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Another Strap on Q? - 9/25/2007 2:42:54 PM

livinincincy

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Hello A/all,
I am new to anal training and find myself enjoying it. The problem is that I still tend to "clamp down" on "things" and they don't slide so well. We have done plugs followed by small ones to big ones to "widen" me. Yet I still seem to just "clamp down" and not let a good #ucking occur. I know about trust and relaxing and all that- I need so clues on how to do this, as I am not doing it right.

I also always have to go to the ladies room when getting intruded. I can't pee for several minutes once I get to the toilet. I figure my prostate is swollen and not yet relaxed enough from its intruder to let me 'go'. I then pee like a race horse. I loose the "moment" so to speak in the bedroom and that is not good.

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RE: Another Strap on Q? - 9/25/2007 3:26:27 PM

LadyLynx

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well you may just have to keep plugging away. (sorry I couldn't help myself.) practice flexing your rectal muscles, periodically thruout the day. when you are at home, practice with a plug, may even leave it in for a while. Of course I could be just talking out of my ass on this one. **hehehe** maybe you are self conscious about it?

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RE: Another Strap on Q? - 9/25/2007 8:02:06 PM

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1st make sure your dom is useing LOTS of lub. For me now I fine it very easy to relax. But a few years ago I didnt. I think relaxing is the key.

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RE: Another Strap on Q? - 9/25/2007 9:09:28 PM

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Receiving anal stimulation may cause feelings of having to go to the bathroom more often than not, this is just a "feeling" that the stimulation causes and may take some getting used to. It can send you over the edge if you rhythmically or irregularly press on the prostate gland before or during ejaculation. It is even possible for men to orgasm through prostate stimulation alone.

The clamping down can equate to your body reacting to the stroking of your private parts just like the walls of a vagina clamping down on a cock, when you are about to cum but magnified 10 times because of the nerve ending in the rectum.

Have you tried taking a hot bath to unwind listening to blues? Try a relaxing massage prior to and leading up to penetration. Are you engaging in extended foreplay prior to strap-on play to get yourself and your Dom/Domme turned on and tuned in to your bodies? Wearing a butt-plug for extended periods of time might help as well. Best practice use plenty of lube, relax, enjoy the orgasms and did I say use lots of lube....

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RE: Another Strap on Q? - 9/26/2007 12:09:54 AM

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Urinate before you begin, I have the same issue and this seems to help.

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RE: Another Strap on Q? - 9/26/2007 4:10:43 AM

livinincincy

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quote:

ORIGINAL: unforegvn

Receiving anal stimulation may cause feelings of having to go to the bathroom more often than not, this is just a "feeling" that the stimulation causes and may take some getting used to. It can send you over the edge if you rhythmically or irregularly press on the prostate gland before or during ejaculation. It is even possible for men to orgasm through prostate stimulation alone.

The clamping down can equate to your body reacting to the stroking of your private parts just like the walls of a vagina clamping down on a cock, when you are about to cum but magnified 10 times because of the nerve ending in the rectum.

Have you tried taking a hot bath to unwind listening to blues? Try a relaxing massage prior to and leading up to penetration. Are you engaging in extended foreplay prior to strap-on play to get yourself and your Dom/Domme turned on and tuned in to your bodies? Wearing a butt-plug for extended periods of time might help as well. Best practice use plenty of lube, relax, enjoy the orgasms and did I say use lots of lube....

Thankyou for your "input"...

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RE: Another Strap on Q? - 9/26/2007 8:07:06 AM

SubJordanTyler

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Relaxing is key, but it is easier said that done. Probably the best way I've found is to wear a buttplug for as long as you can - hours at a time. It will be uncomfortable at first, but once your ass adapts to it inside you, you should be fine. One other thing I've had done to me is to be maually stretched - which can be done with a speculum or hands. Now this will hurt - it's like going through physical therapy when your muscles are stretched in order to be functional again. It's a similar idea, as you're trying to stretch your anus to open up more. If you can get past the pain, as you have to push your limits, you'll open up a lot more. Both of these worked well for me. I suppose the fists and baseball bats I can take up there speak to that!!

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