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mnottertail -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 6:41:58 PM)
does he know about the vaginal garbage bags requierment you got and shit? or is there something you left out of the interchange? Ron

SolarAndViolet -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 6:44:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl I thought he was getting a little ahead of himself as well. I told him there would be no collaring until we met in person and I got to know him. The only thing I said in my journal was that I had been contacted by a Dom in my town, we were supposed to meet this week, and I hoped it worked out. To sum it up: This. This right here. Precisely what most people will suggest, and with cause. Anyone that wants to give a collar away that quickly either finds them meaningless or doesn't care who is in it, so long as someone is in it. I'm sure there are some out there that completely fetishize being a number, not a name, face and person for his/her Dom(me), but it sounds like you had the right general idea. -Solar

xoxi -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 6:44:06 PM)
Blocked his number? Probably married. Asks for dirty talk on the phone before meeting? Probably interested in a purely physical "relationship" or encounter. Says he would like to meet this week then not only doesn't set a date but doesn't bother to call all week? Probably not terribly interested to begin with. Asks you to mention him in your profile? Probably an ego trip. How old is this guy? If he's in his 20's or so...I guess it's understandable but still indefensible. A man I know (who is 39) recently told me that once guys hit their 30's, if they like a girl, they call. I've found myself that if they aren't that interested, they email or just answer when she calls, and if they're not interested they don't bother picking up or writing more than a sentence or two email. I don't know if you're looking for a relationship, or dating, or playtime, or what, but I can say for certain this guy isn't interested in a relationship with you. And from what it sounds like, he's most likely a self centered jerk so I wouldn't be too disappointed [;)]

chiaThePet -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 6:45:06 PM)
Your name here is defiantbadgirl. What part of that did he miss? When did you stop being such and become remorsefulgoodgurl? Chin up and show no regrets. chia* (the pet)

mnottertail -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 6:46:41 PM)
there is no chance that he might have had a sense of humor, you might see if you can inveigle a bit of personal information, and turn him in to the feds fore your personal security, is there? the fuckin guy is a grocery bagger and works right next to you......look into his eyes and know the truth, it shall set you free. Ganesh

xoxi -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 6:48:05 PM)
Oh and to answer the original question in the OP...If a guy says he will call at a certain day or time then doesn't, don't automatically assume he's a wanker. It's not the end of the world to give a guy a call the day after he said he would call but didn't and say 'how's life' and he might have just been really busy. I think you did kinda jump the gun on this one...too much assuming and not enough communication. Also I don't think he's 'pissed' per se, but is probably thinking you're a bit obsessive for needing to 'move on' and going through the drama of 'deleting him from your journal' and telling him about it. To be honest those would raise a bit of a red flag with me...I don't like to deal with drama. BUT if a guy says he will call and then doesn't call it also shows that he is at best slightly thoughtless and absent minded. Obviously you've never met him so that's not so horrific as if he were your bf or someone you were dating, but it also shows that his interest in you is less than 100% at the time. Once again though...you never met. Things like relationships need to develop naturally. And in person.

jadedTN -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 6:48:32 PM)
I think Dominants have the some of the same responsibilities as submissives, one of which is common courtesy. Whether or not you felt a connection too fast is not the issue, the fact is that you did feel that connection and he led you to believe that he did as well. In that case respect for the person should rule, be they dominant or submissive.

angelic -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 6:54:23 PM)
Red flags (imo): 1) talk of a collar so early on; 2) he wanted you to mention him on your profile before you had ever met; 3) he blocked his phone number (this is a major red flag in my opinion). i think you are damned lucky that this happened early on. i think you should move forward.

angelic -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 6:58:53 PM)
Who the fuck put a bug up your ass? sheesh

BeachMystress -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 6:59:45 PM)
He wanted your number so you could talk dirty to him but blocked his own number? WTF? Huge red flag there.. he wants you to have more exposure than he does. Then he doesn't show up online again for days and claims it is because he is busy? It takes three mins to write someone a note saying "I'm thinking of you but am very busy. Talk later." The lack of consideration, the hiding his phone number and the "coincidence" of him signing on the very day you complain lead me to one conclusion, HE IS A WANKER.

subinsouth -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 7:03:04 PM)
One day he contacts you online, same day wants to collar you? Wow. You want to know what you did wrong ~ seems to me the biggest thing you did wrong is thinking that you did *anything* wrong. Let it go ~ allready he is too much drama. If he were interested in you, at the very least, he would have contacted you when he signed on here ~ seems he is just not that into you.

mnottertail -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 7:06:13 PM)
LOL, nobody, but you can try to if you want, but I have to forewarn you it is not gonna go your way. I am concerned that any person that can show up with a brain at all can say anything more than oh, too fuckin bad, wipe your ass and go to bed, what is with the oh, poor baby, of course you did the right thing support net shit? sew your pissflaps up and learn this time.

angelic -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 7:14:27 PM)
Well, you never know, i am actually quite good with bugs. And what is wrong with the oh poor baby answer? (Although that was not my response). Maybe possibly, maaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyybeeeeeeee she needs a little sympathy, i do not recall that she does this everyday. Lighten up, it's Friday!

xoxi -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 7:14:51 PM)
Does that mean I don't have a brain because I said she did the wrong thing by jumping the gun, making assumptions, and emailing him a drama-tinted note rather than simply moving on in her own mind and telling him when/if he bothered to contact her?

MissMagnolia -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 7:29:31 PM)
passes Ron a packet of tampons and some panadol and advises a good lie down

mnottertail -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 7:31:27 PM)
no, what it means is you can pop by the house and get a free slap the fuck out of dodge. You win, take off your pants. Ron

SolarAndViolet -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 7:36:54 PM)
grin stop feeding the troll -S

defiantbadgirl -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 8:18:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xoxi Does that mean I don't have a brain because I said she did the wrong thing by jumping the gun, making assumptions, and emailing him a drama-tinted note rather than simply moving on in her own mind and telling him when/if he bothered to contact her? I had no intention of the email being "drama tinted." I was trying to project the image of not putting up with wankers. That I don't sit around for months staring at my phone or computer screen waiting for a Dom to contact me. You're right in stating that I probably shouldn't have sent him an email at all and simply deleted the journal entry. Next time, that is what I will do.

ELUSIVE1 -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 8:18:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael you are BOTH wankers HA- I thought you had softened a bit since you and BossyShoe got together--but here is the old SM...and yes I agree..both hng's

mnottertail -> RE: I screwed up big time. (9/14/2007 8:23:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl quote: ORIGINAL: xoxi Does that mean I don't have a brain because I said she did the wrong thing by jumping the gun, making assumptions, and emailing him a drama-tinted note rather than simply moving on in her own mind and telling him when/if he bothered to contact her? I had no intention of the email being "drama tinted." I was trying to project the image of not putting up with wankers. That I don't sit around for months staring at my phone or computer screen waiting for a Dom to contact me. You're right in stating that I probably shouldn't have sent him an email at all and simply deleted the journal entry. Next time, that is what I will do. no, you have a shelf life, and should use it liberally. Ron

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