex/handball.html
http://www.thehumanequine.com/
http://www.bullwhip.org/
http://www.nlacolumbus.com/education/sm101/smtechniques.html
http://www.the-vox.com/paddles.shtml
http://www.tpe.com/~altarboy/clinks.htm
http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/Ds/humiliation.htm


What is a munch and how to find them:
http://www.soj.org/articles/A%20Beginners%20Guide%20to%20BDSM%20Munches.htm
http://www.drkdesyre.com/meetppl/orgs/orgs.html
http://domsubfriends.com/a-wwwdir/org.shtml
http://www.blackandblueusa.com/#Mark%20Your%20Calendars
http://www.dssg.org/links.htm
http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/uk/
 
links to sites for "Dungeon etiquitte."
http://www.leatherfamilyonline.com/full_story.cfm?i=39
http://www.steel-door.com/dungeon_etiquette.htm
http://www.domsub.info/playpartyett.html


Shopping sites
http://www.extremerestraints.com/
http://www.mr-s-leather.com/
http://www.stockroom.com/
http://www.eatleather.com/
http://stores.ebay.com/Stumpys-Woodworking_W0QQsspagenameZl2QQtZkm
https://www.bdsmtoybox.com/
http://www.blowfish.com/
http://www.bunnyflogger.com/
http://www.leathercellar.com/
http://www.reb-online.com/index-2.htm
http://www.snakepitleatherworks.com/
http://www.whipmasterbob.com/
http://nawtythings.com/
http://www.bigsextoystore.com/


Make your own toys or find them around the house:
http://www.mybdsm.com/pages/carmb/howflog.html
http://www.saroftreve.com/workshop/
http://www.prrcat.com/prrv/making.htm
http://www.sexuality.org/l/bdsm/canes.html
http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/cheaptoys.htm
http://www.symtoys.com/toys.html
http://www.sexuality.org/l/bdsm/creatoy.html
http://www.annasart.com/bdsmhome/toymaker.html

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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/14/2007 5:24:32 AM   
TNstepsout


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Status: offline 		Another thing that a lot of people will recommend, but I was too scared to do, is to attend local munches and activities. When I finally did get around to it, about a year after I first wandered onto CM, it was fantastic. It allowed me to attend some parties and the local dungeon and to watch and ask questions and get an idea of what was going on without feeling pressured to participate.

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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/14/2007 5:36:23 AM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		Wow BeachMystress, that even topped LA's series of links! Lots of great sites there aquarius, read and learn and then bring questions that arise from your reading to the boards. Doing it in that order tends to elevate your questions from the typical repetitive newbie ones to a more interesting level ... which means you get more interesting responses! That said, I still stand by the motto that the only truly dumb question is the one not asked.

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/14/2007 6:23:52 AM   
came4U


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quote:

Or just some all around tips to newbies?


<coughs,

just try to watch out for some crazy guy named Ron.

rofl

(sorry, had to haha)

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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/14/2007 9:15:52 AM   
earthycouple


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ORIGINAL: lighthearted

lookit Donna's new photo!


lol um, thanks? *S*

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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/15/2007 3:48:08 AM   
BeachMystress


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ORIGINAL: TNstepsout

Another thing that a lot of people will recommend, but I was too scared to do, is to attend local munches and activities.

When you finally do get around to munches and local groups, Ames is the home of Cuffs, http://www.stuorg.iastate.edu/cuffs/ an ISU based BDSM education group. Even if you don't attend college there they may allow you to attend the meetings and workshops. It's a good way to learn with others around your same age and experience level.
 
You can also check http://www.drkdesyre.com/meetppl/orgs/orgsiowa.html for other orgs near you.

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RE: New to all this jazz! - 9/15/2007 7:36:33 AM   
proudsub


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ORIGINAL: aquarius27

Im new *smiles* I would like to learn more about being a sub does anyone have any good websites that would help? Or just some all around tips to newbies?


There is tons of good information here on CM. Use the search feature at the top of the page to find topics you might be interested in, just change the options to topics and subject.

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