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ChicagoSwitchMal -> Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 8:37:57 AM)
I’ve been with four signifigantly older women. The 1st was when I was 15 and she was 30. I’m not playing myself off as some teenage stud. In fact quite a number of the teenage boys in my neighborhood worked off some teenage angst in her apartment. She wasn’t really attractive. She was sickly anorexic. She had severe emotional problems manifested by crying or screaming in fear during sex. But hey, I was 15… that was pussy. At 15 years old isn’t that all that really matters? It was a ‘badge of honor’ and nothing more. Age has afforded me wisdom and, in retrospect I feel sorry for her and am sorry I cooperated with her mental illness. Technically I was raped but hey, I sure didn’t mind. (Edited to clarify that this was meant as a joke - I was refering to statutory rape). The next 3 were all married and just looking for a little excitement. The latest was 9 years ago (when I was 30 and she was 42). Each was intense, secret, and passionate lasting fairly long term. Each was ended by husbands that didn’t exactly appreciate my companionship to their wife. The last relationship truly hurt me. I’m talking that heart racing, floor pacing, obsessive thought kind of hurt that has you faking normalcy around everyone and takes weeks to go away. I deserved it though. Although the first 3 can be excused by the indiscretions of youth, I should have known better by 30. I had it coming. I swore off older women. They’ve been nothing but problems. Enter now who for anonymity purposes I will call Pam. This situation is different though. She’s not married (well, so she says now – I’ve been lied to about that twice). She’s 50 and looks it in terms of wrinkles. But she is beautiful and you can tell that she was drop dead gorgeous in her day. Her wrinkles are made sexy to me though by her life. A Polish refugee of Solidarity she left without any money or family. She worked odd jobs in a few communist countries until she found a program for refugees that brought her to the U.S. Landing in the U.S. with only a modest savings and not speaking the language she had a series of jobs eventually learning the lauguage, making a real living for herself and meeting her late husband. Or at least I’m told now that he’s ‘late’. They moved overseas until 3 years ago after he passed away. That when she came back here and only in the past few months started dating again. Her life story is what makes her wrinkles sexy to me. She’s not old to me. She’s weathered by experience and each line in her face tells a story. I’ve had my fair share of hardships. My life has not been easy by American standards. But it’s nothing that compares to what she’s been through. I am fascinated by her. Hence the reality check I had this weekend. I should have sworn off married women, not older women. I’m taking it slow with her. I have to be honest - there is the ‘badge of honor’ feeling I get thinking about being the 1st strange male to ‘go there’ in some 20 odd years. It is a turn on. But I also understand that, for her, having the 1st strange man in some 20 odd years might be intimidating. She has also voiced concerns that as she ages if I would be there 5 or 10 years from now. A point I can only respond with “we can’t know until 5 or 10 years from now.” I’m sort of in a holding pattern right now. I’m worried that all or part of her life’s story (including the part about being widowed) is a lie. I’m pretty sure she is not kinky but the subject hasn’t come up yet. If so that’s going to be a frustration for me for obvious reasons. I’m also worried that her concerns over the age difference will result in her deciding not to pursue a relationship with me. I don’t even know why I wrote this really. Think I just needed to get something off my chest. If you bothered reading to the end – thank you.

MasterKalif -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 8:43:11 AM)
eh....interesting story. I am confused though on your first "older" woman...was she the local prostitute since you and the other teenagers "worked off some teenage angst in her apartment"? And what do you mean you got raped? like she jumped on you or you got raped before all this? What mental illness did she have? Good luck with your Polish woman, Polish women are generally beautiful.

ChicagoSwitchMal -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 8:50:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterKalif eh....interesting story. I am confused though on your first "older" woman...was she the local prostitute since you and the other teenagers "worked off some teenage angst in her apartment"? And what do you mean you got raped? like she jumped on you or you got raped before all this? What mental illness did she have? Good luck with your Polish woman, Polish women are generally beautiful. No she was not a prostitute. We didn't pay. By "rape" I was sort of joking meaning "stautory rape". I don't know what mental illness she had nor can I authoritatively say she had one. But I think a 30 year old woman having sex with teenagers and crying or screaming during it is probably indicative of mental illness.

domiguy -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 8:51:08 AM)
Dating older women can be cool....You might suggest that she start smoking or take up some sort of motorized racing....Since they are older and there is a distinct chance that you might outlive them....It's fun to hide their remains in your bathtub or basement and collect their social security checks.

ChicagoSwitchMal -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 8:53:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy Dating older women can be cool....You might suggest that she start smoking or take up some sort of motorized racing....Since they are older and there is a distinct chance that you might outlive them....It's fun to hide their remains in your bathtub or basement and collect their social security checks. I had not considered that! I'll take it under advisement. [:D]

Level -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 8:55:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy Dating older women can be cool....You might suggest that she start smoking or take up some sort of motorized racing....Since they are older and there is a distinct chance that you might outlive them....It's fun to hide their remains in your bathtub or basement and collect their social security checks. DG, I can't imagine why Mod11 would ever contact you..... lmao......... [:D]

Level -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 8:56:47 AM)
Mal, if you and she hit it off, then enjoy one another.

Owner59 -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 9:07:42 AM)
I was heart broken by a woman,who is 6+ years older(a 10 yr. LTR).She is/was gorgeous.I still have dreams about her body.... But she could never believe that I thought she was attractive.and was very scared that "someday",I wouldn`t feel that way.(I know many very pretty women, who don`t think they`re attractive. Why is that?) That was 6 years ago,and when I run into her now,she just looks better and better.lol Is it me,or is she just blessed? Do we fall in love with a body,or with a soul?

Level -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 9:09:17 AM)
O, I agree, there are a number of older women that just floor me. Stunning, and so many of them have so many self-doubts. Kinda sad.

DesertRat -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 9:09:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ChicagoSwitchMal ...I think a 30 year old woman having sex with teenagers and crying or screaming during it is probably indicative of mental illness. Not necessarily. Crying and/or screaming during sex is very common...virtually universal...among women in their 30s. I thought everybody knew that. Bob

CuriousLord -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 9:13:50 AM)
Part of me wants to ask you why you said you were raped. (Edit: I read your comment mentioning that this part was a joke. That answers this.) Part of me wants to smack you for being "the other man" in not one, nor two, but three marriages. This inclination might be mitigated, in part, for each instance in which the relationships were open. But, all in all, it's a good story. Thanks for sharing.

ChicagoSwitchMal -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 9:15:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesertRat quote: ORIGINAL: ChicagoSwitchMal ...I think a 30 year old woman having sex with teenagers and crying or screaming during it is probably indicative of mental illness. Not necessarily. Crying and/or screaming during sex is very common...virtually universal...among women in their 30s. I thought everybody knew that. Bob Not like this man. I can't explain it better than that.

CuriousLord -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 9:18:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy Dating older women can be cool....You might suggest that she start smoking or take up some sort of motorized racing....Since they are older and there is a distinct chance that you might outlive them....It's fun to hide their remains in your bathtub or basement and collect their social security checks. DG, I can't imagine why Mod11 would ever contact you..... lmao......... [:D] Any decent moderator would've banned domiguy ages ago. Yet, despite a somewhat.. aggressive.. moderator, he hasn't been banned yet. Therefore, it's my working theory that Mod11 masturbates furiously to domiguy's posts. But, then again, what sane woman wouldn't?

ChicagoSwitchMal -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 9:19:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CuriousLord Part of me wants to ask you why you said you were raped. (Edit: I read your comment mentioning that this part was a joke. That answers this.) Part of me wants to smack you for being "the other man" in not one, nor two, but three marriages. This inclination might be mitigated, in part, for each instance in which the relationships were open. But, all in all, it's a good story. Thanks for sharing. They are mitigated a bit. Only one time did I know before hand she was married. There I was flat out wrong. On other occasion the subject just didn't come up until well into the relationship. On another occasion I was flat out lied to. On those two occasions feelings developed before I knew. However neither is complete justifified as I could and should have ended it once I did know. Which I did not. I accept my fault with that.

lionesque -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 9:24:51 AM)
I think you already answered your own question. I don't think your problem was with "older" women, but rather with "married" women. And if you do have a preference for older women, so what? I have a preference for younger men. Some people have a preference for other races, or certain heights, or certain body types. There is nothing wrong with that. I think in time all of your other questions will be resolved. Best of luck to you!

ChicagoSwitchMal -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 9:29:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Owner59 I was heart broken by a woman,who is 6+ years older(a 10 yr. LTR).She is/was gorgeous.I still have dreams about her body.... But she could never believe that I thought she was attractive.and was very scared that "someday",I wouldn`t feel that way.(I know many very pretty women, who don`t think they`re attractive. Why is that?) That was 6 years ago,and when I run into her now,she just looks better and better.lol Is it me,or is she just blessed? Do we fall in love with a body,or with a soul? You pegged it exactly. That's is what she is worried about.

CuriousLord -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 9:32:43 AM)
It must've been rough, to hear that those were married already. It sounds as though the second instance of this hit you pretty hard. I'm not sure if I'd even have done differently; perhaps, since I tend to be unusually prone to indignation which would lead to the necessary anger, and perhaps damage to my pride, to give it up. Then again, my first M/s relationship.. I found out the "slave" kept up with an old boyfriend. Technically, they never broke up.. just involved in a rather distant relationship. I had ordered her to break it off, after I found out, and had the.. probably deluded hope that she actually would, believing her subsquent lie to such an effect. This decision.. would likely find its way onto a list of the top ten decisions I regret making in my life. Actually, come to think of it, the utterly vast majority of decisions I regret are with regards to females in the context of a sexual relationship. Perhaps I'll come to make such an earnest reveiw, as you have, on it someday. For now, most of the memories tend to be buried as mistakes learned from, now to be forgotten. I somehow doubt that the forgetting will ever truly work, though.

ChicagoSwitchMal -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 9:35:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lionesque I think you already answered your own question. I don't think your problem was with "older" women, but rather with "married" women. And if you do have a preference for older women, so what? I have a preference for younger men. Some people have a preference for other races, or certain heights, or certain body types. There is nothing wrong with that. I think in time all of your other questions will be resolved. Best of luck to you! Actually I don't think it's a preference. I have dated thin, overweight, Black, White, Way younger than me, way older than me etc. Although I do have initial attraction responses (like tiny, young and Asian) I am also pretty freindly. The mind behind the body can make anyone sexy.

domiguy -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 9:43:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CuriousLord quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy Dating older women can be cool....You might suggest that she start smoking or take up some sort of motorized racing....Since they are older and there is a distinct chance that you might outlive them....It's fun to hide their remains in your bathtub or basement and collect their social security checks. DG, I can't imagine why Mod11 would ever contact you..... lmao......... [:D] Any decent moderator would've banned domiguy ages ago. Yet, despite a somewhat.. aggressive.. moderator, he hasn't been banned yet. Therefore, it's my working theory that Mod11 masturbates furiously to domiguy's posts. But, then again, what sane woman wouldn't? Hmmmmm what should we do today...Take over the world, of course! Many of my posts are rather benign...Like the one above...Does it break any of the guidelines of TOS?...I don't think so....I don't think Mod11 flips the bean to my posts...I think she somewhat tolerates me. I had been banned from CM for a couple of months awhile back...That period has been referred to as the "Age of loss" in the annals of CM lore...It was a sad and bleak time for all involved.

CuriousLord -> RE: Oh no. I’m falling for another older woman! (9/23/2007 9:54:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy I had been banned from CM for a couple of months awhile back...That period has been referred to as the "Age of loss" in the annals of CM lore...It was a sad and bleak time for all involved. I'm glad you decided to return. (Edit: The part after this was lame.)

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