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pixelslave -> RE: Chastity (9/26/2007 8:37:07 AM)
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ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta
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ORIGINAL: Absolutemaster
http://www.tpe.com/~altarboy/warn1231.htm
Just thought I'd share...
Thats a good article to read, for sure.
For me it’s about orgasm & cock control not the number of days I deny him orgasm. The maximum I might go is 2 weeks but I don’t let them know that. To them it seems like forever. If someone is in a device I want all activity reported such as how many times they got hard and why. One guy that was locked away for only a week had a wet dream, orgasmed without touching himself and this was most likely due to the fact that he masturbated several times a day prior to being locked away. You really need to start with short time periods and play around with the idea of it rather then just jumping into full blown chastity.
One of the terms you may have heard before is “milking” which can be part of chastity and orgasm control. You see you control the cock because it’s your property and therefore the fluids/cum also belong to you. So a Domina into this type of training will “milk” her slave (by stroke herself, having him do it or using a vibrator) to drain him- take his cum and or to keep the cock healthy. Guys that are seriously into chastity enjoy being chastised so when milking time comes its normally a humiliating event even if the release is appreciated.
As with any type of play there are always emotional aspects to be considered. Addictions are formed with almost anything. If you become compulsive then you have a problem that must be dealt with. You can’t confuse this with a need that bring better balance into your life.
Dianna,
I'm glad you dropped in to add your experience and insight to this area of play. Note the Bolded-Italics were my addition to your post for the purpose of highlighting them. This type of thing is part of what I was alluding to that can create psychological problems for a male as well. When conditioned to ejaculate only in one of the proscribed manners you've listed above, or some other specifice manner chosen by a Domme, eventually a submissive male who's been trained in this way may no longer be capable of ejaculating any other way.
Again, this is another situation akin to Pavlov's dogs. In time, the male loses the capability to have intercourse should he find himself in a situation where his Mistress desires it, or for some reason is dismissed and eventually find himself with another woman who has different needs and wants this from him. That type of conditioning is very difficult to undo, thus the cautions I, RRafe and the article referenced at alterboy's site are in part based on. [&:]
I genuinely don't want to spoil anyone's fun and believe that chastity in certain forms can be part of a healthy dynamic. I completely understand how stimulating and equally submissive it can make one feel. [8D]
At the same time, I want to educate those involved or considering this type of play, both male and female, about what can happen when it is approached in certain ways that can have long term undesirable consequences for the male. I speak from experience and know how difficult this kind of conditioning is to overcome. Most male subs who have had to deal with this don't speak out about it. Those who've not experienced the consequences generally don't want to hear about it either. [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m23.gif[/image]
- pixel
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