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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:49:46 PM   
BlackKnight


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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:50:52 PM   
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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:50:57 PM   
corsetgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: dyangirl

I believe I should be searching..I have no owner . If he has moved on so shall I ..
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Your young, pretty and I believe you will have a long line of doms at your door and he will be just a fading memory!

I wish you well.

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:52:02 PM   
chellekitty


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Status: offline 		hey....i just read your tag line again....if theres no pope of rope, theres no santa, so you must not be real I NEED AN ADULT....THIS MAN IS TOUCHING ME IN MY SPECIAL PLACE.... oh wait...do it again....again....he he he

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:52:07 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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ORIGINAL: dyangirl

once again thank you for your reply's. I too feel as though a game was played, I did not mind the other sub. I enjoy it, but, he doted on her and waited on her. I did not know how to feel or react to this.. So I thought best to leave.
and then later told me she had belonged to another owner and was on loan to test me. Because He thought I was the one and wanted declaration of a bond already set. And told me that I should have been willing to just be there and not be pleased or touched .. so confused..
Well rather than testing you, he should of been communicating with you..Tempting

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:54:11 PM   
dyangirl


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Status: offline 		he said I was his only babygirl his only sub.. because he does travel he does have woman he sees else where.. which was agreed upon.

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 8:01:35 PM   
dyangirl


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Status: offline 		thank you all for help. KISS
I shall move on... Kiss
You have lifted me KIS

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 8:42:15 PM   
feastie


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Status: offline 		So, he brought another sub to your FIRST meeting?  And doted on her and pretty much ignored you to boot?

My God, who needs that kind of stress in a relationship? 

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Head games - and I can't take it anymore
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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 8:48:43 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Sounds like a typical case of frenzy turned sour- just do yourself a favor and wait six more months before becoming committed to anyone else.

He knew what he was doing was crappy, but he thought he could manipulate you into getting it.  When he really didn't, he tried shame and exclusion.

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 8:57:18 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		LA-----------don't be so fuckin' trite........I am sure this was way so much larger than that.


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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 9:21:55 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: dyangirl
later he told me it was a test of committement ..
Yep, he wanted to see if you would stay no matter what. Quite the game. Why would you want someone like that back?





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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 9:24:53 PM   
ProlificNeeds


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Status: offline 		He sounds like a wanker, good riddence.
Go date around, sample everything available, and don't commit to anything until you're able to prove the person isn't going to wank all over your emotions.... unless you like it when someone wanks on you...

Silliness aside, just go get to know people, being owned does NOT equal being happy, wait as long as YOU need to wait, and move only when you are comfortable moving.

edited for a crucial missing word.

< Message edited by ProlificNeeds -- 9/21/2007 9:26:38 PM >

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RE: displeased owner - 9/22/2007 12:30:18 AM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		He was an ass to just spring that on you...and as for how long you wait?....I would suggest until you feel ready for the intensity this kind of relationship bring, and  KNOW what you want ...need...and are willing to give, for starters... These are things I found I needed to learn also....I'm sorry you were treated so poorly...I wish you well on your journey.
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RE: displeased owner - 9/22/2007 12:56:58 AM   
Estring


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RE: displeased owner - 9/22/2007 3:17:23 AM   
sirguym


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Status: offline 		Just get out there and start looking for a replacement for him!

As a female slave or subbie seeking a male Dom, even if most of  the male Doms here are useless as I have heard said, the odds are in your favour.

You should be able to find another Dom easier than he can find another girl.

If you really want him back it maay stir him into a presponse, but this is a basic issue that has to be determined from the start and if he did not realise that then he is not experienced or wise enough to be trusted.

I have only one wife, and no plans to take an alternative or extra one; but I have a number of slaves and subbies in a varied set of relationships who turn out for me to be ponies, puppies, office girls or whatever for me in the UK midland and elsewhere.

If any of them want to be my slave, and I take them on that basis, then I will expect that they get permission from before having any other intimate relationship, but consider myself free to take on other subbies or slaves.

If I am going into a situation where two or more of my subbies, slaves,  my wife, or a borrowed playmate will be present then I will hope and try to warn the others, if I think of it, but I have established the ground rules from the outset anyway.

All this kind of issue should be settled very early on in a relationship, because one of the basic misunderstandings that happen right across the scene is that most Dom(me)s presume they can play with multiple partners: whereas most submissives, particularly girls, want an exclusive relationship - and will often presume the relationship is exclusive, unless the issue is raised and dealt with.

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RE: displeased owner - 9/22/2007 3:35:34 AM   
mons


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being a submissive dear does not makes you a doormat, for me i think he was wrong to just bring someone into his and your bed. without letting you know. he is your master but you need respect and you should have it. you are so right to be mad , and this bullshit about a test is crazy. i love a man once he was dominant and he word was always last. i love him so much i was foolish he told me i was to skinny and i gain with but oh then i gain to much weight. nothing i ever did was good enough for him. your master and i am so sorry to say had to be with this slave before you saw him again, i went against my own rights to do thing he wanted. move on he has i remember my man told me he would always love me but left me with a baby and that was so hurtful. to bring another and then get mad when your upset show his lack of respect and love for you. you sound like a wonderful woman person and human being. this will pass i know being a submissive the master has so much power over you and mind games and control you can and will find another leave that puke in the ground his has not even thought to be kind. i am harsh on dominants who abuse their power and take control over someone and then " oh i do not need her or him and the pain they cause is hell. i am a dominant but i make sure the person i pick i treat them well. i also gave a chance to him to release you is so bad i am truly sorry but this has happen for a reason move on and find another in time. i write what i do i left this man and never turn back. it hurt me for sometime and i still move one i wanted to write him and call him but when he wanted to hurt me by not writing our son i knew he needed to go.

i wish you all of the luck in the world and i do not know if you pray or not , but i will say one for you please take care. and this shall pass dear trust me it will.

take care and cry all you want it helps then move on.

Mons i wish you all of the best.

a note to many who have read many of my letters and gasp with shock and horror . i had a condition call walled eyes , i hit my head right where the optic nerves are, thus causing me to see double and zigzag i now have special eye glasses they are thick but most important i can see i can write. and read again so . i hope my letter are so much better i am new person now thanks for the help some gave and wow i can see now Jane

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RE: displeased owner - 9/22/2007 3:57:54 AM   
Rule


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Status: offline 		Seems to me that he already decided on her rather than you. He may have had a poly fantasy, but if that was his intent he ought to have consulted you first. Now he gives the impresson that he used the confrontation as an argument to break up and to blame you for it.
 
How long to wait? You need to cool down in any case, and reassess who you are and what your purpose in life is. If meanwhile he does contact you, then perhaps the relationship may be redefined. If not, then there are other doms out there, plenty of them.

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RE: displeased owner - 9/22/2007 4:59:22 AM   
chellekitty


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Status: offline 		sometimes girls can be wankers too....

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RE: displeased owner - 9/22/2007 5:06:55 AM   
kittensmailbox


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Status: offline 		If the other sub was not talked about before hand then it sounds as if he does not care about your feelings... i have to agree with the other posts, get away from him...  You are worth so much more....

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RE: displeased owner - 9/22/2007 5:10:43 AM   
Rule


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ORIGINAL: mons
i now have special eye glasses they are thick but most important i can see i can write. and read again so . i hope my letter are so much better i am new person now thanks for the help some gave and wow i can see now Jane

Yes, this post is easier to read than previous posts, Mons. Well done.

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