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Drama? - 9/28/2007 11:48:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		So, I've had a few problems in the past few days that one might refer to as "drama". In short, I went to the ER with a painful ovarian cyst, when being discharged fell in the bathroom and was readmitted...it's more detailed than that, but that's the gist of it.
 
I'm all cozy in bed now with my puppies snoring near my grapefruit sized ankle and watching TV...life is back to normal. Well, I'd be reading, but the painkillers keep me from being able to concentrate all that well.
 
But, I digress...here's my question:
 
We've all met people or have people in our lives that have catastrophes or "drama" every other second. Do you think this is something that they bring on themselves with poor decision making or are they just natural magnets for various issues? Is it something that makes those folks feel more important, or just victimized?

I pose this question, because the second half of my drama could have been avoided by not going to the bathroom unattended while all doped up...bad decision making...my fault. Honestly, this sort of thing is very unusual for me, and I'm uncomfortable with all of the weird attention that it brings...but it does bring attention...what do you guys think? Is this something that some people do on purpose, or something entirely different...?

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RE: Drama? - 9/28/2007 11:53:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know about the drama issue, but i hope you recover quickly.

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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 12:00:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		spanklette, in your case it sounds like it was an accident, and since you were on meds. maybe those around you should have been paying more attention to what you were doing ie going pee pee by yourself
anyway, back to your question.....  YES!!!!  I do believe some bring attention to themselves via "drama".  They may not receive the attention they want, so what the heck.... they create a little drama and the spot light turns on them.  I for one would much prefer the unsolicited attention. 

I hope you heal quickly.
 


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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 12:08:57 AM   
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I pose this question, because the second half of my drama could have been avoided by not going to the bathroom unattended while all doped up...bad decision making...my fault. 


I think you should be kinder to yourself.  You were given ‘dope’ which made you ‘dopey’.  It’s understandable that you had fuzzy thought processes which led to your accident.  I hope you heal quickly!


quote:

  We've all met people or have people in our lives that have catastrophes or "drama" every other second. Do you think this is something that they bring on themselves with poor decision making or are they just natural magnets for various issues? Is it something that makes those folks feel more important, or just victimized?


 
Yes, I believe there are folks who seek out drama.  There are folks who create drama out of events that could have been quietly resolved if ignored.  They don’t want peace and quiet, they want Lights! Cameras! Attention!


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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 12:09:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		First, i'd like to say that i hope you are feeling better and that you allow yourself time to heal properly.
 
Now, to address the drama issue, as a former "drama queen", you hit the nail right on the head. It is ALL about attention, whether positive or negative.
 
my life was always one big drama, one catastrophe after another. i now know that i created or could have prevented 98% of it. But, having had a pretty crappy childhood, i was starved for attention. i learned that if i wanted a need met, i had to do something or have something HUGE happen to me, so people would notice.
 
It has taken a long time, introspection and therapy to learn that, for the most part, all i have to do to get a need met is ask. Imagine that.
 
hope this helps,
 
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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 12:32:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you all for wishing me quick healing...I only really expounded on it because then the question always turns around to what exactly happened. I'm doing fine, but I think Daddy is the one who is the worse for the wear. I think I took a few years off of His life. lol
 
I guess the thought really came up because of all of the attention and how I really wanted it to just go away!
 
Thanks for all of your thoughts...it was kind of like seeing through new eyes. I feel Iike I understand what it feels like to be the center of that kind of melodramatic attention. Although, I did win some pitiful points with Daddy.

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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 12:49:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, it was drama, your medical issue was fixed?? a cyst? yet it was outpatient? ok, then get out and move on.  You absorbed time, space and funding that could have be used for persons who were actually ill. Any doctor who put you on actual drugs that would give you possible side effects of such quick acting dizzyness would have insisted you stay or have someone with you. Knock off the hypochondria.  If that wasn't enough you had to come here to brag about your possible drama-causing girly-faints? gosh..golly, I'd toss ya from the hospital bathroom,, dizzy or not. drama for pity? ummm you cost people (a government) money.

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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 1:01:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with those who say that there exists types who, possibly unconciously, create "drama" to get  attention.
Dont our old friends the "trick cyclists call it Munchausan's Syndrome by Proxy, something like that. 

As to whether you are a drama queen, only you really know.
You do know dont you ? lol

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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 1:21:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you for diagnosing my pixels. When I receive the bill, I'll be sure to show them your post that some mysterious government funds are supposed to pay for my treatment. And, while we're on the subject, I have insurance...but that is not required to have medical treatment in this country the last time I checked.
 
Because I have the time...as I'm laid up, I'll give you a nice long explanation. I had no idea that I had an ovarian cyst, as I've never had one...and waking up at two in the morning with stabbing pains in my lower abdomen gave me a clue that I should seek medical treatment. For all I knew it could have been my appendix. I've never had that happen either. To be honest, I don't spend much time in the doctor's office or hospitals. It was shocking and scary.
 
As for the medicine, it was IV Promethazine and Dilaudid...I was a smidge woozy even after the IV was removed. I was feeling much better because of the medicines although I became quickly nauseous in the bathroom and macked it on the floor. I don't remember any "girly faints", just twisting my ankle and ending up on the floor. I'm happy to hear that the torn ligaments in my ankle requiring arthroscopic surgery on Monday is hypochondria...I'll call and cancel the appointment immediately. Geez, I could have gone through all of that for nothing.
 
The only reason I even explained at all in the OP, is that when asking questions responders generally want more details as to the motive for the question when trying to answer. It's just one of those things here on CM that I've grown accustomed to.
 
I'm just curious why you rushed to call me a hypochondriac? That was kind of the point of my post, I suppose, though. This sort of attention is alien and uncomfortable to me so I was wondering why people would intentionally seek it out. It gave me a new respect for those who I label "drama queens". There are some people who I immediately write off, but after this experience it made me do a double take...as in, maybe they aren't looking for that type of attention at all.

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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 1:23:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		Nope...I think I'm actually allergic to drama. Although, that might be a tad dramatic.

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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 1:31:17 AM   
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I'm just curious why you rushed to call me a hypochondriac?


Obviously because he's an ass.  Sorry you're not feeling well, it's quite obvious it's in no way your fault and no you aren't a drama queen for being human.  Hope you're feeling better soon.
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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 1:45:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		Honestly, I'm feeling pretty good. But, thank you for the well wishes. Mostly, it was more scary than painful...but thank you again.
 
I wasn't really questioning whether I was a drama queen, just the motivations for those who I tend to think are drama hounds. But thanks for the timely support.

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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 1:51:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		There may be people that are in such a need of attention that the universe responds to it and causes accidents to happen to them. Such people are in a negative spiritual loop.

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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 1:52:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		Kind of a Karmic supply and demand?

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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 2:12:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think the difference between drama queens and those who just want to talk about something stressful that they've just been through, is the frequency of the occurances.  With drama whores, it's usually habitual.  There's ALWAYS some tragedy going on either in their lives, or in the lives of someone close to them.

My ex mother in law comes to mind.  Always but always she was whining about some new ache or pain or injury, or 'lump' she found,  and most often the symptoms were either completely manufactured or much more mild than what she was portraying.  And next time you'd see her, there would be no more mention of that "cancerous tumor" or that torn shoulder ligament etc etc.  I don't know if she was actually a hypocondriac, or just someone who always wanted the spotlight over her latest fictional tragedy, but it grew to be very tiresome to humor her all the time.  Thank god, I don't have to deal with that anymore.  

On the boards, you can just skip over types who seem this way, but if you know one of these types in real life, it can be rather draining to have to deal with them all the time.  

anyway....I'm glad you're on the mend, Spanklette.  :)

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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 2:12:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes. Such people need to have their psychological / spiritual problems analysed and to be counseled how to resolve their problem.
 
On the other hand being accident prone may also have a physiological cause, or result from medical treatment.
 
In your case I would start to wonder about the spiritual cause of what happened to you. Can it be that you were stressed out and simply wanted some rest?

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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 2:31:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		Actually, I think it was simple clumsiness and not realizing just how woozy I was. I'm fairly sure there isn't any underlying cause. I have way to many enjoyable ways to reduce stress and get some rest.

Thanks, Marie...that's exactly what I'm talking about. The attention I got wasn't something that I would want repeated...certainly not attention that I would go out of my way to get. I have an Aunt who sounds a lot like your Mother in Law. My Aunt is one of those people who hears about a disease or injury and she's suddenly got it. But, when she actually hurt herself in a nasty fall, no one realized how serious it was until much later. We all felt so guilty for just going through the sympathetic motions when she was actually hurt...Yikes! But, she's back at it...every disease in the book...if you asked her she'd tell you her life expectancy could be counted on a stopwatch.

I guess I just don't understand the motivation for making stuff up or making things that are minor seem grandiose...although, there is the old adage "making a mountain out of a molehill" so I guess it's not all that new.
 
See, I always thought I understood the need for attention with the drama and the hypochondria...but after experiencing this, I really don't understand. The nature of the attention is not something that I would strive to repeat. I don't know if I'm being clear...but this experience really changed my view of that sort of behavior.  

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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 2:47:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		Going to the ER because you're having strange, new & excruciating pain is not seeking drama.. it is seeking help.
Tipping over and kerthumping because of meds is not seeking drama.. it is losing your balance.

Try not to worry about the drama bit and just let your body heal okies? I mean gee you don't want to waste that 'government care' now do you? Heh.

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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 5:09:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hope you're feeling better and just a note...you most definitely are not one of the dramatic ones here.
As for your question, I think there are definitely people who have drama follow them wwherever they go.  Whether or not it's by choice or just a result of bad choices and never learning from them probably epends on the person.  I believe that there are people who just don't have common sense in this world and find themselves in viscious cycles of repeating mistakes instead of being able to step back, analyze what occurred and then make rational decisions that will lead to a different outcome on the next go around.

Yes...that was long run on sentences that just rambled and rambled.  Not enough coffee yet.

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RE: Drama? - 9/29/2007 7:14:14 AM   
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I agree with those who say that there exists types who, possibly unconciously, create "drama" to get  attention.
Dont our old friends the "trick cyclists call it Munchausan's Syndrome by Proxy, something like that. 

As to whether you are a drama queen, only you really know.
You do know dont you ? lol


Just for the record, Munchausen's Syndrome is when you purposely do things to yourself to make yourself sick or injured, usually to get attention, especially of the medical kind.  By Proxy is when you do things to someone else to make them sick or injured, many times done by a parent to a child, because the parent still enjoys being the center of attention as the parent of a sick or injured child. 

It's definitely a very perverse and sick thing to do, especially to your own child, but it's actually not that  uncommon.   Not so long ago, I worked with a women who drew her child's blood at home and then contaminated it to throw the results off, then had him rushed to the emergency room and put through a huge battery of tests.  Fully knowing the results were going to be horribly abnormal, she still managed to have a total breakdown and got excused from work.  (I was actually working that shift with her.)

For the OP, yes, there are people out there who purposely cause drama, and there are those whom shit just seems to happen to :)

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