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RE: Punishment...privacy? - 9/20/2007 8:46:58 PM

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hmm, agreeing with what some have said, that generally unless the other people around are fellow lifestylers as well as friends (so wouldn't be made uncomfortable by the issue), punishment should be handled privately. the exception being a case like LA mentioned, when one is in the general public and the punishment is discreet and difficult for anyone to notice. in a situation like described in the OP, my Master would most likely have a few firm words with me right then and send me out of the room, then punish me later when the guest had left.

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RE: Punishment...privacy? - 9/21/2007 8:58:09 AM

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I generally abide by, praise in public, punish in private, most of the time. My pet knows she was in the wrong and will know sure enough how I feel. The only difference might be if the friend knows and approves of your lifestyle. For example if your friend is a dom or sub, then maybe it won't make a difference, but I generally stick with praise in public and punish in private.
Great question by the way.

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RE: Punishment...privacy? - 9/21/2007 9:15:42 AM

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After reading this and thinking about it for a while I'm of the mind that the "Dominant" needs to develop a sense of humor about themselves and grow a thicker skin. I could very easily tease about a questiong being "dumb". There's no way it would be meant to be rude or deserve punishment. It would be teasing with a glint in my eye telling the person I said it to that I was just having fun and giving them a chance to chill. If you have a good self-esteem, that kind of comment wouldn't be punishable.

As to whether it deserved public or private punishment, IMO it deserved neither. A discussion about how you are too thin skinned to find teasing funny and too self-important to handle imagined pricks to your pride would be enough for me to move along.

As to whether punishment should be public or private, I would agree with the rest of the posters. Nothing in front of people who would not understand. Nothing in front of guests who would feel uncomfortable. Nothing that would make a minor punishment into something major for the submissive.

Just my thoughts.......

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RE: Punishment...privacy? - 9/21/2007 12:21:58 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: OnyxDelphi

So a question popped into my mind, and the best way I can describe it is through an analogy.

Lets say that you are sitting down watching tv with your best friend, and your slave. Lets say you make ask a question and your slave comments accidentally, yet rudely about dumb it was. So, you're slightly offended and your pride is slightly poked at since you're in the presence of your friend.

So this is where my question starts. It's not a matter of whether you will punish her, because you are. The question is, is it innapropriate to punish her in front of your friend or do you punish her in private.

To which I ask, is punishing your slave in public wrong or...what?

Extra Credit if you explain what you would do as a punishment.

I wouldn't be able to *prick his pride* by an *accidental comment, made rudely*, no matter who was present. His pride isn't connected to my behaviour.

But...If I *opened mouth before connecting brain*, I'd probably get an "Oi, cheeky mare!". It might be accompanied by a *"playful" clout about the head, administered with a grin* and an * I'd shush if I were you, dear*, kind of look............whatever company we were in.

The *Let's say* scenario you've mentioned is a bit of a leap from the question you ended with.

Punishing your slave in Public..right or wrong?. M makes sure that the ONLY person that gets punished, if called for, is ME, public or not.

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RE: Punishment...privacy? - 9/22/2007 6:27:58 PM

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If your friend is in the lifestyle and you are one who punishes publicly, that is your call. If they are not in the lifestyle then a public punishment may be inappropriate. Of course, you could also have the type of relationship whereby a single look can inflict punishment at the thought of displeasure. Then you can take care of things later.

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RE: Punishment...privacy? - 9/22/2007 6:56:33 PM

Redandtreasure

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Personally I would give her a look to let her know she was out of line and punish her in private. Her punishment is not for the world to see. But this is also where training comes in at and a well trained sub/slave would not pop off like that in any setting and dishonor there Top.

As far as the punishment goes let the punishment fit the crime. her mouth and her sences got her in trouble then punish her them I will not say how but that is what I would do.

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