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Smythe -> RE: Chastity (9/22/2007 11:51:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: seeksfemslave dear seeks, I don't believe you will find many converts here, despite your proselytizing. It may not be for you, but imposition of chastity is a time honored way of causing intense arousal, deep feelings of submission and ultimately a satisfying little spurt. Then the cycle can start over. Males that I have been involved with find it addicting and really don't want to go back to "freedom". Smythe Anything your say Smythe old chap, anything you say ! I'm lolling so dont get mad lol dear seeks, Anyone who calls me "old chap" is OK in my book. Now, keep your hands where I can see them, and we will see how things look to you in a week or two :) Smythe

seeksfemslave -> RE: Chastity (9/22/2007 4:00:15 PM)
quote: smythe dear seeks, Anyone who calls me "old chap" is OK in my book. Now, keep your hands where I can see them, and we will see how things look to you in a week or two :) Smythe Cant do it smythe old boy, surely you are not so bad that you would deny on old boffo like me one of his few remaining pleasures ? If so I will steal your banjo. lol

pixelslave -> RE: Chastity (9/22/2007 9:10:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subartist I have been attracted to this idea for a while, I like the idea of being kept by someone, forbidden sexual release, etc. Especially if I am to be used for her sexual pleasure. But I was attracted mostly to the power exchange of it all. I had an experience recently with a woman who never allowed me any release, and after a while I realized that this is a sexual fetish. It is not just another way to express my submission to her, it is actually extremely erotic to be completely denied in this way. In fact, it makes it so I am turned on all the time. I wonder, how can chastity be sexual? It seems like a bit of a contradiction. subartist, You're right in that giving control of your orgasms can be a very submissive, yet arousing act. Be careful who you give that control to and how she exercizes it. If not done properly it can have long term consequences for you which I doubt you'd consider desirable. [&:] After being taught not to have an orgasm for extended periods of time, or to hold back and not ejaculate, until given permission by your Mistress (if she even gives you permission at all), eventually you may find it difficult to have an orgasm at all. Many male subs don't speak of this problem for obvious reasons, but believe me when I say that it happens after being conditioned in the manner that some Dommes are known to train their subs to perform to please them. That kind of training and mental conditioning is not easy to undo after it's been imbedded in a man's subconscious for a long enough period of time. [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m23.gif[/image] - pixel Collared to Majik

subartist -> RE: Chastity (9/23/2007 8:41:37 AM)
Thanks for the warning, although I think I will be able to tell if I'm doing any damage to my body, and would then rethink the situation. But I think I can go a long way before I get anywhere near that point...

hardbodysub -> RE: Chastity (9/23/2007 9:28:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AFlyInYourWeb quote: ORIGINAL: subartist I wonder, how can chastity be sexual? It seems like a bit of a contradiction. Because ejaculation is not all there is to sex. Think of chastity as very extended foreplay, even extreme foreplay, and I think you eliminate the contradiction. Very true, as long as the hope of orgasm hasn't been removed.

chiaThePet -> RE: Chastity (9/23/2007 10:55:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subartist I have been attracted to this idea for a while, I like the idea of being kept by someone, forbidden sexual release, etc. Especially if I am to be used for her sexual pleasure. But I was attracted mostly to the power exchange of it all. I had an experience recently with a woman who never allowed me any release, and after a while I realized that this is a sexual fetish. It is not just another way to express my submission to her, it is actually extremely erotic to be completely denied in this way. In fact, it makes it so I am turned on all the time. I wonder, how can chastity be sexual? It seems like a bit of a contradiction. i see you've met my former wife. Dee Nile chia* (the pet)

abchipster -> RE: Chastity (9/23/2007 3:00:35 PM)
I was placed in Chastity for the first time back in October by my friends Wife who is his Mistress. i was a submissive in training by Her. She put me in Chastity, and then changed my device a month later. She held the key the whole time. I went for 50 days with no release. It was a total thrill and one that i loved. I found out how much i enjoy being in Chastity. I am now looking for a Keyholder. Hard to find them. I am also a well rounded submissive who enjoys althis life style has to offer.

pixelslave -> RE: Chastity (9/23/2007 3:47:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subartist Thanks for the warning, although I think I will be able to tell if I'm doing any damage to my body, and would then rethink the situation. But I think I can go a long way before I get anywhere near that point... Just to clarify, what I'm speaking of, it's not about doing physical damage to your body. Instead it's about doing damage to your mind! Chastity and denial, in various forms, can become a form of psychological programming that's difficult to undo, eventually either preventing or making it very difficult for men who've been subject to such training to be able to ejaculate when stimulated normally. It's not a case where they're not physically capabable of it, but instead one where they're phsychologically not able to give theirselves permission. [8\|] The concept is similar to what one thinks of in regard to Pavlov's dogs. It works very much the same on a male where chastity is used long term as a means of control. Eventually the programming makes it difficult for him to ejaculate even when given permission to do so as that's how deep and effective the programming can work; despite the intense arousal and desire he may have to explode, releasing what's been building inside him after being denied the opportunity to ejaculate for an extended period of time. [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m23.gif[/image] Just a word of caution for those who think this kind of play is totally hot and harmless... - pixel Collared to Majik

footsubdenver -> RE: Chastity (9/25/2007 7:53:03 AM)
I do have a question, would the use of a cock cage for long periods like month or two cause atrophy to the cock muscles? That weakness to the muscles can prevent erections. Any thoughts? footsubDenver

pixelslave -> RE: Chastity (9/25/2007 9:10:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: footsubdenver I do have a question, would the use of a cock cage for long periods like month or two cause atrophy to the cock muscles? That weakness to the muscles can prevent erections. Any thoughts? footsubDenver If you're still able to get erections while in the cage, for example if or when your Mistress teases you, I wouldn't be especially concerned about it, *provided* you're still able to ejaculate at will following those periods of confinement. It's the psychological effects that most concern me when chastity is used in certain ways. If you're not getting erections while in the cock cage, then I'd definitely recommend avoiding that kind of play if you want to maintain the physical side of your sexual health. - pixel Collared to Majik

fungasm -> RE: Chastity (9/25/2007 10:04:59 AM)
Some very fun things to Google: Neo Steel (not always comfortable- but that can be a good thing). The Curve (a fabulous device for the more endowed who crave chastity), CB6000.... There are many, many lovely devices... out there... I have some amazing pets exploring Chastity and Orgasm Denial... and I have to tell you it is incredibly sexy... especially when you make someone who is locked in a device put a Hitachi Magic Wand against it for a count of ten... Alison

RRafe -> RE: Chastity (9/25/2007 10:07:50 AM)
The way this can backfire, is if the sub manages the desire by sublimating it. Instances of impotence have been known to happen if this occurs.

subartist -> RE: Chastity (9/25/2007 10:18:25 AM)
I'll keep your warnings in mind, but I still hope to be locked up in one of these devices one day... I find it to be so stimulating to be controlled and denied in this way. If my Mistress will wish it of course, I can have a change of heart depending on what is required of me.

RRafe -> RE: Chastity (9/25/2007 10:24:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subartist I'll keep your warnings in mind, but I still hope to be locked up in one of these devices one day... I find it to be so stimulating to be controlled and denied in this way. If my Mistress will wish it of course, I can have a change of heart depending on what is required of me. I started as a switch long ago. The Domme thought practicing deprivation would be fun-no orgasms allowed for two weeks. I was very dilligent in managing this,and my sex drive evaporated. When the time came, I could not get it up for her-I had come to associate her with "no sex" you see. She was not happy-it took two more weeks for me to get it back. Jusr be aware-there is always a consequence when you screw with mother nature.

subartist -> RE: Chastity (9/25/2007 10:29:57 AM)
The thing is, when I was not allowed to have an orgasm for weeks, I was turned on all the time. It was like always having an erection, the sexual tension just kept building without release. For me, the orgasm denial was sexually stimulating...

Absolutemaster -> RE: Chastity (9/25/2007 10:51:59 AM)
http://www.tpe.com/~altarboy/warn1231.htm Just thought I'd share...

MistressDolly -> RE: Chastity (9/25/2007 11:28:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hardbodysub The "contradiction" you mentioned is one of the things that make it so exciting. The fact that she is controlling your ability to have an orgasm is very arousing, yet she denies your relief. This continues your sexual arousal, and in fact increases it because the control she has over you is arousing in its own right. This makes your desire and need for orgasm even greater, and yet part of you doesn't want the relief of orgasm, because it's so exciting to be controlled and denied. It's a feedback loop of incredible power. I think one of the most exciting and powerful things a domme can do to a man is to control his orgasm, and always keep him guessing about whether she's going to allow him relief. The uncertainty will keep him on edge, always hoping, never knowing what's in store for him this time. If he has no hope of relief, his interest may waver. If he doesn't know, his attention and dependence on her grows, and her control increases. I agree with your assessment. :)

masochistboytoy -> RE: Chastity (9/25/2007 7:09:42 PM)
the longest i was locked up was just under 6 months - no release whatsoever!

Action -> RE: Chastity (9/26/2007 1:04:02 AM)
As to the muscles unusable comment, the cock actually has NO muscle, its completely a special sort of tissue that swells with increased blood flow. And only has a tendon keeping it secured to the bone. Another thing, for those seeking a simple keyholder, Im all for it. I have a very specific keyholding set of rules that isn't as much interaction as a set slave, its only keyholding with my own set of wants and desires while in chastity, and done long distance. <3

DiannaVesta -> RE: Chastity (9/26/2007 6:39:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Absolutemaster http://www.tpe.com/~altarboy/warn1231.htm Just thought I'd share... Thats a good article to read, for sure. For me it’s about orgasm & cock control not the number of days I deny him orgasm. The maximum I might go is 2 weeks but I don’t let them know that. To them it seems like forever. If someone is in a device I want all activity reported such as how many times they got hard and why. One guy that was locked away for only a week had a wet dream, orgasmed without touching himself and this was most likely due to the fact that he masturbated several times a day prior to being locked away. You really need to start with short time periods and play around with the idea of it rather then just jumping into full blown chastity. One of the terms you may have heard before is “milking” which can be part of chastity and orgasm control. You see you control the cock because it’s your property and therefore the fluids/cum also belong to you. So a Domina into this type of training will “milk” her slave (by stroke herself, having him do it or using a vibrator) to drain him- take his cum and or to keep the cock healthy. Guys that are seriously into chastity enjoy being chastised so when milking time comes its normally a humiliating event even if the release is appreciated. As with any type of play there are always emotional aspects to be considered. Addictions are formed with almost anything. If you become compulsive then you have a problem that must be dealt with. You can’t confuse this with a need that bring better balance into your life.

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