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RE: Please help me understand - 9/27/2007 5:36:12 PM

julietsierra

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

It's just as likely this is some form of sanctimonious code for him not being ready to offer a collar - as further evidenced by him shifting the "blame" onto you.

Still, I'm cringing at the prospect that this is just some online thing and you've never even met?

Focus.

Hell, if someone wanted "a submissive to collar" I'd be steering clear of him too. I don't know... it's some silly thing about wanting to be wanted or desired for me - not just because I'm some generic submissive that can be found at Submissives R Us on the lower shelf (where all the generic brands always are). That's someone I'd say is not ready to offer a collar because in my view - in relation to what I'd be looking for in a dominant, he has no concept of what a collar is. In essence, he's not ready to collar.

By the same token, if a submissive is so hot to trot for a collar that she places the collar quest before the man she's serving, I'd be happy to say she's not ready - regardless if I'm another submissive or a dominant. Not ready can mean having priorities in the wrong place for a relationship someone is seeking - not just that they're sanctamonious and shifting blame.

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RE: Please help me understand - 9/30/2007 3:35:45 PM

serisa

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hi bitatruble
how did he make you earn it?. was there much testing and if so what type?
thanks

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RE: Please help me understand - 9/30/2007 3:53:47 PM

honestsub4real

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Chia is not here lol??? But to the OP, all I can say is for some a collar can tame a submissive/slave and give them the reassurance they need if needed. Not all would agree with this, but it can actually work wonders if R/T, knowing that you are bonded and that when you feel that collar, it will constantly remind you of that. Now I do not need to be reminded of that, but I am saying some do, and I say follow your heart.

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