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RE: Biting and Punishment??? - 10/8/2007 11:09:52 PM

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well for those who want to know... i spent a week on my hands and knees... i was muzzled and chain... i was treated like a dog. it was painful and humiliating... lesson learnt!!! she did not allow me to speak and most of her days she spent ignoring me til i cried.. then she would pat me on the head.. say its okay pet... and walk away... i dont ever think i will do that again... i am so glad she did not kick me to the curb.. although she did make me sleep on the cold kitchen floor for the nights

Thanks for all your help everyone

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RE: Biting and Punishment??? - 10/8/2007 11:53:05 PM

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Wow, I was not expecting this thread to be like this. I'm a Dom with a Maso side and enjoy being biten at times, yes to the point of breaking my skin and making me bleed. However, I would not enjoy being biten because somebody was unhappy or upset. That's actually abusive in the bad way and was because you were acting out.

I honestly don't know what I would do. Punishment would be in order. However, I would be questioning a lot of things about the person that bit me and the relationship itself.

The most anybody has done to me while acting out of frustration, has been to have my chest pounded upon with her fists, and once I literally had somebody throw an ash tray at me. However, these were rare exceptions and understandable considering the levels of stress at work.

I honestly can not make a judgement call fully on this one. I don't know a damn thing about you, the kind of stress (if any) going on in your life that made you loose your mind like this to bite anybody, let alone let it be your mistress.

I know personally, it would be a challenge for me to not punish somebody for such an offense. I probally would have bitched slapped you on the spot when it happened. Been so pissed that I would have left the room to cool down and take care of the wound. After about 15 minutes reappear and be asking you some serious questions, giving you a lecture. I would probally tell you to wait, or go to some room or whatever else to allow time to cool down a little more. Because it would not be pretty for me to dish out phyiscal punishment, while being in a pissed off state of mind.

What the fuck were you thinking girl? I know I have very little tolerence for somebody acting out like you did. It actually would make me question my trust in you, if there were not some exceptional stressful circumstances going on. Such as loved one dieing in the hospital and having an argument over visiting them? The landlord is kicking your guys ass out tomorrow if you don't make the rent? A deep resentment of some kind you are holding against your mistress for something? It's not normal nor acceptable what you did.

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RE: Biting and Punishment??? - 10/8/2007 11:58:15 PM

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Because she "pushed" you??

ANYONE, no matter what the provocation, showing violence towards me would be out the door on the end of my boot, permanantly.

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RE: Biting and Punishment??? - 10/9/2007 12:12:24 AM

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Hmm...my advice is talk to her and ask for some sort of punishment. Since you did bite her of your own free will, ( even in anger we make our decisions), perhaps she is waiting for you to admit that what you did was completely innapropriate?

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RE: Biting and Punishment??? - 10/9/2007 12:29:22 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: collarsubkitty

well for those who want to know... i spent a week on my hands and knees... i was muzzled and chain... i was treated like a dog. it was painful and humiliating... lesson learnt!!! she did not allow me to speak and most of her days she spent ignoring me til i cried.. then she would pat me on the head.. say its okay pet... and walk away... i dont ever think i will do that again... i am so glad she did not kick me to the curb.. although she did make me sleep on the cold kitchen floor for the nights

Thanks for all your help everyone

Let me quess, you got so caught up and sick of the role of play a dog, that you actually bit like a dog? LOL.. If you were in the role of playing a dog when you did, I probally would have slapped your face, Yelled at you. Called you bad dog, made you go lay down. Bitch about you biting me, go clean my wound. Them came back while you were still and silent, had a conversation with myself about what to do with you.   Let's see should I muzzle you... what should I do with such a BAD DOG! BAD DOG!

Ok, this kinda of makes sense to me because you bit like a dog. Some people put their Animals down (to sleep) for such behavior you know. Some people have uncoditional Love for their pets, even owners can push a pet too far or catch their pet on a bad day. Where the occasional bite happens.   Welcome to the reality of having had your limits pressed, pushed and tested.   Honestly, you and your mistress need to talk about this matter. It's really between you two, because I suspect she was aware she was pushing you a little hard. If her goal was to see when you would reach a breaking point, she might feel in part responsible for what happened dare she admit it or not.   Honestly, I had been pushing somebody for week straight like that with the intentions of finding a breaking point.   I'm used to seeing the breaking point unfold a little differently and could tell when I got too close to it.

It's up to your mistress how she wants to deal with this matter. The best we can do is quess at it, and play what if based on own experiences and perspectives and how we would deal with things. Again, BAD DOG.... however Dog do and can Act out against their owners when they are not feeling loved or are feeling mistreated.   Engaging in Scene play for a prolong period such as week straight can have strange effects, when somebody has never done that before.    It takes a lot of engery to do long running scenes.

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RE: Biting and Punishment??? - 10/9/2007 11:06:24 PM

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Yes i was treated much like a dog... and we did discuss it and it ends up that we were both in bad moods for the day and well i was frustrated and she said she thought she deserved it but then it was bad enough she still had to punish me

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RE: Biting and Punishment??? - 10/10/2007 1:04:06 AM

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After dealing with biting brats at work recently ... I have to ask two things (and no, I don't give a flying fuck about punishment, why the hell you turned into a 3 year old with a temper, etc.)

Have you both been tested for HIV and Hep C? If yes, have you had any fluid exchange with anyone else (anyone at all), or gotten tattoos/peircings since being tested?

If the answer to the first question is no, or the answer to the second question is yes, then you both need to be tested ASAP. If the fluid exchange/tat/piercing has happened in the last 6 months, then you need to be tested again in 6 months.

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RE: Biting and Punishment??? - 10/10/2007 7:54:06 AM

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Personally, I can't get over the fact that this was done in anger. That alone to Me is huge. It has nothing at all to do with if the receiver (the Mistress in question) actually has a touch of maso in her. Pain based in fun is one thing. What this describes is something else.

What would I do about it? That's actually a very complex question. First I would have to consider just how unpredictable the sub was when angered. In all honesty, I'm not going to jeopradize Myself if there is a potential of a repeat instance. All of Mine have been fully aware from the beginning that lashing out to physically cause harm is a deal breaker from the beginning. How would One know it wouldn't escalate the next time the sub was angered or pushed? I'm not willing to take those kinds of chances.

If I didn't outright release the sub, there would be a lot of work ahead. The dynamic would drastically change from that moment forward. There would be a lot to rebuild. There would be core issues to work on. I might even spend some time Myself, analizing the quality of Dominant that I am. A specific punishment would have to be associated directly to the action, what brought the anger, and methods related to it not happening again, in any form.

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RE: Biting and Punishment??? - 10/10/2007 8:23:51 AM

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Well, if that was as the OP suggests, a reaction in anger, I would let you go, and then punish MYSELF for being such a halfwit judge of character....OK, maybe I wouldnt punish myself...maybe I would get some domme to do it instead - but the principle is the same damn it!

I would want anyone I was with to play nicely and try and do as I asked, one of the rules would be "do not try to kill your dom, even if you are really really angry - try and talk, maybe throw some crockery or go out and punch a tree, but dont try to bite me to death!". I am gonna have it as a specific rule. Look on the brightside, you never know OP, you might actually have saved my life, as a side effect of your malice.

Now go and get some counselling before you kill.

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