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Chastity - 9/21/2007 8:42:23 AM   
subartist


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Status: offline 		I have been attracted to this idea for a while, I like the idea of being kept by someone, forbidden sexual release, etc.  Especially if I am to be used for her sexual pleasure.  But I was attracted mostly to the power exchange of it all.  I had an experience recently with a woman who never allowed me any release, and after a while I realized that this is a sexual fetish.  It is not just another way to express my submission to her, it is actually extremely erotic to be completely denied in this way.  In fact, it makes it so I am turned on all the time.  I wonder, how can chastity be sexual?  It seems like a bit of a contradiction. 

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RE: Chastity - 9/21/2007 10:13:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		The "contradiction" you mentioned is one of the things that make it so exciting. The fact that she is controlling your ability to have an orgasm is very arousing, yet she denies your relief. This continues your sexual arousal, and in fact increases it because the control she has over you is arousing in its own right. This makes your desire and need for orgasm even greater, and yet part of you doesn't want the relief of orgasm, because it's so exciting to be controlled and denied. It's a feedback loop of incredible power.

I think one of the most exciting and powerful things a domme can do to a man is to control his orgasm, and always keep him guessing about whether she's going to allow him relief. The uncertainty will keep him on edge, always hoping, never knowing what's in store for him this time. If he has no hope of relief, his interest may waver. If he doesn't know, his attention and dependence on her grows, and her control increases.

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RE: Chastity - 9/21/2007 12:47:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		It is an interesting paradox. We have not used devices here in our house but have done control and denial. The power exchange is a rush on both sides.. obeying and enforcing chastity with just a word.
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RE: Chastity - 9/21/2007 3:33:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Surely if you are a young man you would have had release via wet dreams ? No domme can control that can they ?

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RE: Chastity - 9/21/2007 9:13:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		Chastity means never having to say you're not horny.

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RE: Chastity - 9/21/2007 9:24:04 PM   
subartist


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Status: offline 		You are right that part of you doesn't even want release, or at least for me it's something I want, but then a let down after waiting for so long, and being aroused for so long.  As if afterwords the erotic tension is over, I'm somehow less sexually charged.  Of course luckily, this is a feeling that lasts only a short while.  But it is something I'll always long for nonetheless, even though I've learned by now that I love this denial.  I don't think I would choose chastity on my own, I would only want it in submission.  But I agree that it is exciting to want relief, while being denied, and if I could never cum ever, I wouldn't spend that time hoping and wishing for it.  It is probably most exciting to have some release, sometimes, but usually not at all.

I suppose if I went long enough I would have wet dreams, it never came to that.  Sounds like a good experiment.  After going for a while without any release, I would feel like I would almost cum while doing other things, without even touching myself.  Sometimes things that were supposed to be a punishment. 

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RE: Chastity - 9/21/2007 9:45:43 PM   
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I wonder, how can chastity be sexual?  It seems like a bit of a contradiction. 


Because ejaculation is not all there is to sex.

Think of chastity as very extended foreplay, even extreme foreplay, and I think you eliminate the contradiction.

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RE: Chastity - 9/21/2007 9:47:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Devices help extend the denial even longer....what fun!!!!!

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RE: Chastity - 9/21/2007 10:17:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		What sort of devices?  I don't know about this, it's hard for me to picture what you might be refering to.  I imagine some lock and key device, which does sound interesting.  But if that were the case how would I go to the bathroom?

I think I like the description of chastity as very extended foreplay, that is a good way to look at it.

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RE: Chastity - 9/21/2007 11:03:21 PM   
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What sort of devices?  I don't know about this, it's hard for me to picture what you might be refering to.  I imagine some lock and key device, which does sound interesting.  But if that were the case how would I go to the bathroom?

I think I like the description of chastity as very extended foreplay, that is a good way to look at it.


Eeee oh how adorable that you don't know. Look up chastity devices for men, cock cages, with little padlocks. Cock rings are always a good little sort of "collar" for mental control. But for those that want the absolute dinability of being able to touch, a cock castity device it so much fun. I recomend one to work up to, my favorite are long distance relationships where your Mistress may own the key thousands of miles away, and can mail it to you when she feels like giving you the treat of release, only to be locked up once more as you mail it back.

*giggles happly* I ADORE chastity on men.

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RE: Chastity - 9/21/2007 11:15:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		It does sound really sexy...

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RE: Chastity - 9/22/2007 12:39:35 AM   
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subartist
I suppose if I went long enough I would have wet dreams, it never came to that.  Sounds like a good experiment.  After going for a while without any release, I would feel like I would almost cum while doing other things, without even touching myself

Well all I know is that when I was a young man had I have gone in for orgasm denial for any length of time I wouldnt have been able to see straight, think straight or walk straight lol.

My advice is let those tadpoles free ! Domme or no Domme.

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RE: Chastity - 9/22/2007 5:16:16 AM   
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subartist
I suppose if I went long enough I would have wet dreams, it never came to that. Sounds like a good experiment. After going for a while without any release, I would feel like I would almost cum while doing other things, without even touching myself

Well all I know is that when I was a young man had I have gone in for orgasm denial for any length of time I wouldnt have been able to see straight, think straight or walk straight lol.

My advice is let those tadpoles free ! Domme or no Domme.



dear seeks,
I don't believe you will find many converts here, despite your proselytizing. It may not be for you, but imposition of chastity is a time honored way of causing intense arousal, deep feelings of submission and ultimately a satisfying little spurt. Then the cycle can start over. Males that I have been involved with find it addicting and really don't want to go back to "freedom".

Smythe


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RE: Chastity - 9/22/2007 5:27:05 AM   
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If you really want to get tripped out and have a few bucks, try lockedinsteel.com

You can get their belt or the CB3000 with their suport belt. Then you can't touch it.

Give her the keys and try that. My record is nine weeks. Wow.

T

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RE: Chastity - 9/22/2007 5:36:12 AM   
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subartist
I suppose if I went long enough I would have wet dreams, it never came to that. Sounds like a good experiment.

Well all I know is that when I was a young man had I have gone in for orgasm denial for any length of time I wouldnt have been able to see straight, think straight or walk straight lol.
My advice is let those tadpoles free ! Domme or no Domme.

dear seeks,
I don't believe you will find many converts here, despite your proselytizing. It may not be for you, but imposition of chastity is a time honored way of causing intense arousal, deep feelings of submission and ultimately a satisfying little spurt. Then the cycle can start over. Males that I have been involved with find it addicting and really don't want to go back to "freedom".
Smythe


Anything your say Smythe old chap, anything you say !
I'm lolling so dont get mad lol

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RE: Chastity - 9/22/2007 6:03:56 AM   
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RE: Chastity - 9/22/2007 6:23:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		For an exhaustive set of reviews on particular devices, along with links to same (to the extent they are still for sale) please see The Altarboy website. It has been around for over a decade, though I don't believe it has been updated as much as it used to in the last several years.

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RE: Chastity - 9/22/2007 8:48:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		Eroticism can be felt in your whole body… passion is fuel not only for your libido but your mind, body and soul. One of the things that have kept me involved in female domination for so many years is that it stimulates me to the core. Its goes way beyond the psychical and really penetrates me. Nothing can take me higher then real power exchange. Controlling a man universe, his cock and the most power energy over his existence, his orgasm, is by far the ultimate form of control.
  In female supremacy chastity and orgasm control is standard. When you become my property you really become my property which means that your cock is now mine as well as everything else. You wouldn’t borrow my car without permission; therefore I expect the same with my slave property. The male is given rules and one of those rules is not to touch it, however some males need a device because they simply can not control the urges. They’ve masturbated everyday or often for so long that they become overwhelmed.
  If you tease and deny you can create a very enthusiastic slave, however if you don’t train him properly you’ll create a “do me boy” or a male that forgets how to serve after he is given orgasm. Finding the right balance through training is really important.      

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RE: Chastity - 9/22/2007 9:31:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would obey without using a device, but I'm attracted to the idea nonetheless.  And the further restriction of not being able to even if I wanted, or if I had a change of mind in a moment of weakness, or something like that, it's enough to peak my interest.  And not to even be able to touch myself without permission.  I was used to masturbating regularly, until my former Mistress took control.  So it was even more exciting to be denied.  I would just sit there turned on, unable to do anything about it, for many hours on end.  Or many days, weeks, etc.  And yes, it is the power exchange that is at the root of it all.  To give the most personal aspects of your mind and body over to your Mistress, this kind of control seems erotic to itself.  It seems only natural for a Domme to impose chastity on her sub.

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RE: Chastity - 9/22/2007 9:41:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		Male Chastity is necessary to stimulate his desire to be pleasing and serves as a constant reminder that he is owned.  Knowing release is possible not probable erotically stimulates him to behaving according to the wishes of his Domme. 

Knowing you cannot touch yourself or bring yourself to orgasm without my permission turns me on ...

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