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RE: talking to an owned sub online - 7/24/2005 5:05:34 AM

LdyAuburn

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Probable a bit tactless, if you did, refer to them as slave. Having said, was she identified as owned and unable to have emails? So then we have tactless and unable to read, then you probable deserved the block email. Tactless, well as Beach says chalk it up to experience and probable read the whole profile and see if any restrictions

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RE: talking to an owned sub online - 7/24/2005 9:33:38 AM

MasterTemujin

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It seems there was a lack of protocol. I see no problem with speaking with an owned sub/slave in an open chat room. But to private message an owned sub/slave without permission would show poor form.

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RE: talking to an owned sub online - 7/24/2005 9:48:30 AM

mistresscece2u

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I would have to agree with the majority. She overreacted. Unless she was acting under the direction of her Dom. I know a slave that gets extremely upset if she is called a sub or if anyone who is a sub gets called a slave. she is owned and W/we communicate quite often and her Owner is aware of the communications. Personally I have never had an issue with anyone communicating with anyone I have collared. My subbies know when it gets out of line.

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RE: talking to an owned sub online - 7/24/2005 9:52:54 AM

Niran

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So here is a question-What do you do when you get a message from a sub, who insists on calling you Mistress, Goddess, etc. I have repeatedly asked him to call me Niran. I am not his mistress, he is not my sub. I have pointed these things out to him, requested that he just call me Niran, and he has now gone to calling me "Milady Niran" It bothers me. What would be the appropriate action? In my last email to him, I said "I have requested several times that you address me as Niran, and ONLY Niran. If you cannot do this, I cannot continue conversation." Yes, it was harsh, but this is about my 6th request to not be called Mistress, Madam, Goddess, Milady, and so on. Was I rude?

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RE: talking to an owned sub online - 7/24/2005 10:22:53 AM

SweetDommes

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totally appropriate. My opinion is that if a "submissive" cannot follow instructions - especially instructions that have been given multiple times - then they aren't very submissive.

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RE: talking to an owned sub online - 7/24/2005 12:09:36 PM

MstrHellsFury

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this is in response to smilezz answer to how she would conduct herself with this situation...you do the same as mine...friendships and ideas get passed along all the time...if however it becomes clear the other person is just being an ass...say your piece and move on...

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RE: talking to an owned sub online - 7/25/2005 10:53:32 AM

Phoenixandnika

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Some are trained to adress all domants wiether with a sir name weither it be Master, Mistress, Sir, Maam, MiLady, Lady, ect. it is simply protocal for some it is not meant as an insult. Myself I was trained as such expecially within lifestyle forums. I am to adress Dominates as such until they proof otherwise or my Master deems other wise. The acception to that rule is if they instruct me to call them simply by name. Ignoring that would simply be also considered rude and lack of protocal. If someoen can not follow simple protocal YOU set forth how will they carry out harder tasks that you set forth? I you luck .

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RE: talking to an owned sub online - 7/25/2005 1:04:50 PM

spliffsmum

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As an owned subbie but freely allowed to chat and play as long as my Master's property is respected and not damaged it is encumbant (sp?) on me to make this clear both on my profile - down because I've going to be away for the summer - and in any correspondence. Either you are free or not, end of.

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RE: talking to an owned sub online - 8/2/2005 1:44:17 PM

CelticPrince

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kir57,

you have already received a ton of answers to this minor problem. If she reads the boards, she knows that you regret the slip.

To be sure, to infer that she was a slave might well have been an insult to her, but she also over reacted given that it was within a D/s environment, she should have simply in a clear manner alert you to her proper status.

In essence, in the future be cautious with the use of your terms.

CP

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