SunnyTawse
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ORIGINAL: sublizzie
I'm not much for bars or large social gatherings either. I'd suggest signing up for one of the local email lists to find out what's going on and showing up at some of the stuff.
Excellent approach.
Even better, post a few times after you join so that people start to recognize your name.
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ORIGINAL: sublizzie
Was scared spitless the first few times I went to a TIES munch.
Oh my... the TIES munch really is something, isn't it! You were brave to go.
The TIES munch in Minneapolis is a huge gathering of the tribes and not a place I would recommend new people go to meet others. There is so much commotion and noise with sometimes close to 200 people chatting and drinking and eating and yes, sometimes getting a little rambunctious. Once you know people, it can be fun to attend, but I don't always go that often, either.
The common complaint is that there are cliques, but with so many people, it's only natural to sit and talk with your friends. I used to know everyone there and could spot a new person at 50 paces... but these days, I don't know half the people there. I couldn't pick someone new out of the crowd to save my life.
The better choices for new people are the smaller munches, and there are seven or eight of those every month in Minneapolis. If you join one of those local email lists sublizzie mentioned, you'll know what is when; some of the groups keep a calendar for easy reference. Some munches are comprised of only about 10 people and some of up to 30 or 40, but it's easier to meet and talk with people at any of these smaller ones than it is at the TIES munch.
But I want to address something else, too. Some here have commented on all the showy Doms and the poly and play-time poly individuals at parties and so forth, and sometimes I get a little tired of that atmosphere as well. But consider this... those are only the people who stand out.
Community members with quieter lifestyles and personalities are there in the background. Everyone's attention goes to the whip-cracking Dom who assemby-lines bottoms across the St. Andrew's cross like there was no tomorrow or the beautiful young submissive who flounces back and forth in front with her perky tits bouncing, but look around. There's an older couple quietly watching a scene... there's a service submissive who would never agree to a singletail but who keeps the buffet table and water cooler replenished... there's a shy young Dom sitting by himself... there are three people snuggling under a blanket...
You will notice those who are loud at a munch, yes, but don't be fooled. They aren't the only ones there. Broaden your gaze.
And if you feel uncomfortable, come back and come back again until we've seen your face a few times and know your name. In some ways, you still have to prove yourself if you want to enter the leather community.
Sunny Tawse
Sadien Domina
Archon of Rings
http://AthenorLodge.com
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